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writes:ok. i'm a 14 year old girl and ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. He's already had sex with his ex partner so it seems like he's expecting it from me. I want to but im freaked out because im a virgin and i don't know what he expects a girl to look like down there. So what do I do? Some guys like pubes but some don't. I don't want to make a full of myself if I pick the wrong one. Although he hasn't actually asked for sex yet I can see it coming. I need help like now!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (3 January 2010):
 Well Done! I am very proud of you! That is a very mature and grown up decision.
Take Care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI always told myself that I would wait for sex and be the "responsable" one in out of all my friends. I agree, it is a huge thing just to give away and if he's already gave it too someone else, so is he the speacil one i want to give mine to? In my eyes people should not have sex unless they can cope with having a baby, and im defenatly not ready for both. I'm going to wait, and he does try something i'll tell him honestly how I feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): if this guy likes you even a little bit he should be prepared wait and respect your decision. To be honest it doesn't sound as if you are ready to have sex for the first time, losing your virginity is a huge thing and you should wait until you are in a long term relationship 3 months is really not long enough. Your more worried about your pubic hair rather than the important things such as: contraception, consequences, your emotional well being. It sounds as if you cant even talk openly to your boyfriend about it which shows little understanding of the responsibility you should both have in the decisions. I for one say WAIT do not go for this to make a man happy or you will regret it for the rest of your life.
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reader, xAx +, writes (2 January 2010):
 You may think that you are ready, but you are not. You aren't old enough to understand what kind of decision you are making here. If you have sex with him, you would be giving a part of you to him. Everyone remembers their first love, do you want to remember the time you shared with him when you are 50? 60? 70 years old? If you were of age, which you're not, i still would be saying to not have sex with him. It's too soon into the relationship. You need to let your minds bond together. Understand and respect eachother. That is if you want sex to be something meaningful and not something for just sake of having it. If you really like him, wait til you're 16! And always use protection!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (2 January 2010):
You have only been dating 3 months? This is way too soon to be considering sex with anyone!
Apart from the fact that you are underage, you need to be in a stable commited relationship before you consider having sex with someone. It doesnt matter about your pubes, if a guy really likes you he wont care what you look like down there.
You say your boyfriend has already had sex? Is he the same age as you? 14?....
In the UK, the legal age of consent is 16. ANY sexual act done under this age is technically ILLEGAL. Oral, fingering, hand jobs, blow jobs, vaginal sex, anal sex..... you shouldnt be doing this.
If your boyfriend is over 16, however, this is even worse, and he could be prosecuted for rape of a minor, and go to jail... I think the prison term is up to 2 years.
Teenage boys only want one thing, and that is sex. They dont want relationships, they dont want love, they want sex. They watch a lot of porn, and they assume that all women act/look like the ones they see in the porn films. This is why you think all men like shaved vaginas - and young boys are influenced by this.
Also, are you on contraception? Have you had a talk with your mother/doctor about getting onto some form of hormonal contraceptive? If you cannot have this talk with your mum and/or a doctor, then you are not mature enough to have sex. Sex is an adult activity, so you need to be adult about the consequences.
Do you know about condoms? Pregnancy? What would happen if you did get pregnant? Could you cope with being a teenage mum?
Be aware that young mothers have a lot of trouble giving birth due to the fact your pelvis is not fully formed, and this often results in complications, tearing and bleeding.
If this guy really likes you, then he will wait until you are ready and are OVER the legal age of consent at 16. IF he pushes the issue, then he only wants one thing. SEX. And once he gets it, he probably will not stick around long enough for you to blink.
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reader, Anna.m +, writes (2 January 2010):
I know your problem,but if he respects you he will understand your not ready for sex and talk openly about it because your first time should be special and with someone you really love :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 January 2010):
You're in the UK, so it's illegal to do anything until you're 16, no matter how tempting. If you do, you can both get into a huge amount of trouble, let alone pregnancy.
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