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writes:dear cupids,really i need help.i am now overly happy, excited, and boosted with energy.what did i do? i simply watched some videos of my ex-boyfriend, in his car, in his house, mostly with his family members.my heart is just racing with happiness, that happens every time i hear his name, smell his perfume or see his sister/mother/father.the thing is he cheated, lied, even slapped my face once! but he is still the source of my joy.we've been apart for the 5 month now, and i really do not want to go back mentally, but emotionally, i want him so bad!today i watched the videos because i have an exam coming up, and i need to focus. i knew hearing his voice and the way he kissed the camera would comfort me.for the 15th day today i sleep crying, i miss him and i tried talking to other men, but they only make me miss him more, in a way he is better in handling, listening and helping me.i have been single four 4 month, in relation with a new guy for 1 month, but i lost interest in him. another guy is asking me out, i only liked him because he looks like my boyfriend and makes me laugh all the time, but i can see he is trouble because i had experience with trouble first hand.i really need a solution to stop my heart from acting so childishly and actually obey my brain.i know i deserve better.thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2015): It will take time but you must stop thinking about him.
He lied , cheated and even slapped you !
Do everything you can to stop thinking about him. You deserve a better man.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear cupids,
thanks for the replies.
i am not happy about it, otherwise we wouldn't be apart now.
in my opinion, erasing the videos would not make him out of the picture.
he's constantly in the picture because we have memories together everywhere, i dream about him a lot, and common friends surrounds me everywhere constantly telling me that he tells them that he misses me.
but you're right. i am addicted, i will try to delete them gradually, that would be most appropriate i hope.
thank you so much for your time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (4 September 2015):
 When a woman is happy about a guy who slapped her face.... she needs to assess NOT HIM.... but herself....
Good luck....
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reader, Kingu  +, writes (4 September 2015):
 The first thought I had would be you should get rid of those videos. You are using them as a crutch or security blanket. You are not going to beat this need for him unless you stop constantly reminding yourself of him and going to this video when ever you need comfort. You are addicted to him and you have to treat this like you would any other addiction, give him up cold turkey. It will be hard on your heart and hard on your mind but it will help you get him out of your system and enable you to see you can survive without him and move on.
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