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*egasgirl08
writes:I have been with my bf for about a month. He is my coworker and he left his live in gf of over a year to be with me. I found out that he talks with her either by text or call everyday still. And he still see's her once or twice a week. Works on her car a stuff. I found out that last week when he saw her he was holding her and crying and telling her he loves her and he's sorry for hurting her. He was evening kissing her. But just on the cheek, forehead and head. Never on the lips. And she was sitting in his lap holding him while he cried to her. Did he cheat on me? He is still with me but he tells her that he loves her and she is his best friend. Are they going to get back together?
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reader, KC12 +, writes (9 November 2014):
 It's hard to say if he's cheating on you...or still in some way "with" her and cheating on her with you.
Regardless, dump this loser!
You deserve someone who loves YOU and ONLY YOU!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (9 November 2014):
 Your boyfriend crossed the line. this isn't a one off, but a pattern of behaviour that is not going to get better with time.
It's a deal breaker and I can't think of anyone who would recommend you give him any more chances.
He's still in love with her and if he hasn't cheated now, he very likely will at some point if this continues.
No amount of heart to heart discussions is going to fix this. Just send him on his way.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (9 November 2014):
Your boyfriend crossed the line. this isn't a one off, but a pattern of behaviour that is not going to get better with time.
It's a deal breaker and I can't think of anyone who would recommend you give him any more chances.
He's still in love with her and if he hasn't cheated now, he very likely will at some point if this continues.
No amount of heart to heart discussions is going to fix this. Just send him on his way.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (8 November 2014):
Just dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2014): He sounds like a wanker to be honest! IF he has left her for you then he shouldn't be around their regardless .
And for kissing her and telling her he loves her ... get rid of him before he ends up hurting you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 November 2014):
 If your boyfriend is telling another girl he loves her, and if he is kissing her, on the cheek and forehead and head, and seeing her a few times a week and in contact with her everyday then what the hell is he doing with you?
He sure is cheating on somebody, whether he is cheating on you with her, or on her with you doesn't seem to be the issue, he is either a very mixed up young man or a user.
I think it would be much better if you backed away and gave him some time to decide what he wants .... jumping from one relationship right into another is just not healthy!
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