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writes:Hey guys What's the best way to show someone you have an FU mentality I stupidly got led on by someone who I thought was interested as we were friends first but he hadn't tied loose ends with his ex - they're long finished nowBut then strung me along then decided he couldn't get closeBut for the next year kept me on text friend mode and then when I couldn't hold on my emotions and freaked out he blanked me for a yearHe texted me last November I wish I'd ignored it now but he seemed genuine - if I needed anything etcBut then nothing and now he only texts sporadically like once every 10 weeksWon't add me back to fb like I'm an embrassmentI've done got a high powered job and he last text 10 weeks ago and nothingHe swaggers around our old work place like he's the business when tbh he's an admin clerk and not even all thatI think I boosted his ego but now more than anything I'd like to show I don't need his crappy texts etcGuys never regret do they I want to show and also be strong ;(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all and denizen
Your wise words are sincerely appreciated
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reader, Denizen +, writes (6 September 2015):
 Look to the future, and not to the past. Life has many good things in store for you. Take joy in small things. Write down 10 things a day in a notebook that give you pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2015): I wrote my answer asking if you deleted him off Facebook before I saw your comment that you had kissed him and all that. I din't realise that he had. Because you missed some things off your question I thought he was just an acquaintance or something.
Just ignore him, that's the best thing you can do. Some guys are just quite smug and think they are better than everybody else. He doesn't seem worth being upset over.
Try and focus on doing really well in work! You'll find a lovely guy worth more than him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry just read the most recent reply
No I never commented much on his fb but yes I had deleted myself off when I was acting emotional
But tried to ask him to readd this year but he hasn't said yes / no anything
I'm not sure why he made contact since he's not been in touch at all but your advice has been all welcome
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've never looked down on anyone
I'm really sorry my wording came across wrong
I was making a point in a very bad way ;(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015): I wouldn't go as far as blocking him off everything, if he ever wondered why you weren't replying he may ring your phone. When somebodies number is blocked on my phone you can tell, it rings once and then cuts off to answer phone so you can tell that your blocked rather than the phone being off. That would just make it look like he's getting under your skin. Maybe change your number instead?I think he's not adding you on Facebook because you freaked out on him. Did you comment on a lot of his things before and it made him uncomfortable? Did you delete him off there in the first place?I know when a guy was interested in me before, but I thought we were just friends, I would text him and talk to him on Facebook. He started commenting on everything I ever posted and I don't really like that. I tried telling him I wasn't interested in a nice way but he would start asking me out again after a few days. I just stopped talking to him so much.I think he just wanted to be friends with you, if you freaked out on him before you ever dated I don't think he's going to change his mind. He may not even realise that you feel like your being blanked.I'm sorry if it sounds a bit harsh, all of the above may not apply to you and you didn't do any of that but it may be one angle. I've been on both ends of this, thinking somebody liked me but they were just my friend. Just focus your attention on somebody else that is interested in you instead.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 September 2015):
 You want to punish him for snubbing you, I get it... but really... what't the point?
The more you go out of YOUR way to show him you don't care or that HE lost something vital in his life when snubbing you, the more desperate you will seem.
The more you LIVE your life and enjoy what life has to offer -and ACCEPT that he wasn't the good guy you had hoped for... the sooner he will seem quite insignificant in every way.
WHO cares how he struts around at work?
Roll your eyes at it if you see it and ignore him, ignore his random text. MOVE on with life.
YOU CAN NOT change this dude, this is who he is... YOU CAN NOT change the fact that he snubbed you, nor that it hurt your feelings, but you CAN shake your head at it and let it go. It's not like he is a keeper anyways....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015): The best FU is to be happy with your life.
You've had a promotion. Congratulations. Be happy with what you've accomplished.
Who cares what he's up to or he's thinking or feeling about you or anything else? Seriously, find more important thoughts to occupy your brain space with rubbing his face in it.
He is proud of what he's achieved as an admin clerk. Don't look down your nose at him. That sort of bitterness doesn't bring much positive energy to future relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo no this has come across wrong as denizen has taken itI wasn't just friends there was a time we got close but not sleeping just kissingHe made out he was finished with herI don't think I'm better than anyoneThe reason I mentioned the job was because to get it has boosted meHe still thinks he's better than me that was my pointCouldn't give a rats what job someone does it doesn't make them betterWhat I meant was after the way he treated me I've excelled but he still thinks he's better
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for the wise words
No I'm in a different building to him but same company
I'm just angry that he still thinks he's Mr popular and goes out of his way to look charming yet treats me like an afterthought
We used to be very good friends but after getting close he binned me like I was an embarrassment
And now thinks the odd text is enough
I would just like to show him a big F off without having to if you understand and make him regret losing my friendship at the least
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reader, Denizen +, writes (4 September 2015):
I honestly don't know why you posted this question. It's fairly obvious that you ignore someone that you don't want to see. Are you feeling insecure?
It doesn't seem like he has done anything very bad to you.
He made friends with you. He finished with his ex'. He texted to ask if you were OK. He kept you on friend mode and YOU freaked out.
Now he just checks in occasionally. What is the problem?
You want to put him down as a clerk, and boost yourself as a high flyer. Then you finish with a rather nasty backhander, "Guys never regret do they".
I think you might be the one with a few issues.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (4 September 2015):
I'm with Sageoldguy1465. Ignorance is bliss. Trust me. Letting him get under your skin is a much bigger satisfaction for him and an encouragement too! Block him if you want. But that will only mean you are bothered with his existence. My honest opinion. Let him be and ignore him. Block him when his existence really doesn't bother you anymore. Better closure for you. Some people are just what they are, you can't help them. You can only help yourself.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 September 2015):
I agree with Auntie BimBim
Block his number. Block him on social media, make his e-mails (private, not the work ones obviously) go to the spam folder.
When you see him at work ignore him, if you HAVE to deal with him be polite, but make it short, professional with no extra bells or whistles - no flirting, no smiling - just DO your job and go about your business.
Don't waste time wondering what he is thinking, just GO ABOUT your life. ENJOY your life. Spend time with family and friends and screw what he thinks.
You have already wasted time on him, don't continue to do so.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 September 2015):
 You block him, you block him on your mobile and on all social media.
At work you treat him with disdain, you don't avoid him nor do you go out of your way to be near him, you treat him like a mere piece of office equipment, lower than a stapler. If you are required to speak or communicate with him for work purposes you are to the point, clear, concise and business like.
And succeed, succeed in your job and in your other relationships, nothing burns a person like him like seeing somebody he did the dirty on getting on with their lives and doing it well.
Good luck!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (4 September 2015):
You block him, you block him on your mobile and on all social media.
At work you treat him with disdain, you don't avoid him nor do you go out of your way to be near him, you treat him like a mere piece of office equipment, lower than a stapler. If you are required to speak or communicate with him for work purposes you are to the point, clear, concise and business like.
And succeed, succeed in your job and in your other relationships, nothing burns a person like him like seeing somebody he did the dirty on getting on with their lives and doing it well.
Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 September 2015):
 You'll be pleasantly surprised to find how effective it is to simply ignore someone, such as this guy, who "gets to you" as much as he does....
P.S. I mean, IGNORE FOREVER!!!!!
Good luck.....
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (4 September 2015):
 Don't answer them and ignore him
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