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writes:My ex still hands around me as a 'friend'. We stopped sleeping with each other about 10 years ago, as basically I do not find him attractive anymore - so had no desire to be in a relationship with him.However, his family live nearby and whenever he visits them he makes a point of seeing me too - now and then, as if he can just drop by whenever. We're both single and he probably sees no problem in it. Now I don't mind seeing him as a friend - but I have no desire to get intimate with him and to be honest - I don't know what I ever saw in him in the first place as he is a bit boring.We get along as friends - but I just wonder if he is wanting something more as I don't encourage him in the slightest - nor do I ever phone him or go and visit him - so he must know I've lost interest.So why do you think he still needs to keep in touch so much? It is becoming slightly irritating and I'm not the kind of person to tell him where to go as we have known each other for years.
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (16 September 2015):
Namaskar,
Just let him know that you are not comfortable around him. He seems like a nice guy and probably is content seeing you as a friend, but if his being with you is so unbearable, you'll really have to tell him that the visits/contact must stop. I was in a similar situation and I didn't say anything at the time - but when I got into a new relationship, I ceased contact.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (16 September 2015):
"It is becoming slightly irritating and I'm not the kind of person to tell him where to go"
Why are you upset at him??? You just said it...Sorry you are mad at the wrong person my dear.
You are like a person you has a broken leg that is so painful and driving you nuts...but...you are not the kind of person to tell the doctor. However...you are really mad at your broken leg. :))))
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