My mum broke me and my boyfriend up because she thinks he is weird, She wont let me be upset, Help?
Q. Well i was with my bf for a whole year. he two years older than me but we have known each other for years. I knew him from when i was in year 7 (grade 7) and he was year 9, now im in year 11 and have been with him since the begining of year 10. He ...
A. 20 October 2009: You should wait until YOU are ready, which may be 16, 17 or maybe later - not until you cant be told off by your parents! Geez. Sex isnt a race - its not about being the first to lose your virginity. And if you rush it, you will regret it. Teena... (read in full...)
I've had 3 abortions in two years! Can I get pregnant?
Q. i had an abortion on the 10aug 09 due to complications,im trying again i found out im pregnant last week,but that was a chemical pregnancy. I only have 1 FLOPIN TUBE. And iv 3 abortions in 2 years, including this one. So does that mean if i had a ...
A. 20 October 2009: I think this is something which you seriously need to discuss with your Doctor. We are not medically qualified, so we cannot give you this type of advice. All I can say is talk to a medical professional. If you are trying for a baby, I am assum... (read in full...)
I fancy him but it would be social suicide to go out with him!
Q. This guy at school really fancys me but theres one problem. Hes a geek. I think i might fancy him aswell but it would be social sucide going out with him! He's asked me out loads and i keep saying no. I know your just going to be like well if you ...
A. 18 October 2009: Are you a lemming? Or a sheep? If the "social crowd" asked you to jump of a cliff would you? If the cool people said "go hit that old lady or we will cut you out of our gang" would you? GROW UP.
So what if other people think he is a geek. If... (read in full...)
What do you think his answer meant?
Q. Hi I dated a guy around five times and we both are interested. Around two weeks ago I told him that I will move. He became sad. I told him to think if he want a long distance relationship and answer me. He agreed.Until now he did not answer me. Does...
A. 18 October 2009: Actually, he may not even think you are "IN" a relationship yet. Its only been five dates, and men are a bit funny about giving relationship a status too soon.
He may think you have just been dating - casual, seeing each other. This is not the ... (read in full...)
What do you think his answer meant?
Q. Hi I dated a guy around five times and we both are interested. Around two weeks ago I told him that I will move. He became sad. I told him to think if he want a long distance relationship and answer me. He agreed.Until now he did not answer me. Does...
A. 18 October 2009: I think that as you have only been on 5 dates with this guy, then you are probably best to part and go your seperate ways. Long distance relationships are hard enough for established couples let alone those who barely know each other.
If you move... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 18 October 2009: That is the problem with teenagers. To them sex is all about penetration. Penis in vagina. But sex is about far more than that.
Penetration is only a part of sexual intimacy. Anything sexual is SEX. If you gave him a handjob, or a blow job, tha... (read in full...)
How do I get this happily married man to notice me?
Q. i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...
A. 18 October 2009: You dont. You stop trying to get him to notice you. He doesnt want to notice you. As you say yourself he is HAPPY and MARRIED!!!!!!
WHY do you want to break up his happy marriage?
Stop being so SELFISH. Find a SINGLE man to chase. ... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 17 October 2009: Ok, you know your own mind, and nothing we say is going to change it for you. This is the standard teenage reaction to being told "NO". This was the last paragraph of your original question.
"I wish I'd said yes now. I really like him, and we'v... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 16 October 2009: I just want to point out that from a legal point of view, just because you consented, it means nothing.
As you are under the age of 16, even if you consent,or say yes, it doesnt matter. It is still rape and he can be charged.
To be perfect... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 16 October 2009: I also want to add;
"Right, he likes me, I like him but we're not exactly together. We said we'd keep what happened in teh caravan quiet, we both agreed to that."
Sadly teenage boys often have multiple girls in the pipeline. They say things ... (read in full...)
I really want to be with him so what do I do?
Q. Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...
A. 16 October 2009: You wait until you are 16, and have been in a relationship with him for a while. Sex is not something that should be rushed in to, as it has a very profound effect on women and our hormones.
FYI - ANY type of intimate touching is consider... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to go out and have fun like my friends do?
Q. hi i have been with my partner since i was 15 im now 18 and have a 1 year old child with him but alot of the time i feel like i dont love him anymore and i look at all my old friends and they are either at collage or university doing what they ...
A. 13 October 2009: I think the others have pretty much summed it all up.
You have made a choice in your life, and now you have to get on with it. We do see so many underage and teenage girls who think they are so grown up and "mature" enough to deal with the sex,... (read in full...)
My mum broke me and my boyfriend up because she thinks he is weird, She wont let me be upset, Help?
Q. Well i was with my bf for a whole year. he two years older than me but we have known each other for years. I knew him from when i was in year 7 (grade 7) and he was year 9, now im in year 11 and have been with him since the begining of year 10. He ...
A. 11 October 2009: This is difficult, as all parents want to do is the best for their children, and she may well think she is helping you from making the same mistakes she did, but actually going completely the wrong way about it.
I do not condone her actions ... (read in full...)
I've had 3 abortions in two years! Can I get pregnant?
Q. i had an abortion on the 10aug 09 due to complications,im trying again i found out im pregnant last week,but that was a chemical pregnancy. I only have 1 FLOPIN TUBE. And iv 3 abortions in 2 years, including this one. So does that mean if i had a ...
A. 10 October 2009: Sorry, I want to clarify before I answer this question...
Have you had 3 abortions because there was something wrong with the pregnancy? Or because you didnt want the baby?
Are you trying for a baby?
... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I am 14 weeks pregnant? I'm only 15!
Q. Hi,its been 4 months since my last period which is 1 month longer than normal. I can't wait for a missed period because of the months between them,so I don't have an exact date to work with. If I was pregnant I would be 14 weeks and 2 days preg...
A. 5 October 2009: If you are too scared to go to the Doctor, then you are no way near ready to have a child. Childbirth is all about Doctors and people prodding you.
When you have children, you have to face up to responsibility, and become an adult and do things t... (read in full...)
I regret the name I gave my baby! What can I do now?
Q. Dear all, I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to r...
A. 30 September 2009: What did you call her?! It cant be that bad, surely?
If you told us what her name is, it would help us to help you. At the moment all we can do is speculate! I am sure it is just all your hormones racing about, and you will settle down. Or, is ther... (read in full...)
I've messed up my relationship due to my mood swings and now I have lost the best thing that ever happened to me!
Q. Hey guys, I have messed up a relationship due to my moods and strops i have now lost the best thing to happen to me and i dont know what to do. These are texts that my ex has sent to me today its the first time we have spoke in over a week sinc...
A. 29 September 2009: If this is how you are, then I think that you need to focus on YOU for a while. Work out why you feel the need to get the attention? What pushes you to have a mood, or get angry?
I think if you can understand what motivates these mood swings, ... (read in full...)
I've messed up my relationship due to my mood swings and now I have lost the best thing that ever happened to me!
Q. Hey guys, I have messed up a relationship due to my moods and strops i have now lost the best thing to happen to me and i dont know what to do. These are texts that my ex has sent to me today its the first time we have spoke in over a week sinc...
A. 29 September 2009: If this is how you are, then I think that you need to focus on YOU for a while. Work out why you feel the need to get the attention? What pushes you to have a mood, or get angry?
I think if you can understand what motivates these mood swings, ... (read in full...)
I've messed up my relationship due to my mood swings and now I have lost the best thing that ever happened to me!
Q. Hey guys, I have messed up a relationship due to my moods and strops i have now lost the best thing to happen to me and i dont know what to do. These are texts that my ex has sent to me today its the first time we have spoke in over a week sinc...
A. 29 September 2009: Dear Poster
I hate to say it but it does sound like your relationship is over. Men find it very difficult to deal with emotional women sometimes, and even if they do have feelings, they do not want the hassle. I think you need to put this down to ... (read in full...)
Threesome but I don't want him to fall for the other girl!
Q. Its bothering me.... My best male friend and i have been talking about a threesome, i would really love it i know he does too but the problem comes in that i'm afraid once we have actually had a threesome he will end up like or even loving this ...
A. 28 September 2009: Sorry, this is probably going to sound very harsh.
He is your best male friend, and you are madly in love with him? YET, you want him to join you in a threesome and are scared he may fall for the other woman?
I think you need to look at what ... (read in full...)
He's 6 years older than me but I really have feelings for him, its an online romance
Q. Ok so basiclly i'm quite young and i live in another country to this other guy who is 20 and 6 years older than me and he isn't a perv or nothing due to the plain and simple fact i lied about my age i look older anyways and i'm more mature so when i ...
A. 26 September 2009: At 14, you are still a vulnerable child. You may think that you are grown up and mature for your age, but we all think that when we are 14. You will look back in 10 years time and realise that you didnt know it all.
I think your post raises s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets mad if I wear matching bra and panties when he is gone
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me for wearing panties and bras that match when I am not with him. Is this out of line? We have been together for almost two years. I have never been unfaithful to ANYONE. HE has....
A. 25 September 2009: I really think your boyfriend has some issues. I generally think that most women like to wear nice undies, regardless of what they are going to be doing. We know what is underneath, and if we feel comfy and happy in them, then we feel more ... (read in full...)
Blow jobs & STD'S
Q. in regards to blowjobs, are std's transmitted just by having your mouth come in contact with the penis, or does that only happen if he cums into it? ...
A. 21 September 2009: They can be transmitted just by mouth to penis contact. Even if he does not cum, the penis still releases fluid, in the form of pre-cum and STD's can lurk on the skin (think genital herpes etc). If you had a cold sore, you would transfer this to his ... (read in full...)
What is the male equivalent of a feminist?
Q. What is the male equivalent of a feminist? I know officially it is about women having equal rights to men which of course is correct but i think in todays society it is thought of (and a lot of people that call themselves feminists think of it as) b...
A. 21 September 2009: Personally I think men are treated really badly in the modern world. I agree with you, that in the media and popular culture it is considered ok to take a pop at men, be it their intelligence, inability to do things, or just for having balls and a ... (read in full...)
I'm having to lie to my parents, how do I get around this?
Q. This Friday my boyfriend wants me to stay round his, he has the house to himself so his parents don't know. The problem is my parents won't let me sleep round his so I have to make up an excuse I've already said my friend is having a sleepover and ...
A. 20 September 2009: Ok, so you fibbed about your age too.
I thought the sneaking about sounded more like a teenager.
My advice is still the same. TELL YOUR PARENTS. I know you want to see him, and I know you think you love him, but this is not the way to get y... (read in full...)
How do I tell all five lads, that they may or may not be the father to my baby?
Q. What do I do? I know it sounds bad, so please don't judge me, or leave nasty comments! Well 8 and a half months ago I slept with 5 lads in a period of two weeks, and now im due a little boy any time soon, but all the lads know im pregnant an...
A. 20 September 2009: Do the five men all know about each other? Or do they all think they were the only one?
You need to sit down with all of them, and be honest with them. Tell each of them, that they may not be the father of your child. Once the baby is born, yo... (read in full...)
I'm having to lie to my parents, how do I get around this?
Q. This Friday my boyfriend wants me to stay round his, he has the house to himself so his parents don't know. The problem is my parents won't let me sleep round his so I have to make up an excuse I've already said my friend is having a sleepover and ...
A. 20 September 2009: The fact you are already lying to your parents is not a good thing.
I know you love your boyfriend, but what if something happens, and you get hurt? They will think you are at your friends house? How old are you? How long have you been dating t... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and in love with my 33 year old teacher
Q. Well I am 15 years old and am madly in love with my 33 year old teacher, and i know most of you will probably say it’s just a stupid crush, to stop being so stupid and move on, but honestly i know for sure it isn’t a stupid crush, and believe me i ...
A. 20 September 2009: As this has just come up in the news, I thought is was relevant.
THIS is what happens with teacher/pupil relationships.
http://www.da... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: I think you have a good point, certainly not ALL 15-17 year old girls are immature. BUT saying that, the vast majority are far less mature than they like to think they are. At 16, you have a wide-eyed naivety which you will not realise until you are ... (read in full...)
My parents friends are telling them things about my b/f and I
Q. i have a serious problem and i need some good advice.so i met a guy one month ago and he is very sweet,kind and caring.we have been together for almost 3 weeks and we get along really well.but he is more older than me,he is 18.my parents didn't ...
A. 17 September 2009: I think this is a difficult one. How old are you? Because I think that has a very important bearing on the way your parents and their friends will view your relationship.
If you are at the lower end of 13-15, then I think your parents friends ... (read in full...)
She had her first sexual intercourse but didn't bleed. Why?
Q. Hi. I hav a question regarding my friend. She is a very shy girl she never talk to guys never had friendship with them so there is no means of having sex with anybody. She had an arranged marraige and she had her first sexual intercourse with her ...
A. 16 September 2009: Ok, this is completely normal.
There are many women who bleed, and find first time sex very painful.
There are probably equally as many, who do not bleed, and have no pain at all.
The hymen (the flap of skin which covers the vagina) can b... (read in full...)
Why do I avoid having vaginal sex?
Q. Hi, I am 23 I have two girlfriends who wants to have sex with me. but i fear guilty after having sex with them. although I am interested in sex with them. We dont have a long time plan or marriage plan as such. but fear of guilt after s...
A. 16 September 2009: Well the fact that you are having sex with two girls is probabaly making you feel guilty!
Oral sex, vaginal sex, or any other type of sex are all sex, and you are basically stringing these two women along, and two timing them.
Do they both ... (read in full...)
I want to be with a man I can't have. How can I get over it?
Q. I have a major problem that I hope someone can help me with! Its driving me crazy. I have the hots for someone I cant have! He's one of my good friends and my ex's friend and for complicated reasons, I know I cant have him and even if I could I ...
A. 16 September 2009: This is a difficult one. You need to work out what you are feeling.
I think it depends how long you have known this guy, and what you actually feel for him. Is it lust? You think he is sexy, and want him, but you cant have him which makes him even... (read in full...)
Will a 20 year old get in trouble for dating a 14 year old girl?
Q. What trouble could a 20yr old male get in for dating a 14yr old girl even if both familys are happy with this and give them there full support?...
A. 12 September 2009: I think you have to be really careful here.
The fact that her father has threatened to call the police means that you could well end up in serious trouble.
The other danger, is that she gets emotionally attached to you. At the moment, she ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of giving up Uni so I don't have to have a LDR with my boyfriend of 4 months
Q. Im looking for some advice on long distance relationships as im about to start one, and im not sure if I can cope with it. I love my boyfriend more then anything in the world, and would be more then happy to give up my own university place to be wi...
A. 11 September 2009: I know you really love your boyfriend, but you have only been together for 4 months.
Going to University is the beginning of your life as an adult. You will gain so much experience in lots of different aspects of life, work and people. It is so... (read in full...)
Will a 20 year old get in trouble for dating a 14 year old girl?
Q. What trouble could a 20yr old male get in for dating a 14yr old girl even if both familys are happy with this and give them there full support?...
A. 2 September 2009: This is not ok, on any level. At 20, you are a LEGAL adult. You are far more mature than a 14 year old, and it throws up a lot of other issues which are very important. You can do so many things that she cannot. You can drink, smoke, drive, vote, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't add me as a friend on FB, but he did add her. It's either her or me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating this guy for about a year now and at first the relationship was good, but now it's turning sour. I’m having a problem with him emailing his ex girlfriend as well as she emails him and he has her on his face book and I se...
A. 2 September 2009: Facebook. The downfall of modern society. I think this has caused more relationship break ups than I can count!
I think giving him an ultimatum may not be the best idea, because at the end of the day, it is only facebook. He does see you every da... (read in full...)
This will be the first time I have sex, and I'm worried he'll compare me to other girls!
Q. ok before i ask this i want to make it clear tht i dont want ppl to tell me not to do this coz i already made up my mind, id just realy appreciate the advice :) basically me and my best guy friend have agreed to have sex, hes had sex befre but i ...
A. 2 September 2009: Dear Poster I am so glad that we helped...even if it has only made you think a bit, that is still something. I apologise for assuming that you offered, but that is what your question inferred. "Messing about" can mean anything, especially if it... (read in full...)
He won't give me an orgasm because my semen smells too strongly
Q. Hi. I'm a 22-year-old gay guy, and I have an extremely difficult decision to make. My partner and I are on the verge of breaking up. The reason for our break-up has to do with our sex life. For the two-and-a-half years we've been together, my ...
A. 1 September 2009: I am straight, so I cannot comment on the finer details of a gay relationship, but I think the advice here would be the same whatever type of relationship you are in. He is using you. The fact that he will not bring you to orgasm in any way, and ... (read in full...)
This will be the first time I have sex, and I'm worried he'll compare me to other girls!
Q. ok before i ask this i want to make it clear tht i dont want ppl to tell me not to do this coz i already made up my mind, id just realy appreciate the advice :) basically me and my best guy friend have agreed to have sex, hes had sex befre but i ...
A. 31 August 2009: I just want to re-make my point from my previous answer. We are only looking out for your best interests. You "both just want a bit of fun at the moment". Well that is all fine and dandy for him - he has already lost his virginity, and ... (read in full...)
This will be the first time I have sex, and I'm worried he'll compare me to other girls!
Q. ok before i ask this i want to make it clear tht i dont want ppl to tell me not to do this coz i already made up my mind, id just realy appreciate the advice :) basically me and my best guy friend have agreed to have sex, hes had sex befre but i ...
A. 31 August 2009: I know you do not want to hear this, but are you absolutely 100% sure this is they guy you want to lose your virginity to? All you are doing, to put it crudly, is using his penis to get rid of your virginity. Is that really how you want your first ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and in love with my 33 year old teacher
Q. Well I am 15 years old and am madly in love with my 33 year old teacher, and i know most of you will probably say it’s just a stupid crush, to stop being so stupid and move on, but honestly i know for sure it isn’t a stupid crush, and believe me i ...
A. 21 August 2009: Well said person12345. Teacher/Pupil relationships are completely wrong in any situation. Apart from the obvious age difference, there are many other factors involved, such as duty of care, and the legal responsibility that all teachers carry w... (read in full...)
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