I feel that she wants me as a boyfriend and we were just supposed to be having fun.
Q. I have been having some 'fun' with a co-worker we discussed it before starting and she said she was cool just getting together now and then but all we do is have a kiss and hand job for me and I finger her, she wont go any further and I have begged ...
A. 15 January 2010: Ok, let me get this straight.
You want to have sex with her, take her virginity, yet you dont want to be her boyfriend?
Do you not think that is a tiny bit selfish on your part?
If she is the same age as you, and she is still a virgin, t... (read in full...)
I've slept with one person, and been with him for 3 years. Yet I think I have herpes!
Q. Hey everybody. Im seventeen years old and going through a tough time. About two years ago me an my boyfriend of 3 years slept with each other for the first time, and have been sleeping together since, at first using condoms and then after a...
A. 11 January 2010: Book yourself a Doctors appointment ASAP.
If you are 17, then you are plenty old enough to go to the Doctors on your own, without telling your Mother.
This needs to be cleared up. Also, if it does turn out to be an STI, and you have not tou... (read in full...)
Understanding low self esteem and dating a best friend of 12 years who suffers from it
Q. I am looking for some opinions on low self esteem and dating. My best friend of 12 years has very low self esteem and not suffering from it myself, I find it hard to understand how she feels. I looked on the internet and found a comment that an ...
A. 11 January 2010: I just saw your question, and I have to answer it.
I totally understand how you are feeling, because I am in exactly the same situation, except that I am the girl. I suffer from very bad self esteem, mainly due to the insecurities I have about gu... (read in full...)
Am I being a selfish teenager, or is it my sick mother who needs to change?
Q. Hello. I'm looking for some objective advice. I am in my third year at university and I was living at home with my mum and sister. I had a boyfriend who used to stay over a lot but my mum didn't really like it, partly because he was unemployed. ...
A. 9 January 2010: I read this a couple of times, and to be honest it sounds like you are a spoilt brat who needs to grow up!
Your mother has obviously bent over backwards to help you and support you, buying you things, helping you out, even when SHE has lost her... (read in full...)
Can you get an abortion pill at 14?
Q. hello, i havent started my period because i am just 14 but 4 weeks ago i lost my virginity and i bled quiet heavily afterwards, we didnt have a condom on and i went and got the morning after pill 68 hours later and i told my doctor i had started ...
A. 9 January 2010: I really think you need to talk to your Mum about this. If you are mature enough to have sex, then you are grown up enough to deal with the consequences.
As you took the morning after pill, this should have stopped you getting pregnant. HOWEVER,... (read in full...)
He's dating me, but he's engaged, what would you do?
Q. hey, im a 16 year old girl really need some advice... i recently got a job on weekends and at my interview met a boy who is now 21. ive been working for 2 months now and weve become better friends over this time, he was always helping me out an...
A. 7 January 2010: Ok, I take it from your response that you didnt actually want honest advice, you wanted someone to tell you to keep doing it no matter the consequences?
At 16 you are young, and you are inexperienced. I know you think you know everything, and all ... (read in full...)
He's dating me, but he's engaged, what would you do?
Q. hey, im a 16 year old girl really need some advice... i recently got a job on weekends and at my interview met a boy who is now 21. ive been working for 2 months now and weve become better friends over this time, he was always helping me out an...
A. 7 January 2010: He is using you.
Regardless of age gap (although I do think he is too old for you), any man who cheats on a fiancee is BIG trouble.
He sees you as an easy target, someone he can have a bit of a fling with (I do hope you havent slept with him y... (read in full...)
It hurts my girlfriend when we have sex in the missionary position, what other positions can we try?
Q. my girlfriend told me I hurt her when we missionary what shall I do, different position?...
A. 6 January 2010: Sorry to throw a spanner in the works here, but have you thought that she may just not be ready to have sex?
Emotionally, physically and mentally she may not be ready to be part of a sexual relationship. This may be a symptom of a much more imp... (read in full...)
I want to add my teacher to Facebook!
Q. I tried to add a teacher that I think I love and I mean honestly love on facebook last year and he declined because he obviously wasn't allowed, but I didn't know that teachers werent allowed to accept students on the site, at the time. He said he ...
A. 5 January 2010: I know you think you love this man, but honestly you dont.
He is a teacher, and in a position of trust. Regardless of if he is a teacher at your school, a supply, or a teacher somewhere else, if he befriended you on facebook, as a former or curre... (read in full...)
Teenager worrying about sex for the first time
Q. ok. i'm a 14 year old girl and ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. He's already had sex with his ex partner so it seems like he's expecting it from me. I want to but im freaked out because im a virgin and i don't know what he expects a girl ...
A. 3 January 2010: Well Done! I am very proud of you! That is a very mature and grown up decision.
Take Care xx... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 3 January 2010: I really am concerned for you. You are still very young, and you are so obviously not ready for sex. I really hope you do not do something which you later end up regretting.
The fact that you do not know anything about the contraceptive pill rin... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 2 January 2010: OK, I assume from this answer that you are still going to have sex, regardless of what we tell you?
I think you should be more concerned about getting on the contraceptive pill, than whether it will hurt or not.
Unplanned, unprotected sex ... (read in full...)
Teenager worrying about sex for the first time
Q. ok. i'm a 14 year old girl and ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. He's already had sex with his ex partner so it seems like he's expecting it from me. I want to but im freaked out because im a virgin and i don't know what he expects a girl ...
A. 2 January 2010: You have only been dating 3 months? This is way too soon to be considering sex with anyone!
Apart from the fact that you are underage, you need to be in a stable commited relationship before you consider having sex with someone. It doesnt matter a... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 2 January 2010: Also I agree with Anna.m - 4 months of dating is nowhere near long enough to consider being intimate with a boy, especially as you are so young.
Teenage boys only want one thing, and that is sex, they dont care how they get it, but thats all they... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 2 January 2010: It can happen at any age, however, there are no guarantees. Some girls may break their hymens thru excessive strenuous activities such as horseriding or gymnastics, others may do these activities and still remain intact. Some girls may even have to ... (read in full...)
Teenage girl worried about sex for the first time....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 1. I am a 14 year old girl and have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months. We havent had sex and are both still virgins. He has fingered me but I havent d...
A. 2 January 2010: Firstly, you are in the UK, where the LEGAL age of consent is 16. So ANY sex under 16 is ILLEGAL. You both could get into trouble.
As you are 14, you can therefore NOT consent to any sexual act. That includes, fingering, oral, blow jobs, hand job... (read in full...)
A sex sore?
Q. My boyfriend and i are sexual active regularly. Two days ago, he developed a sore, red and bumpy rash on the head of his penis, but nowhere else on his penis. it is apparantly sore to touch, its got worse in the past two days- i suggested it was ...
A. 1 January 2010: I think you need to tell him to go and see the Doctor. Men are notoriously rubbish about going to the Dr, but in this case, if he leaves it too long, it may get nasty and he wouldnt want that happening to his pride and joy.
We cannot give medical ... (read in full...)
How should I suggest my girlfriend have her nipples pierced?
Q. I think pierced nipples are really sexy and I want my girlfriend to get hers done. How should I bring it up? She was going to get her nose pierced a while back but decided not to because her employers would have frowned on it. We've been together ...
A. 29 December 2009: Nose piercing is very different to nipple piercing!!!
You say "hers" does this mean both of them or just one? I think piercings are something that are very much down to the personal taste, and while someone may be ok with having their ears or ... (read in full...)
I just started birth control and haven't had my period yet
Q. so i started birth control the end of last month/ the begining if this month. and this sunday i should have started my period, but its tuesday and still nothing. i havent fully had sex yet. like my boyfriends when half way in. but he never ised a ...
A. 29 December 2009: If you have only been taking the Pill for a month, then your body still has not got used to having all the unfamiliar hormones rushing round inside it.
This can take a good 3-4 months before it fully settles down, and even then it may take muc... (read in full...)
Should I euthanize my daughter's rabbit to save on vet bills? And not tell her? Help!
Q. Thinking of killing my daughters pet rabbit! The rabbit is ill, it has a tumor (possibly or an abscess behind the eyes) which is visible about the size of one eye and oozes puss. It requires twice daily eye drops and medication which I administ...
A. 28 December 2009: How old is your daughter?
I had a lovely Rabbit called Benji when I was little who I rescued from a whack on the head from a neighbour (they just didnt want him). He eventually got a nasty tumour, on his head, weeping and pussy. We had him put ... (read in full...)
I am worried about having sex with my boyfriend!
Q. right, im nearly 14 and i have a boyfriend. hes older than me, hes 15. hes not a virgin and we do talk about having sex alot. he has fingered me but he only fit 1 finger up and i am very scared of the pain if he does have sex with me, im also scared ...
A. 26 December 2009: Just to remind you, in the UK, the legal age of consent for sexual acts is 16. This means BOTH people have to be over this age.
All sexual acts are illegal until you are 16. This includes, fingering, hand jobs, blow jobs, oral sex, vaginal ... (read in full...)
What is consider to be a pedophile? Do these situations fall under that?
Q. hi guys another question that keeps popping up in my head if your a teenager and your thinking of/having sex with someone else around your age is it considered as paedophilia and another question if your under 14 and your thinking of/ having ...
A. 26 December 2009: OK First of all NEVER trust wikipedia.
As you are from the UK - these are the laws.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
http://www.opsi.gov.u... (read in full...)
Since he is unemployed he has become controlling.
Q. helo n merry xmas to every1.i have a bit of a prob.my hubby is unemployed and we have 3 kids together.a few yrs ago he had an affair which resulted in a child.we are stil together.but now that he's unemployed he's very controlling and wants to know ...
A. 26 December 2009: Dear Poster
I think you need to seek legal advice urgently. IF your husband has another child by another woman as a result of cheating, then I think you should question your responsibility to that child. Go and see a lawyer and find out exactly ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to be single when you go to University? Or can relationships work whilst you are at Uni?
Q. Hey. I'm currently in my last year of school and hoping to go to uni next year, which is all good. But there's something that got me thinking... Loads of people are saying that you should be single when you go to uni. Apparently if you're in a rel...
A. 21 December 2009: I have been to uni, and I work at one now, so I get to see this all the time.
In my experience, no, relationships that you start at school very rarely work out once you move on to university.
There are many factors involved, distance, growin... (read in full...)
Sharing a bed with my girlfriend has become a nightmare. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm having some real problems in bed with my girlfriend, but not in the way you would immediately think. Sharing a bed with her has become a total nightmare, specifically when we stay at her flat. I'm usually awoken at nights when she pulls m...
A. 18 December 2009: Ahhh yes...student loans. I havent even started paying mine back yet!!
It sounds like she is just grumpy as hell! She may be one of those people who needs uninterrupted sleep. She may not be used to sharing a bed, in which case, she is just goi... (read in full...)
Sharing a bed with my girlfriend has become a nightmare. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm having some real problems in bed with my girlfriend, but not in the way you would immediately think. Sharing a bed with her has become a total nightmare, specifically when we stay at her flat. I'm usually awoken at nights when she pulls m...
A. 18 December 2009: Have you got a standard double bed?
If you have I suggest getting either a king size or queen size duvet - this will hang further over the edges of the bed, and means she can hog the covers all she wants, but there should still be plenty for you!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 13 wont even kiss me, she is frigid!
Q. Ok i am 13 years old and have a girlfriend who is friged but dosent want to be and she gets scared and backs away when i try to kiss OR EVEN HUG HER i like her alot and really dont want to dump her but for weeks now it seems that she dosent even ...
A. 14 December 2009: For goodness sake! You are both only 13, that is waaay to young to be accusing anyone of being frigid - do you even know what it means??? Its actually a pretty nasty and hurtful insult.
I feel sorry for your girlfriend. If you really cared ab... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity on Friday and I'm worried about the bleeding
Q. i lost my virginity on friday and i lost quiet alot of blood straight after (about a full knicker lining) then after that the bleeding stopped and the next day i had a bit in another set of knickers as well. i havent yet started my periods so could ...
A. 13 December 2009: ok. Let me get this straight, you havent yet started your periods, but you are having sex? This is no way right!
How old are you? 13-15? You should not be having sex before you are 16. This is the legal age of consent, which means you cannot a... (read in full...)
What is the Kama Sutra?
Q. What is Kama Sutra or however you spell it? My boyfriend whats to do it or have it or whatever. But I have no idea what it is....
A. 13 December 2009: If your age 13-15 is correct, then you are no where near mature enough to be even looking at the Kama Sutra, let alone doing any of it! Basically it is a book of advanced sexual positions, and sexual advice from ancient India - not recommended for ... (read in full...)
Where can we go to have sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I are high schoolers and are thinking about having sex, but we don't want to get caught or anything. We live about two miles apart so it's a bit hard to just walk over to eachothers houses. I've been trying to get him over to my ...
A. 11 December 2009: Why are you so concerned about getting caught? This suggests to me that a) you shouldnt be doing it and b) your parents will kill you if they find out.
Your first time should not be in the back of a car, or somewhere unsafe, unromantic and cold... (read in full...)
It's so stressful to equally like four people - what do I do?
Q. Has anyone reading this ever Loved or had Lust for more than 1 person at the same time. Well thats the way my life leads at the moment. I have around 3 or 4 people that I really like all equally. Firstly there is my friend from Canada. I have r...
A. 10 December 2009: I agree with Caring Guy.
If you really liked any of these men enough to have a relationship with, then there would be no choice needed. You would know.
The fact you cannot decide between them, means that you dont like any of them to the leve... (read in full...)
Was this too soon to have sex after a termination?
Q. i need help!!! i had sex 10 days after i had a termination will i be ok??? they told me to wait until 14 days surely 4 days wont hurt or do you think i should see a doctor?...
A. 7 December 2009: I think if you are having concerns, then yes it is too soon, and if you are even a tiny bit unsure go and get checked out. With things like terminations, apart from the physical issues, there are also emotional ones.
Depending on the type of ... (read in full...)
He is engaged, but wants to be with me. My friend saw him looking at engagement rings, and now he says he has something to tell me!
Q. Gaaaaaaaaah! I'm going quite mad here, so someone PLEAASE help before I go do a Britney! Right then, the basics; I'm twenty six (ignore the age bracket, I clicked the wrong thing when I signed up, how clever am I??) and I'm an archaeologist, w...
A. 5 December 2009: Right, after having a couple of messages about this question, for the record, I didn't post this! :)
Dear Poster
Just a quick hello to a fellow archaeologist!
Firstly, never do a Britney... no hair whilst digging only leads to bad su... (read in full...)
I was planning to lose virginity to my b/f when my male friend kissed me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now and feel that we are ready to have sex. We are both virgins and believe that you should only have sex with someone you love. The date was set for last night. He tried to make it really ...
A. 3 December 2009: I'm with caring guy on this one.
ANY SEX is ILLEGAL under the age of 16 in the UK.
This includes, oral, fingering, blow jobs, vaginal penetration (normal 'sex') or anal sex.
So, you should wait until you are BOTH 16, before you even cons... (read in full...)
Perfect to zero in 3 months--she's as cold as ice!
Q. hi there, im very confused at the moment. my girlfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years, and i love her so much, that i cant imagine my life without her. everything was perfect when we first got together, it was intense and pssi...
A. 3 December 2009: You dont say how old you are, or how old she is, but from your age range 18-21, this is pretty young to be considering getting married in the first place.
I think being "a couple" and dating whilst living apart (maybe at home), seeing each oth... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 2 December 2009: What is actually bothering you here?
The fact your girlfriend may be masturbating?
Do you masturbate?
Either, she just has a funny way of sleeping, and lets face it, none of us know how we look when we are asleep. I am sure we all make som... (read in full...)
We want to have a baby but it's not happening for us
Q. Me and my fience really want to start a family..we have been together for 4 years but are only in our 20's,were planing to move in together in the new year. when we have sex we normally use without a condom then put one on at the end of sex just in ...
A. 2 December 2009: I think you should not consider a family until you have lived together for at least 6 months.
Living together is a completely different ball game, to just dating, and you may not actually like him as much as you think you do. Living together... (read in full...)
I( want a baby but my boyfriend wants to wait
Q. hey,im 17 iv been with my boyfriend for a year now and we live together and everything, its going great ...but for years iv wanted a baby..but dont no if i should try for one ..i want to but he wants to wait a while..he doesnt understand everything ...
A. 30 November 2009: you should listen to your boyfriend. He is the one being sensible in all this.
You are wrong when you say "everything will be fine". You do not know this, and you have to reason for every eventuality. You are young, therefore at risk of a prematur... (read in full...)
I am foxy and gorgeous, and hot for my nerdy cousin
Q. alright so im a pretty gorgeous 19 year old 5 foot three 105 pound outgoing hilarious fun foxy lady haha basically iv never in my life have had an issue in dateing. Guys love me i get them wrapped round my little finger haha :) my issue is i total...
A. 29 November 2009: To be perfectly honest, you sound like a bit of a self opinionated bimbo. If your cousin is as geeky as you think he is, he will probably have more sense than to go anywhere near a girl like you. Apart from the fact that INCEST is illegal, and ... (read in full...)
I want to emigrate to US, but hubby wont budge
Q. Hello aunts I have been hugely lucky to have had a job that allowed me 2 visit NYC, I have been in live with the place since I can remember, I think it's cause my grandad was a seaman and visited NYC hundreads of times and would come back to ...
A. 29 November 2009: I hate to say it, but your kids' passion for NYC may be just reflected from your own love of the place. At that age, visiting somewhere like that is VERY exciting, as it is all new and different, and a complete opposite to everything they know at ... (read in full...)
I want to emigrate to US, but hubby wont budge
Q. Hello aunts I have been hugely lucky to have had a job that allowed me 2 visit NYC, I have been in live with the place since I can remember, I think it's cause my grandad was a seaman and visited NYC hundreads of times and would come back to ...
A. 28 November 2009: I think you need to remember this is not just about what you want. You have a husband, and children.
You dont say how old your children are, but if they are at school, it's going to be difficult for them. They will have friends, and will be ... (read in full...)
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