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Archived questions from: September, 2015 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

His ex was a slim red-head. Am I being silly by making the connection between his ex and what he's been preferring to watch via porn?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3332 days ago

29 September 2015 (F) - Sometimes my boyfriend and I watch porn during sex. My boyfriend doesn't have a particular type... blonde/ chubby / tattooed/whatever - he really has a broad taste but I know he prefers curvier brunette girls. However recently he's been lookin...

I wonder if maybe my ex was the one? But I really like this new man!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3333 days ago

28 September 2015 (M) - Hi all, Me and my boyfriend of two and a half years broke up about 5/6 weeks ago now. WeWeren't making each other happy and the break up was fairly mutual, he had suggest breaking up two weeks previous to this. Before breaking up I met anothe...

Am I being unreasonable? How can I trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3333 days ago

28 September 2015 (F) - Hi everyone, I am very stuck. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months and we were very happy and content together. I never thought that I would be thinking of breaking up with him but I really feel stuck. We were making plans for...

He felt me pulling away so he lied to me about where he was!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

27 September 2015 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'm newly divorced and have been dating a man for 9'months. He has been separated from his wife for 6 years, filed for divorce 4 years ago and the lawyers still have not reached an agreement. I was initially worried dating him since hi...

Should I cut contact with my ex? I'm worried about my new boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3334 days ago

26 September 2015 (F) - I've met and am in a new relationship with the most amazing, incredible man I have ever known. We both make each other very happy indeed and already have very strong feelings for one another. I feel very relaxed and comfortable around him and he is ...

How do I message a girl I've never talked to before without seeming creepy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3335 days ago

26 September 2015 (M) - So there is this girl who I follow on Instagram and have thought was gorgeous for a good year now. She is best friends with a friend of mine (whom I still talk with occasionally). I got out of a year and a half long relationship at the beginning ...

He dumped me and then died suddenly a week later, I'm hurting badly!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

25 September 2015 (F) - He was my first love. He broke my heart and then he died one week later very suddenly. He ended things with me and I was crushed. He wanted to get back with his ex. I had moved to his city 3 months before our break up so I was especially hurt ...

Getting back with my ex after 7 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

25 September 2015 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm meeting my ex for a few drinks on Sunday and this is the first time we've met since splitting up 7 years ago. We were together for 6 years though never lived together. He has two sons from a previous marriage who are now 25 and 2...

How am I supposed to continue into the future with someone as spiteful as she has been towards me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3326 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - I've been dating this girl on and off for a little over three years and I just recently found out that whilst we weren't together for a short period of time, she had sex with a guy that was clearly my enemy, but she didn't come clean about it until ...

Been divorced for ten years and happy now. But now my emotionally abusive ex wants to come back and live with me since the death of her partner. How do I refuse my ex-wife's request?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - I have an ex wife who was continuously unfaithful to me and was abusive, she divorced me about 10 years ago. I have been much happier since our divorce. We have a daughter together who is now 17. She moved in with me about a year ago after confid...

Do I stay? Just dating yet he expects me to be full time stepmom without the promise of marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3332 days ago

24 September 2015 (F) - My bf won't marry me but expects me to be a full time mom to his child while he works and goes on vacations. I'm feeling trapped. His son in five and has displayed major violent and angry behavior. He has attacked other children during outings a...

Is it wrong? Fling with Ex girlfriend's mum and she wants more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3336 days ago

24 September 2015 (M) - I recently had a fling with my ex-girlfriends' Mum and she wants to see me on a regular basis. Is it wrong? We're both single... I'm 24 and she's 41 and divorced. I went out with my ex-girlfriend for just over a year and during that time I a...

Is it his ex he wants or me? He does treat me well

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3338 days ago

23 September 2015 (F) - Ive been with my partner for over a year now hes lovely with me treats me is nice to me compliments me..and we are moving in togerher the only thing is he has a nasty ex...who has stopped him seeing his daughter....I recently found browser history ...

Why does he treat her better than he ever treated me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

21 September 2015 (F) - Yesterday I was on Facebook and came across my ex's current girlfriend's profile on my 'people you may know' list. Both her and I are friends with my ex's cousins. I was curious and clicked on her profile to take a look. Two years ago, my ex and I...

How can I get over this extremely painful breakup?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3339 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - My and ex and I split up in March and ive taken it badly. We split because we argued a lot and he had money problems. Ive been in turmoil ever since. Ive blocked him from facebook and changed my number and tried to move on with my life. He started ...

Should I contact my ex to talk things over? Or wait until he contacts me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3338 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Hi cupids, my ex boyfriend is so engrossed with my life. I have told him every single thing about me. He knows my family history. I have given him so much information about me that he can use to destroy me. It doesn't really bother me I did all ...

His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3341 days ago

19 September 2015 (F) - I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...

Am I wrong for not wanting him to have contact with his ex girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3340 days ago

19 September 2015 (F) - I've been dating a guy for the passed 2 months and he still works with his ex girlfriend. They had only broken up 2 month proir to us dating and they was together for 2 years. I had told him when we first started dating that i think it is a little...

He doesn't want me near him, and all I want is to be able to love him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3342 days ago

19 September 2015 (F) - ok to sum this up my ex recently cheated on me then told me he was done with our relationship. I was devastated but kept my head up. knowing that this is the end of us about a month later he tells me he's sorry and be willing to date me/ be physical ...

Its frustrating that my ex can't see his new girlfriend for what she is

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3341 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - My ex blamed me for stirring up trouble and talking behind his back when his current girlfriend (who he chose over me) does just as much stirring and gossiping. It really frustrates me how he blames me for everything and not her. She even div...

How do I respond to my ex's comments about our past sexual relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3342 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - I am single and in my 40's and in contact with an ex. We were talking about our very brief relationship from years ago and I said to him that I enjoyed our brief relationship all those years ago. He replied that we had fun and that we had some ...

Is falling for/crushing on other people really inevitable in long term relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - I am a 20 year old girl. I have had a few past relationships, and have been in my current relationship for a year. My boyfriend is 23. Just to be clear before I start: When I talk about "crushes", I mean the whole "can't stop thinking about he...

I'm wondering if it would be best to end things with my boyfriend because of his ex and child and all the drama?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3344 days ago

17 September 2015 (F) - I don't know how to deal with my boyfriend's child drama. My boyfriend and I are the same age, and we have a great relationship. We love each other a lot, we've been together for almost two years and never had a big issue. Currently we're ...

Why is my ex still friends with this guy after he hit on me but yet can't be friends with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3345 days ago

16 September 2015 (F) - I work at a local pharmacy as a cashier and my ex and his friend go there from time to time. It makes me uncomfortable that they are there. My ex doesn't go in because he is banned from the store (because he stole something before we started ...

Why does my ex need to stay in touch? I am rather irritated and annoyed but too nice to tell him to stop

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3346 days ago

15 September 2015 (F) - My ex still hands around me as a 'friend'. We stopped sleeping with each other about 10 years ago, as basically I do not find him attractive anymore - so had no desire to be in a relationship with him. However, his family live nearby and whene...

Is he just making jokey conversation or is he expressing interest about wanting to talk about it more with the innuendo and winking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3347 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - I am in my early 40s and on facebook the other day I messaged an old ex of mine who I am friends with on there. The comment was simply about spiders (as I hate them) and I remembered about staying at his house 20 years ago in his room and told him ...

I am absolutely dreading going to the mutual friend's wedding because my ex will be there with the other woman. I feel like the loser and she will be gloating and all over him :(

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3346 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - Dear Cupids I was seeing a man for a few months and we were getting on really well and his behaviour towards me showed that he was really interested and keen. He said that I was fun, interesting, and pretty, and we had some wonderful times ...

Am I a fool for falling in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3351 days ago

10 September 2015 (M) - Did I do the right thing, I turned around an walk away, without saying a word, I was seeing this gal for three months, fell head over heals in love, her ex beat all the time, she was going through therapy, for the abuse, when he got out of jail, she ...

My girlfriend is separated but is going on holiday with her husband and kids, I don't know what to think about it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3351 days ago

9 September 2015 (M) - I've been dating a really nice women since May and although she told me a few months ago that she is going on holiday soon with her ex husband and their two children there is something niggling at me about the situation. She says it's easier if the ...

How do I get over this massive blow to the ego on finding out, online, that the man I was seeing has suddenly moved on, to date someone else?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3352 days ago

8 September 2015 (F) - It's official folks - they're dating!!! How do you get over a massive blow to the Ego when the man who you were seeing suddenly moves on to another woman and makes a bold announcement on his Facebook page to further kick you in the guts? Years ago...

He's acting like his daughter doesn't exist! Advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

7 September 2015 (F) - Hello Aunts and Uncles I have a 6 year old daughter with my ex boyfriend who this time last year I would have said is the best father in the world and my best friend but ever since he met his new girlfriend it's like his daughter doesn't exist an...

My controlling ex doesn't want me talking to his ex-wife!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

7 September 2015 (F) - I was with a guy that was 18 years younger then me for almost 2 years. We broke up about 3 months ago due to the fact that he was not happy.. anyway he has a 6 year old son that I pretty much took care of while we had him. Hus ex wife has full ...

I can't let him go and I'm having trouble detaching from my ex. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3354 days ago

6 September 2015 (F) - I was with my ex-fiance for 3 years. He had rage issues which caused me to leave. He would pound his fists into his own head (very hard) in anger at me, he'd scream at me, etc but he never actually hit me. I was sad and felt trapped at times, b...

My ex is back and I'm not sure about getting back with him or not. Will blocking him stop the pain I've been feeling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3355 days ago

6 September 2015 (M) - So my and my ex broke up last May We spent a year together We didn't enjoy it We love each other but we have nothing in common and we hardly understand each other ! I hate a lot about his behavour and actions We used to fight every week an...

Should if be an issue for our wedding if I invite my ex Gf and her husband to our wedding?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3355 days ago

6 September 2015 (F) - While I was at college I had a relationship with another girl and it was my first and only same sex relationship. While I'm not ashamed to have been with a girl, it's not something that I shout from the rooftops. Since then I have moved away and...

Her father chooses to have no contact. What can I do that will not negatively affect our daughter?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3356 days ago

5 September 2015 (F) - I'm so annoyed my ex hasn't seen his child in 6 years. He pays maintenance but it's hush money. Recently he's neen all over the tv and papers saying how much he misses home as he's a solider. He talks about his family but doesn't once men...

My boyfriend plays happy families with his ex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3356 days ago

5 September 2015 (F) - I received a text saying that my bf was being thrashed by his ex playing crazy golf yesterday and just off to dinner with her and his sons. I knew he was taking his son out for his birthday but he forgot to mention he was taking her too. We have ...

His looking up his ex is a problem in our relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3356 days ago

4 September 2015 (F) - My boyfriend looks up his ex when he's having a rough day. We've had problems relating to her before and it has made me insecure so sometimes I snoop. I trust him and I know he's not going to hook up with her or anything but I worry about what this ...

Not looking forward to seeing my ex at our son's games

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3357 days ago

4 September 2015 (F) - Just enrolled my 4 year old son in soccer. I plan to attend his games with my fiance, and his Father will be attending with his fiance and probably all of her family. I have met my ex's fiance once briefly, but none of her family. Frankly, I am ...

Am I wrong in insisting she get a divorce?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3356 days ago

4 September 2015 (M) - I really need some help figuring out what to do in my current situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year now. When we first met I didn't tell her about an older daughter that I have because she hasn't been in my life for a very long ...

Now I find that he's separated, not divorced. Is it reasonable that I'm now anxious about our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3355 days ago

4 September 2015 (F) - About six months ago I worked with a guy that I really liked but I just got out of a relationship, not ready to date yet :( Well we recently reconnected about two months ago and started seeing each other which at first was really great! Super co...

How do I show him and prove to him that I don't need him anymore?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3355 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - Hey guys What's the best way to show someone you have an FU mentality I stupidly got led on by someone who I thought was interested as we were friends first but he hadn't tied loose ends with his ex - they're long finished now But then s...

My ex cheated, lied and even slapped my face once. How do I stop wanting to go back to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3350 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - dear cupids, really i need help. i am now overly happy, excited, and boosted with energy. what did i do? i simply watched some videos of my ex-boyfriend, in his car, in his house, mostly with his family members. my heart is just racing with...

Will he ever love me the way he loved her ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3146 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - I’ve been dating a guy. Its been a year and I really love him. The thing is, he has some major relationship issues that i believe . His ex cheated on him which has caused him to be very closed off and wary of relationships. I really think we have ...

I just wanted to make amends with my ex but now he hates me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3358 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - My ex hates me. We had a bad fall out over some big misunderstanding where he ended up blocking me before we could sort things out. Anyway things have just gone from bad to worse with us sending hate messages to each other via a mutual friend (who I ...

My ex wife completely messed my life up. How do I move on from something like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3358 days ago

3 September 2015 (M) - I am a 28 year old male who was married to a woman for the last 5 years and have a 3 year old son with her. I found out she was cheating for over a year with my best friend that Ive known since elementary school. I was upset but tried my best to...

Every guy I date seems to stay with the girl after me! Why?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3358 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - Every guy I date seems to stay with the girl after me. It's as if I set the standards on what's okay and not okay to do while in a relationship I feel like after dating me a guy fully commits to a girl, not saying they weren't commited to me. But I ...

I don't want to be bitchy over this. Any advice on how to handle this please?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3357 days ago

2 September 2015 (F) - I messed up things with my boyfriend and did something wrong for which he dumped me. I am really sorry about it but he will not stop getting angry with me and texting me horrible things. We had a week long argument which resulted in him sa...

He rejected me years ago. Should I ask him to be friends again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3359 days ago

2 September 2015 (F) - I have been in love with this guy friend for three years now. He knows about my feelings because I confessed a few months before our college graduation. Unfortunately, he doesn't love me back and only loves me as a friend. We didn't talk for ...

I need to put my hurt and anger behind me -- quickly!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3360 days ago

1 September 2015 (F) - Hi, I just wanted to write here as I can't seem to shake off these terrible feelings I'm experiencing. I'm 24 years old and lately for two months. It was the first time in about 3 years where I'd felt a bond with someone and that I could trust hi...