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*ovemeright11
writes:I feel like I go crazy every single time I see my boyfriends ex commenting on his facebook status I just wish she was not there or even in his friends. Every time I ask him to delete her, he says he is afraid it will cause drama. My thought is she is an ex she serves no purpose in his life so there is no reason to allow her to be in his life especially since on Christmas she chose to text him. It's not about a simple Merry Christmas greeting. Since my bf had no clue who was texting him cause it was an odd number she felt the need to toy with him on it and say"how can you not know who I am? I am so hurt." When if she really had any respect for my bf and our relationship she would just say who she is and be done with it. She just had to toy and drag out a simple holiday greeting. it just pisses me off.
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (20 January 2012):
Lovemeright11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are great thanks so much for the help. :D
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reader, peacelovecandy +, writes (20 January 2012):
 I make my boyfriend delete his ex's or girls he's talked to - they seem to do the SAME THING. I totally agree with you - they serve no purpose. I'm not friends with any of my exes and they're out of my life. His exes, however, aren't as willing to step away. They keep trying to add him, text him, call him, etc. as if our relationship is nonexistent. Maybe you should try to ignore it, he'll see that you've stopped caring. When it usually happens in my situation, I either block the girl so I can't see anything and forget about it, or I end up saying something if it gets to a certain point. That shouldn't be necessary, but really, what do they NEED in your boyfriend's life so bad that they can't go a day without texting him? Good luck!
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (19 January 2012):
Ex girlfriends aren't just something you can shamelessly delete from you life. For me personally, my ex girlfriends are all either friends or good aquaintences. I don't think there is bad blood between any of us and we're all much better off for it. This is mostly because even though we were broken up, we still shared mutual friends and didn't want them to have to "choose sides." That sort of thing sucks and we wanted to avoid that situation.
So I get what he's saying when he claims he doesn't want to start drama. Usually its a lot harder to cut someone out of your life and not face any negative repercussions.
However, she is also violating the space of your relationship and he should at least consider telling her that she needs to move on.
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reader, coldplaypotter1D-s  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 if your boyfriend loves you, he'll just ignore his ex's shameless flirting. to be honest, it's disgusting- (the ex flirting with him)
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (19 January 2012):
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sounds to me like she cant have him so no one else will....and if he was truely over her then why would he keep in contact ..is this what goes through your mind??
well STOP it now or you will only push them back together. Once someone has played a part in your life you cant just erase them, if you could everyones life would be simpler. He had a past with her and they have remained friends. However I do agree she was playing mind games with the texting, I would suggest that he tells her to pack it in or loose the friendship. If he wont talk to her about it, then maybe there is a little more going on behind the scenes, either way you are simply going to have to trust him untill proven otherwise.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 You are her ex's new girlfriend and you need to stop sweating the small stuff. In the scheme of things this is a minor irritation, like a bug that wont be swatted. Its not worth your stressing over.
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