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writes:My husbands high school ex girlfriend, that he reconnected with through facebook, sent him a package in the mail with old love letters and old pictures. He did tell me that she was gonna send them but he had to because ive got the only mail key to get the mail. I didnt like it! I thought it was kinda weird, crazy and unappropriate because, shes married too. Anyways, she did sent it, but she sent it from her employers, as if the company was sending it, not her! Why would she do that! I thought that was fishy! I was lookin for her name on a package at least! Well that was smart! It passed right through me! I thought it was more junk mail! I only knew it when I had told my husband that his package hadnt arrived yet. Then he tells me, oh ya it did ive got it already. Wtf! I got pissed! I told him, you knew how she was gonna send it, you didnt open it in front of me either, now Ill never know what was really in there, and I bet her husband doesnt even know she was sending you a secret package! Am I crazy? Is it just me? Like he told me. Over reacting? The whole thing is just weird, suspicious to me. I thought the way she sent it, that he never opened it in front of me, he talked to her on fb,( on the phone too am sure) its all to fishy, and hes feeding me BS to cover itHe also had a womans phone number (a co worker) hidden on his cell under a mans name. I found out one night only because I came home early from going out with my friends (i got home at 12:30) because it was my birthday. He thought I was gonna be out late probably. Anyhoo, when I got home he wasnt there, but his car was, so obviously someone picked him up. I called, txt, no answer. I went out to look for him, 20min later my daughter calls to tell me daddys hme. I went back home, he was laying in bed pretending to be asleep. Thats when I pushed redial to a mans name, last person talked to, but a womans voice mail answered! I knew who it was, I met her twice. A co worker. She had picked him up, did, went, who knows where, and brought him back hme. We fought. He said he did it to protect me, that she was calling him alot and he didnt want me to freak out, so thats why he hid it. Hummmm. Ya! Am not stupid. But of course, nothing happened. She was the designated driver that picked him up, and brought him back home. Sounds like BS to me! Oh ya. I called her, asked her, and a week later she quits. Humm. He had an affair! Am sure of it. He says no of course
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Sounds like your hubby is playing you... and you don't seem to know how to put the kybosh on things that he is doing. I suggest that you build up a spine, tell him you know what he's up to.... and tell him that he has a choice: either cease and spend a pleasant life with you... OR, continue what he's up to and live through the HELL that you will visit upon him.....
Good luck....
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reader, cheers  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Good job! You already done a good solutions to call coworker(under man's name) and sort it up.
Regard the packages, pls ask him to SHARE it. as there's no secret in the fammily & everyone is sharing.I respect you and i want you do the same things. Can you do that?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Yes he had an affair and your marriage is in trouble.
You have what I call a parallel marriage. You do your own thing and he does his because you don't really do things together. I mean, why can't he be in your birthday party? Why are you still married?
The next step is to figure out if you still want to be with him, work out issues together. Not only fix problems, but make it better than before.
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (11 September 2011):
You're suspicion is justified. Reality of it is there may not be any concrete evidence currently but the hold situation smells of fish. Do what you have to but don't confront him anymore. Allow him to get comfortable and get a covert security camera that looks like a teddy bear or alarm clock. And get another camera for outdoors. Do not tell him you're getting cameras, youll unravel the plan. Use the security cameras to check on ur home while you're out. Now you'll be able to go for days without actually questioning him. Even put a tracking device on his car. You have the right to know what ur husband is doing. And you have the right to extract information by any means necessary. If a month goes by and no suspicious cars come by while ur not at home, or no frequent visits to an address unknown to u picked up by ur tracking device or no conversations in the bedroom on his cell phone talking sexy while ur away from the house then I would definitely return all the security devices and take my husband out. But definitely drop the issue. Amazon got great security cameras and tracking devices. Don't be a victim of not knowing. Do what u must. If it turns out as nothing then well that's good. Best wishes
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