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writes:We met on a dating website 7 months ago and have been meeting and chatting in a regular basis but never more than that. Few weeks ago he was very sweet, more than usual, and I thought things were getting better. Then he disappeared from the chat, I thought he met someone else serious. I texted and we made plans to meet. He flaked. Since then he has been ignoring my texts (I don't send desperate messages, just one message every 3 days). Now I stopped. Feeling miserable because I lost the love of my life, he is everything I ever wanted. I dont want to stalk him and I never told him about my feelings but I guess he knows it. Now I am stuck without life, cant even sleep or eat. What else can I do besides waiting for him? I cannot move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the answers. I do know him in person but I think that it was not enough and I created a wrong image of him. I just dont understand the reason he was being so nice lately, and if he does have a g/f why he can't tell me so can I move on? I will wait couple of more days and see if something changed or not. Thanks again!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 September 2011):
 I'm unclear. Have you met him in person, or have you only been "meeting" him in chat rooms online? Have you never met him in person??
It's really ridiculously easy to be any sort of person you want on the internet. It sounds a lot like he has a girlfriend or wife who just discovered his extracurricular activities and has just lowered the boom on him. That's usually the number one reason a guy will flake out and completely disappear without so much as a goodbye.
The other reason he might have flaked out on your and disappeared might possibly be that what he portrayed to you on the internet isn't the real him. He might look different, smell different and is different from what you saw of him. Did you webcam with him? Did you talk to him live and in person so that you know what he looks like beyond a still shot? Did you see his Facebook account and friends? Did you do some checking up on him to verify his stories?
Sounds a lot more like he has a wife or girlfriend.
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reader, cheers  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 That's Life. You need to be careful, know his character, personalities before you can put TRUST on him. Learn from here.
Pls carry on your normal life. See different picture and social more. pls do it for yourself
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (30 September 2011):
 best to just wait on him for a set amount of time you feel comfortable with . if he is ignoring your attempt.s to get in touch with him , when you do hear from him you deserve an explanation from him. how much do you know of him. could he be married? do you know were he lives? set a certain amount of time to hear from him. an amount of time you are comfortable with ,then try to contact or see him. do not put your life on hold forever . i hope it works out for you. P.S. we cant make someone respond to us but we can show them we care about them.
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