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Archived questions from: January, 2019 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My b/f of 20 years threw me out in the middle of the night with nowhere to go and now wants me back

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2147 days ago

31 January 2019 (F) - my boyfriend of twenty years threw me out the house in the night in the city hundreds of miles from my family. he wouldn't let me sleep and told me to pack my bags, leave the keys or he would torture me until I left. I was very frightened as he had ...

Were my in-laws out of line or did my brother overreact to an innocent question?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2148 days ago

31 January 2019 (M) - My in-laws have a problem with boundaries and they are kind of are drama queens. My younger brother on the other hand is more of a private person. So my wife and I had a six month old baby. On Christmas Day, we all had our families over (m...

Did I just ruin the best thing that's ever happened to me with one bad decision?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

29 January 2019 (?) - I feel like a complete fool. Tonight I did something stupid and opened a message on my fiance's phone. I didn't even read the message bit then lied to him when he asked me if I had read his messages. I did come clean and it has really upset him. He ...

Is my boyfriend's behaviour normal? He's admitted to going really strange sexual things relating to the girl he liked!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2154 days ago

29 January 2019 (F) - Hello. I’m starting to become a little bit freaked out by my partner. I just wanted to know how “normal” this was. He’s a normal man, hardworking, provides for the family, kind, caring and loving. He hasnt had many girlfriends in the past due to ...

I just found out that he's married and having an affair with me behind his wife's back! I want to run but he makes me happier than I've ever been. What do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

29 January 2019 (F) - I have been dating the love of my life for 4 months. I am an extremely introverted person, but felt extremely comfortable with him from day 1. The connection that we share is indescribable. He is the sweetest, most loving man that I have ever met ...

He doesn't have a life beyond me and I don't like the pressure that it puts on me. I want a way out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

28 January 2019 (F) - Hey all! This is a hard one for me... I am 26 years old and so is my partner. We have only been together about 3 months now. The relationship moved VERY fast, and we were saying I Love You after a month. I always told myself I wouldn't do that...

My crush at work knows I like her. She has a boyfriend. What do I do now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2160 days ago

27 January 2019 (M) - Hello. I have a coworker I happened to like her. I met her at work and became a friend but I have started having a feeling for her just 2 months now since last December. So I just told her yesterday how I feel and she was surprised but it went well. ...

New friendship w/ someone I met from a reality show

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2159 days ago

27 January 2019 (F) - Ok... I'm so confused. I am currently engaged. Not the best relationship by any means, but I am engaged and hoping for it to get better after a big move happens to get away from his insane and cruel family who hurt us pretty bad. Oddly en...

I want to give him one more chance and I also don’t!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2163 days ago

25 January 2019 (F) - My boyfriend and i habe been together for 2.5years.. In our time together ive caught him talking to/ getting pics from at least 10 different women. Hes not a terrible boyfriend.. He can be a jerk and a child at times but i do still love him.....

How is affection, spending time with someone or making sure your spouses needs are being taken care of, so many “things” to do for your wife that it would exclude her/me from the right to intimacy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2163 days ago

24 January 2019 (F) - I am currently three years into my second marriage. I have had successfull sexual relationships in the past. I have never ever experienced what I am currently experiencing so my question is two fold. 1. Is this a reasonable/healthy relationship? 2. ...

How do I deal with my parents who seem to prefer my brother!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2163 days ago

24 January 2019 (F) - I feel my parents don't care about me only my brother who lives with them. They pay for everything for him all his bills yet I don't get any help at all and pay my own bills. I feel not part of the family no matter what I do paid for lots of things ...

How can I show him without lecturing, messaging too much or irritating him that it would be great if we were exclusive?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

23 January 2019 (F) - Sorry but this is long , Me and this guy met on a dating site 3 month ago. We both deleted our profiles but are not exclusive. I told him i want a future with him and he knows how i feel about him. His words were lets just go with the flow. im ...

My boyfriend won’t call after we have an argument!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2165 days ago

23 January 2019 (F) - We Dear Cupid: I have been in a relationship for two years. I am 42 and he is 50. He does not like to text nor be on the phone and we do not have hardly any communication during the day and we see mostly during the weekend as he only comes to my ho...

She forces me to be completely silent when she talks to her parents!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2161 days ago

23 January 2019 (M) - I am 42 years old and my girlfriend (soon to be wife) is 32 years old. I love her, and she loves me too. Our respective family members know of our relationship, and that, we are going to get married soon. We’ve their blessings. Also, we are both ...

Am I asking too much to have a partner who prefers me or women my age over much younger women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2166 days ago

23 January 2019 (F) - I was in a marriage with a man who was pirn addicted for many years . I have now met another man who I thought was wonderful and believed was very attracted to me x I explained to him that my ex was more interested in women in their twenties despite ...

Should I let her go unless she takes the initiative?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2166 days ago

22 January 2019 (M) - I have been in a relationship for many years. We do not live together because we both agreed we would wait until each of our children are grown before we combine our households. There have been "ups and downs" over the years, but never anything ...

Why is he so reluctant to move in together?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2160 days ago

22 January 2019 (F) - My boyfriend of 18 months is reluctant to move in together. We have discussed it and he has said that he wants to, in the next year. But when I try to talk about it he gets grumpy and seems uninterested and irritated. For example, I had to go home ...

When one friend seems distant, what should the other friend do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2167 days ago

21 January 2019 (F) - Is it better to wait or break friendship? Two people who were close now are drifting apart. One is ignoring the other and the other is waiting. One tried talking to see if there are any issues but the other didnt gave clear answer. Other just said ...

Should I be over his cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2166 days ago

20 January 2019 (F) - I’ve been with my guy for over 6 yrs now. We got into a discussion yesterday about his twin boys momma. Saying you know we will have to be around her more. And I said “as long as nothing else happens again” due to him going behind my back a couple ...

My partner is unhappy with his job and I don't know how to help him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2169 days ago

18 January 2019 (F) - My partner has been feeling unhappy with his position at work. He feels it is beneath his skill set. He’s been looking for something different but hasn’t found anything in town that turns his crank yet. His boss can see he works hard and will ...

Do people like this ever change or am I best out of it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2157 days ago

18 January 2019 (F) - Hiya I’m in a relationship for 5 years we have a 2 year old son and we live together I just need some advice on this we used to go to school together and met up years later through social media we moved in together and had our son but the past year ...

She’s become obsessed with getting a visa and I feel neglected!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2169 days ago

18 January 2019 (M) - Hi everyone I lived with my girlfriend for 2 years and everything was great, then she had to leave the country and we've been long distance for 1 year. She has decided we should get married so i can get her sponsored to come here. The problem is, ...

The other woman or mind games?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2170 days ago

17 January 2019 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a woman for five years now. We have hit some rocky patches in our road together but always stayed together. There has been issues involving another woman, an ex of hers that she doesn't seem to want to let go of. ...

My partner's behaviour towards me has been very questionable ever since he lost his job. What's going on here?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2170 days ago

17 January 2019 (F) - This is a little uncomfortable to write, I'm not sure if I'm the problem or not. I've been in a relationship for 2 years and up until about 8 months ago it was really care free, relaxed, and just a joy really. Now, however, it's... I don't ...

My boss is not letting me move on from our affair

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2171 days ago

17 January 2019 (F) - I posted about a month/two back about having had an affair with boss and having ended it. He wanted to stay super secret best friends. But I’ve done a great job of only being professional with him and not interacting unless absolutely neces...

Should I resign from my job because I’m being bullied?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2169 days ago

16 January 2019 (M) - I’ve worked for a company for five years and enjoy my job. however a female co worker who is at the same company as me, doesn’t like me and is doing everything she can to make feel miserable. she has also back stabbed me a few times and has even ...

How do I deal with a friend who is demanding, irritating, needy, narcissistic and whiny?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2171 days ago

15 January 2019 (F) - Hi Aunts and Uncles! I often wonder what do people mean when they say that someone is a "good person" or a "bad one". That's why I hesitate to label anyone with just good/bad. My question today is: How to deal with a friend who's needy and na...

How can we get married when my LDR man doesn't get a job?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2174 days ago

14 January 2019 (F) - I have met a wonderful guy, it's been 15 months in our relationship, I have introduced him to my family, they accepted him, I haven't met his family yet because we live in different countries, we met through a friend, he is a good man, problem is, ...

My boyfriend's 12 year old doesn't like me and boyfriend will not step in and do anything

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2176 days ago

11 January 2019 (F) - Hi I’m in a bit of a dilemma and seriously need some advice. I’ve been with my bf now for 7 months. We both love each other And have spoken frequently about marriage and living together. However here is my problem. I have met and get on ver...

Why do I always want the people I shouldn't?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2175 days ago

11 January 2019 (F) - I've realized lately that the only time I've ever felt really crazy about someone, it was because I was not allowed to have them. To give an example, it started with an ex-boyfriend. After we broke up we still saw each other a few times a year, even ...

I'm tired of being the bigger person every time we argue

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2177 days ago

10 January 2019 (F) - Dear cupid, I've been wirth my boyfriend for about 2 yrs now, we live together and are very committed to each other and growing our life together. 2 nights ago we were watching a movie and there were preganant women and kids it. I'm in my early 30s ...

My partner makes it out like I am thick and always wrong

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2176 days ago

9 January 2019 (F) - Hi I’m in a relationship now for 6 years but he is so annoying at times he makes out as though I am thick and I know nothing about anything im always wrong in everything I do from tidying the house up after his mess to looking after our son I work 2 ...

My boyfriend won’t stop lying to me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2179 days ago

8 January 2019 (F) - Hi I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 7 months. He just turned 19 and he goes to college 5 hours away. This isn’t a problem we started dating Way before he started college and he didn’t plan on picking a school that far away but we make it ...

Boyfriend says he doesn't have time to be with me when I am sad or upset

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2179 days ago

7 January 2019 (F) - My boyfriend of 10 months has been staying away from me for a few weeks now after we had this fight. It was over the matter regarding my promotion and i was talking to him about it and got carried away talking about the promotion related other stuff ...

How can I deal with my coworker's crazy girlfriend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2180 days ago

7 January 2019 (F) - First off, I know I probably can't do much if anything about this, but I thought I would ask for advice anyway. Background: Recently I organized a secret gift swap for the holidays at my new job. I got my assistant manager, who is around the sa...

I thought he liked me but then he went ahead and completely ghosted me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2180 days ago

5 January 2019 (F) - To make a long story short: Started talking to this guy online..We hit it off. Met in person about a week later. Had great first date. He texted me when he got home to tell me he had a great time and wants to see me again and said he is inter...

Social and dating housekeeping - how to get things your way without being "intense".

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2183 days ago

5 January 2019 (M) - I'm very triggered by people who unreliable, flakey, put you on the bench, in social and romantic situations. Say for instance people who keep their options open but keep you hanging. What is a chill way to call attention directly to the ...

We got into a fight and now my friend no longer wants to be friends

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2182 days ago

5 January 2019 (F) - Recently i got into a row with one of my best friend. We have known each other for 9 months now and we used to be very close. We have had lots of fights and now she gets irritated on small small things. If i ask her to come out to meet, she ignores. ...

I'm a stay at home mom with 3 kids and feel all the parental duties have become one sided

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2182 days ago

5 January 2019 (F) - I've been in a relationship with this man for going on 5 yrs. In that time, we've had 3 children. Our 2 oldest, he was a great father. After our youngest was born this past yr our parental duties have seem to become a lot more one-sided. I ...

Why did she cheat in this way?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2174 days ago

4 January 2019 (F) - Hi everyone! So I recently just got out of a yearlong distance relationship with another woman. I was half her age and was the older one in the relationship and she was also the “man” as well. She lives in another country and even has a fiancé of ...

Has anyone experienced fake friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2185 days ago

3 January 2019 (M) - Has anyone experienced fake friends? Ones that will do enough to be there but on their own terms. So I have a friend I have known since child, and he is actually very negative. If I don’t say something right, he will jump at it to steer it in a...

Was my friend manipulating us to look good on front of my family and didn't really intend helping me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2186 days ago

2 January 2019 (F) - Thank you Aunts and Uncles for the advice you gave me last time I posted on this subject: I've had a friend since we were born - my father's best friend's daughter, who's been using my inability to tell her "no" for a few decades... Anyway... I di...

He told me to set a date to marry and now he's ignoring it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2186 days ago

2 January 2019 (F) - My boyfriend told me in October to " set a date" and he'd "show up". I'm afraid to do this. 20 years ago we were engaged and broke up and have reunited years later. I just don't trust. We are 45 and live in different states. He does have M.S., ...

My partner shouts at my 4 year daughter. How do I get him to stop?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2183 days ago

1 January 2019 (F) - Hi I have a partner and 2 children my oldest child is from a previous relationship he works through the day he comes home I go to work my son who is the oldest tells me that his dad shouts at our daughter and tells her to shut up I have mentioned ...

My friends are all so busy enjoying themselves they forget about me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2187 days ago

1 January 2019 (M) - 2018 was a difficult year but unfortunately I have realised I have no real friends. What would you do in the situation when you feel like you have no true friends. 2018 has been tough time with family issues, and finances however I feel like beca...

I'm sick of him screaming at me night and day. Should I leave? What if I don't find anyone else?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2183 days ago

1 January 2019 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend since I was 18, I'm now 26 and we've lived together for 3 years. In truth I feel like he is my 'comfort blanket' - I feel safe around him, he makes good decisions etc. And looks after me, I feel safe having him there, And ...