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anonymous
writes:Hey everybody.Im seventeen years old and going through a tough time.About two years ago me an my boyfriend of 3 years slept with each other for the first time, and have been sleeping together since, at first using condoms and then after a year i went on the pill. We got together when we were 13 and are still together now. Are relationships had its up and downs, but has generally been good. But last year before i went on holiday i caught thrush (i was stupid, and used shampoo in and around my vagina over the fear of 'smelling), i had increased vaginal discharge, itching and burning during sex. I didnt get checked out by a doctor, i told my mum what i was experiancing, searched the internet and also described my symtoms too my mums best friend who's a nurse. I bought thrush treatment, and in two days everything went back to normal and was fine. Then around a year later (september this year) i got the same symptoms, but as the symtoms werent as bad i just brushed it off. I ony had increased vaginal discharge, burning during sex and the odd itch. The symtpoms mainly went away, apart from the inscreased discharge, and it sometimes hurt during sex, depending on how often i had it.These symptoms have lasted up until now, but things have gotten worse. Now im starting to worry that my boyfriend might have cheated on me, even though he's never had any symptoms of an sti, or any problems. All last night i was awake with the 'unscratchable itch' and when i woke up this morning, my vagina was inflamed and sore, and had what looks like ingrowning hairs, (large spots and bumps all around where i had been scratching) My boyfriend sat me down, and asked me if id slept with somebody else when i told him i thought i had herpes, as it would put him at risk. But i havent slept with anybody else, and he's swearing on his grandmothers life he hasnt touched another girl. I also dont see when he would get the chance, considering where in the same college, and are always together after school. I generally dont believe he has cheated.Now ive read up on genital herpes, and its said that you have 'blisters' or 'warts'. These arent either, there spots/lumps. Im not sure whether its from where ive shaved, and then scarcthed in my sleep and caused sore spots. They look almost like a bubble sting rash.Please help! I dont see how i would have an sti! It doesnt look like the photos of herpes! and unless i tell my mum i think i have an sti, then i cant get tested! I really dont want to have to do that!Thankyou in advance xx
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (12 January 2010):
treat yourself for thrush first. It sure sounds like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): Hey all.
Im the person who posted the question, i forgot the code they gave me.
I went and had a bath without any soap, just clean water as i got told last time that can irritate thrush, and then when i got out i towel dried the area's that had the rash/spots on and put some sudocrem on it, as the area was red and sore from scratching.
I then put on a pair of loose joggers without any underwear to make sure the area didnt get even more irratated, and made sure i didnt scratch the area. Now nearly 12 hours later, the redness had gone and so have the spots. You can just see the sore patches of skin from where i have scratched and caused damage.
I think there's been a bit of a misunderstanding old-spinstah. I havent tried to treat this thrush, i have just left it.
and lonelyTwo yes i was his first, and he was mine.
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reader, MzRevolutionary  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 It's so rough at that age! Lol girlie don't worry just play the cards you are dealt. That is first and foremost!! Like everyone else has said, you are definitely old enough to go without your mother, but you do need to get checked because even minor things can turn to not-so-minor things down there when left alone. One issue that you might be having is bacteria. Condoms are a good idea to use even on the pill bc the pill protects ONLY against pregnancy. Is he circumsized? Guys carry bacteria on their d*ck and even more so if he isn't circumsized. Condoms usually can prevent the spread of bacteria but the thrusting (unprotected) makes sure you are getting whatever is hanging on down there on him, and the warm, moist environment on you is perfect to help bacteria (or yeast) grow. Re exposing yourself over and over, and then trying to re treat over and over limits your body's ability to fight off whatever it is so PLEASE use protection. Get the Trojan Extacy. Those are supposed to be great and feel like there is nothing there. Go for a check up and stay strapped.. Good luck boo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): this could be thrush or a yest infection. it could also be an allergic reaction to spermicides and/or latex? dont be so quick to assume he is unfaithful...go to a doctor. i bet it is not him....mal
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (11 January 2010):
It could still just be a bad bout of thrush but I agree that you need to see a doctor if you've tried treating the symptoms as you did before but with no effect.
At 16 you do not need a parents permission to see a doctor. Your G.P should treat your case with utmost confidentiality just as he/she would treat any other patient. You can ask to see a female doctor in the same practice if you don't want to see a man - it's common for people to do this. If your doctor is male, he will be chaparoned by another member of staff if he needs to do a personal exam.
If you don't want to see a doctor you could try a local sexual health clinic. Try the NHS choices website for one near you. If you live in a small village or community though your G.P will be your best bet.
If absence from school/college is worrying you, try approaching your school nurse/college health service and they may be able to arrange absence for you. Otherwise, make the appointment in advance and explain to the teacher/tutor that you have a medical appointment so you will be late. But you should be able to get an appointment after college hours.
You could also ask you mum to make an appointment for you and just say to her that you've had some really bad thrush which hasn't responded to over the treatment remedies and you'd like to get some medical advice - that's a reasonable request. She doesn't have to go in with you...
Good luck
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (11 January 2010):
 Hello. I think you are getting in a state when you dont need to. It sounds like thrush. Make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible. You can ask for a lady doctor. She will soon tell you whats going on and get you sorted out. Youre grown up enough to go to the doctor without involving your mum. Take your boyfriend for company x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 January 2010):
Get it checked at the doctors quickly. Your health is what matters, and you need to get checked. If you have got it, and you haven't been with another guy, then talk to your boyfriend.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (11 January 2010):
 Book yourself a Doctors appointment ASAP.
If you are 17, then you are plenty old enough to go to the Doctors on your own, without telling your Mother.
This needs to be cleared up. Also, if it does turn out to be an STI, and you have not touched another guy, then you really need to question your boyfriends loyalty.
But, that is all IFs, first you need to go and find out what is wrong.
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