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36-40,
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writes:I work at a local pharmacy as a cashier and my ex and his friend go there from time to time. It makes me uncomfortable that they are there. My ex doesn't go in because he is banned from the store (because he stole something before we started dating)... but I feel somewhat uncomfortable that his friend is there because once at a party, his friend was so drunk that he kissed me, but for some reason, he got mad at his friend but they are still friends?! Which doesn't make sense to me. He was my most recent ex and we ended on what you can call I guess, bad or not so good terms. How come he's been able to stay friends with his friend, but cannot or will not stay friends with me? I'm wondering...Update: I'm already over wanting to be his friend by the way and they say that exes can't really stay friends, but still... I don't understand the dynamic between them, and how their friendship is able to last?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 September 2015):
 It's pretty simple, and pretty stupid, the reason why.
The person who came between them is no longer between them.
Since you're not in their world, their friendship can continue. However, don't think for a moment that it's the SAME friendship. You see the camaraderie, but not the trust.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (16 September 2015):
 A bro finds it easy to forgive a bro. The party kissing incident was more than likely hashed out as a dumb arse thing to do and now a thing of the past. relationships come and go but friendships tend to last a lifetime,for some anyway.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 September 2015):
 It must be some kind of " bros before hoes " thing.
It is not even totally devoid of sense. When the friend hit on you, you were still with your ex and your ex still cared about you, so, bro or no bro, he got mad. But, you are broken up now, and you split in bad terms , - he does not care about you anymore, so that transgression became forgivable , and maybe he thought it's not worth to lose a good friend over a woman ( bros before hoes )who does not even interest him anymore.
As for why he does not want to stay friends with you, - that's not so strange . Lots of people do not believe in staying friends with their exes- and lots of men are not interested in women ( or in that paricular woman ) out of a specific romantic and sexual context. For friendship they've got their buddies already.
I don't think you will be missing much. Not only because I am on those who do not believe much in staying friends with exes, but also because a thief ex may cost you your job and reputataion and sort of spells trouble anyway,
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