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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So my and my ex broke up last May We spent a year together We didn't enjoy it We love each other but we have nothing in common and we hardly understand each other ! I hate a lot about his behavour and actions We used to fight every week and lots of drama I was waiting a reason to end it and I did by catching him using online dating website I ended it and blocked him from any form of contacting me such as phone and social media I went through a bad time when we broke up , I cried a lot and felt the pain , I traveled to South America for a month and had a great time and started to date guys I just got back home and I feel better.But my ex came back to me ! He knocked my door 2 nights ago and stand smiling on the door! He said we need to talk I greeted him and I couldn't kick him off , although I thought about it before He stayed for one hour and asked me to unblock him from calling me.He said that he loves me and missed me ,etc.Now what should I do ? I'm afraid because I know it's not healthy to be with. My emotions started to move when I saw him. I only remembered the good times which was 30% of our realtionship Now I am not sure what to doAfraid of getting back with him and afraid and afraid of losing him if I rejected him ! Would I feel the pain if I blocked him and moved on in my life ! He moved my emotions and I feel that I'm too naive What should i do
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 September 2015):
 Well, I would NOT start to date him again JUST because HE thinks you should.
You already know it didn't work in the past and honestly nothing has changed since last May.
What I would do though, is temporarily unblock him from the phone and call him, tell him you have decided to NOT give it another try and that you WANT no further contact, no phone calls, no text, no e-mail, no friends-requests, none of him showing up at your door or work or whatever. NO contact.
Tell him you you know it was unhealthy before and you don't need to BANG your head against a brickwall to figure out that it hurt to do it again.
Tell him you wish him well, and good luck, but you are 100% done.
Then you RE-block him and MOVE on with your life.
Why is that you think you NEED him in your life?
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