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writes:I was with a guy that was 18 years younger then me for almost 2 years. We broke up about 3 months ago due to the fact that he was not happy.. anyway he has a 6 year old son that I pretty much took care of while we had him. Hus ex wife has full custody but we got him every other week. So I became attached to this wonderful boy. I wasn't allowed to speak to the ex only drop the kid off to her. About 2 weeks prior to me and the ex boyfriend splitting up his ex and I met for the exchange and she began to tell me how sad I looked and how when she first saw me I was so happy, she said u know its him. He is controlling and mentally abusive. I agreed because she was telling the truth. He drinks beer all the time says he is an alcoholic, would not have sex with me for the last 8 months we were together said he wasn't attracted to me yet get mad if I wouldn't grab his dick. Or he would grab my butt. He said it was him and not me. Anyway, since the break up, the ex and I talk a lot and it started out because I wanted to check up on the 6 year old he was like a son to me I was with him more then the boyfriend. I moved three states away to get over him. So the ex wife and I talk regularly on the phone I have to admit that the first few times we talked she bashed my ex quite a bit but what she said he did to her, he also did to me. After the initial talks we started talking about other things I found out she really wasn't the bitch that the ex portrayed her to be. So here is the problem the ex has recently sent me a facebook message that has said what do I have to do to get you to stop talking to my ex!!!! She is no biz of yours!! How would you like it if I talked to your ex husband! His words exactly. Is it crazy that I'm talking to his ex wife? I like her as a person and have become friends. I'm no longer with him and she is with another man and has a child by this guy. So I don't understand why the ex is having such a problem. He no longer has say so as to whim I can speak to and as far as I'm concerned she is not his biz either. what is the big deal here?? I have always given this guy everything that he wanted respect, love, I bought him a car paid all the bills, cooked, cleaned, worked and went into debt trying to get lawyers so he could get more time with his son. I feel like he is still trying to control me...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 September 2015):
 Block the idiot ex on facebook and continue talking to his ex as much as you want, and when you want.
He is probably worried that if he finds a new victim the fact you and his ex are communicating mean it will be easier for the two of you to communicate to the new girlfriend the type of abuser he is.
Ignore him, he has no say in your life anymore!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 September 2015):
 Why is your EX on your Facebook still if he was such an abusive asshat?
Just block him or block him from seeing your feeds.
WHO cares that he doesn't want you to talk to the ex? It's NONE of his business who you befriend and whom you talk to.
He IS trying to control you and that fact that you are actually questioning if he is right? Makes me think he did quite a number on you.
CUT him out of your life. That means social media too.
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