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writes:My boyfriend and I are high schoolers and are thinking about having sex, but we don't want to get caught or anything. We live about two miles apart so it's a bit hard to just walk over to eachothers houses. I've been trying to get him over to my house but my room is on the second storey and he's scared he'd get caught climbing up. He suggested we do it in his grandma's car in the middle of the night, but he has dogs and they would make his grandparents up. I'm not sure what we should do or if there'd be a better place. Reply to this Question
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reader, Courts4  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 Hi
Great Advice Celtic Tiger
The day you decide to have sex for the very first time.
You really have to make it special.
You will have memories for the rest of your life
The choice is yours
Good Luck !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): you should get a hotel
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 Why are you so concerned about getting caught? This suggests to me that a) you shouldnt be doing it and b) your parents will kill you if they find out.
Your first time should not be in the back of a car, or somewhere unsafe, unromantic and cold. IF you do this, you will regret it. Your first time may be painful, you may bleed, and you may get emotional. Being in an unfamiliar, uncomfortable place, will only add to your discomfort, and you will not be able to relax - thus making you tense, and making it far more likely that it will hurt. Doing it in your own room, in familiar surroundings where you can cuddle and relax will make it far more enjoyable. But it is your choice. Remember, you only get to lose your virginity once.
I dont know what the age of consent is where you are, BUT if you are under this age, then you should not be having sex anyway - regardless of if you want to do it or not. Laws are there for a reason.
IF you are mature enough to be having sex, then you are mature enough to be able to invite this boy to your house or his house, without your parents getting upset. If they know you are dating this guy, why does he have to sneak about? How long have you been dating? If you are in a long term committed relationship, and are over the legal age of consent, then you should be able to discuss this in an adult manner and be able to have some privacy in your own home.
Sneaking about will only ever end in tears.
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