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writes:my girlfriend told me I hurt her when we missionary what shall I do, different position? Reply to this Question
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reader, Leo1989  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 doggy style, spoons, seated the list is endless. invest in 'the sex book' by suzi godson. it is a fantastic read and you will learn a lot from it. as for her age she isnt too young she may just be nervous resulting in her vagina tightening or in missionary your penis hits her cervix. sex shouldnt hurt it should be good so if the problem continues she should visit a GUM clinic to get checked.
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reader, r_a_w_r1645  +, writes (6 January 2010):
 go to google and type in sex positions and click on a link and a page should pop up with hundreds of different positions. its amazing. lol they also physically show u with animated people lol
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reader, EPIC +, writes (6 January 2010):
Answer: because shes (presumably) 13 - 15 Two options: A)STOP! B) Do it nicely ... look it up .. make sure you and your girl both know whats happening ... My guess is SHE'S (well..was until recently) A VIRGIN!Talk to her about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Tell her to look up KEGEL EXERCISE, that could possibly help her make sex less painful and more pleasurable for her
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Sorry to throw a spanner in the works here, but have you thought that she may just not be ready to have sex?
Emotionally, physically and mentally she may not be ready to be part of a sexual relationship. This may be a symptom of a much more important problem.
The fact that you are 13-15 means that you are UNDERAGE in the UK.
It is ILLEGAL to have sex under the age of 16, this means ANY sexual act, hand jobs, fingering, oral, blow jobs, vaginal sex, anal sex and any others you care to add to the list.
There are many reasons for these laws, one of them being, that most children (and that is what you are) are not READY to be part of this type of relationship. There are so many other issues, that go with sex, and they play on your mind. Sex is essentially a biological function to procreate. Her body isnt ready for children, her brain is sending her signals to stop - ie the pain. If she is tense, nervous, unsure, scared, her body will react to that and essentially stop the sexual process from happening. Her vagina will tense up and will cause huge amounts of pain no matter what position you are doing it in. Its not the position, its the thought and the act itself. She may be telling you that she is ready and wanting sex (possibly because she thinks you will walk away if she doesnt- pressure for girls to have sex with their boyfriends is massive at this age), but her body is saying something different. It means that deep down, she is not 100% ready and ok with doing this.
Her body is telling her that she isnt ready, by saying that it hurts.
Listen to this. Wait until you are older, and can both deal with the consequences of sex.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 January 2010):
 She may simply be too young for intercourse. How old is she? She should see her doctor to make sure she doesn't have a problem.
If it hurts in missionary, it's going to hurt in most other positions too. My guess is that she's not physically ready and that you guys are rushing it.
Don't do anything until the doctor has seen her; she may have an injury that will only get worse if you keep trying.
As an old fuddyduddy, I have to say that that legally you are both underage, if she is the same age as you and you might wind up in legal trouble if you continue. As a realist, I have to say that pushing things now may lead to a lot of regret and harm later. She may simply not be ready. And if you pressure her to continue, then you are not really ready either, as that would be the immature thing to do.
She needs to see her doctor. Good luck!
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reader, InvisibleMe +, writes (6 January 2010):
 she should go get checked out.. i dont think its normal to be sore doing that maybe she is nervous and needs to relax.. try using lube and be very gentle xx
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Be wary of aunts' suggestions of some of these crackpot sites - they are a person's opinion and NOT fact. (no such thing as vaginal orgasms? hah! - total bollocks)
In answer to your question, is she relaxing enough? By her age, may I suppose inexperience here? If so, could be that perhaps you both need to take it easy until you/ she becomes used to sexual intercourse.
Good luck.
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reader, Luvr Buoy  +, writes (6 January 2010):
I dont think that the problem is the position... I think that u need to prepare her more... probably more foreplay and oral... make sure she is extremely wet before u begin... don't be hurry to penetrate her... allow about 1/2hour of foreplay so that she's totally comfortable and turned on!
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