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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me today. I hadn't expected this at all, but lately I'd been noticing that he'd been a bit distant. So I decided to ask him today if he actually liked me at all. He put his head down so I couldn't see his face and said, "I don't know." I asked again. He said, "No. I don't like you like that. You're a really good friend, but I don't like you as a girlfriend." So I asked if this meant that he was breaking up with me. I saw him smirk, and he said, "YUP". I asked why and he said that it was just too awkward, and that he was originally going to wait another month to see if things could work out, and if not, he'd break up with me. But since he already told me, he had to break up with me now. He told me not to cry, but I did. He rolled his eyes, mouthed "oh my god", and then he got up and walked away. Now he's avoiding me and won't talk to me. I still like him, and I don't know what to do. I still want to be with him, but I don't think that's possible. Help?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 I don't think your ex boyfriend is a jerk, he may not have been sure how to react to your tears, be thankful he had the courage to break it off with you, imagine how horrid it would be if he just treated you worse and worse in an effort to get you to break it off with him.
Accept his decision, and also accept his distance for the moment, and give the situation enough time for the awkwardness to go away.
Just remember as one door closes another one opens.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 January 2012):
 There isn't much you can do in this situation. He decided that you weren't the one for him. It happens with the best of us, and there's a good chance that you might feel the same way in the future about a guy who's interested in you where you don't return that feeling.
You must let him go. Stop communication with him, and walk away with your head held high. Just because he broke up with you doesn't mean you're not worthy, or there's something wrong with you. You both weren't a good fit, that's all. It's hard to look at a bright side when this is happening, but as much as this stung for you...it will open the door for someone who is much more compatible to you. Someone who will make you so weak in the knees that you'll soon consider this other guy with indifference and slight self-amusement for ever having seen anything in him.
Avoid him too! The sooner you get over him, the sooner you will feel better. What you must not do is chase after him, pine after him, check his Facebook and stalk him around looking to see if he'll change his mind. You have much more respect for yourself than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): Hi.
Your "boyfriend" sounds like a Jerk!
I'm sure this guy would have used you for sex, if it had come to that.
If he didn't like you in that way to begin with, he most certainly shouldn't have gotten together with you!
Sure you still like him, of course you would, but please move on, he's not worth your tears or heartache :) !
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