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writes:Has anyone reading this ever Loved or had Lust for more than 1 person at the same time. Well thats the way my life leads at the moment. I have around 3 or 4 people that I really like all equally. Firstly there is my friend from Canada. I have real strong feelings for him and we both like each other very much but because, of the distance between the Uk and Canada it seems impossible for us to have a chance. However I am going to Canada within the next year for a whole year to live in and work.Then there is my close family friend who i have sex with from time to time. I like so much and I believe he likes me but because, our parents would be against us he doesnt go for more than casual secret sex. Even though all the signs points towards him actually liking me.I also have an ex boyfriend that I still have feelings for. I know he likes me but he is in Love with someone else. I don't actually want to be with him because, an ex is an ex for a reason but that doesnt change the fact I like him still.Then theres this new boy i have been on a few dates wih and i believe there could be something special between us. He's the one I should be putting 100% into but i am scared i will get hurt.I have been through alot in the past and i find it hard to learn to just want one person. I wish i could like one of these guys more than the other but i miss them all equally and its really stressful having so many people to think about.Advice please.xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I agree with Caring Guy.
If you really liked any of these men enough to have a relationship with, then there would be no choice needed. You would know.
The fact you cannot decide between them, means that you dont like any of them to the level needed to form a true relationship. Move on, when you find the one it will hit you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 December 2009):
It's very simple. If you can't choose between them, then none of these guys is the one. If there was a guy in this group of four who was meant for you, you would have known and you would have been with him. I think you need to look elsewhere for your man, and I think you need to spend more time on yourself, working out what you like and what you want from life.
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