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Archived questions from: July, 2015 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Failed past relation. Then online friend. How can I regain my health and get over my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3404 days ago

29 July 2015 (F) - i'm 23 years old female, felt in love for 4 years with a cheating guy. many cupids here helped into knowing that i was in a kind of abusive relationship, and it took me a lot of courage to actually let go of my boyfriend. i had a male friend who ...

We've been together 6 years and still his ex keeps contacting him. How can this woman be discouraged?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3393 days ago

29 July 2015 (F) - Dear cupid me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and his ex girlfriend won't leave him alone. She keeps pushing him about wanting to know if he is still in love with her. What can we do about her ...

Unrequited love. It's been so long, but I can't get over him. Should I call him to ease the pain?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3393 days ago

29 July 2015 (F) - I fell madly in love with this boy back when we were college seniors. We were really close and we spent a lot of time together. One night, I told him how I felt for him. I didn't really get a clear answer from him but I knew that he didn't love me ...

Is this history repeating? Could my current GF be similar to my ex? What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3409 days ago

27 July 2015 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now.. we are planning a baby and to buy a house together. Sometimes we have blazing rows which out me in bad form. Last blazing row we had ... I started thinking about my ex. Just curiosit...

I think my ex is on drugs and he wants no contact from me but I care and wish I could help him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3412 days ago

24 July 2015 (F) - (Mod Note: OP is in early 30's) I was with my ex for 3 years. At the beginning of the year I noticed a change in him. He became distant and moody and would snap at me for no reason. After a row one day he broke things off saying he didn't love me ...

I don't feel I owe him an "official" break up. My friend says I left my bf for minor reasons. Did I?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3411 days ago

24 July 2015 (F) - Is it immature to leave a long term boyfriend for minor reasons? My bf has never spent any of his birthdays with me for the almost six years we've been together. It too four years for me to meet his mum and I've never been invited to family ...

I've been scarred from previous relationship and think of ex though I don't want her back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3410 days ago

24 July 2015 (F) - I split up with my ex a year ago and have only started to get intimate with someone new but I keep getting very emotional being with the new person. I don't know why! I really, really like this new girl but I keep thinking about my ex and how bad ...

We broke up. Why is he so keen on me talking to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3414 days ago

21 July 2015 (F) - He knew he wanted to break up with me but requested a break. I ended up breaking up with him and he did not put up a fight. This was in may. He keeps coming back and at first I just said I do not want to be friends. I do not want to talk. Leave ...

I want to date, but I feel stuck in an previous relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3415 days ago

21 July 2015 (F) - I was in a relationship for about 2 and a half years. We never really fought, but I never felt he was serious or dedicated. I broke up with him once for a lack of dedication (felt like I was putting in 80% while he put in 20%), got together again, ...

Why can't I just do what any normal person would do and throw him out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3414 days ago

21 July 2015 (F) - My partner of 5 year, we've been seeing each other for 8 years and living together for 5 starting chatting with a girl on Twitter I. February. He's 58 and she's 27. I found out by accident in March and it had already got very deep between them. I ...

My boyfriend took up with another woman two weeks after he dumped me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3416 days ago

20 July 2015 (F) - My boyfriend of 3.5 yeas left me in March this year saying that he no longer loved me as we argued too much and didn't get on. I was devastated as he was stepdad to my 5 year old child as well as my partner. He wouldn't even consider a break or a ...

They all met new guys but I didn't!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3415 days ago

20 July 2015 (F) - I went out with my friend and my sister last night and some other nights. We all hoped to meet new guys. Well I didn't and they did. So we're somewhere and I am all alone and they are talking to these new working class guys that got themselves ...

I've tried. It's not working. I want to give up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3416 days ago

20 July 2015 (F) - Hello , I would admit to being depressed for the past few weeks. Let me start by saying I am at a point in my life where I am not happy with my finances, my relationship and everything in general. I have gone out a couple of times with the intention ...

My ex thinks that I want to get back together with him and I don't

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3417 days ago

19 July 2015 (F) - I feel like a bad person right now and I feel like I just don't understand my ex or his family. We share a daughter so when she was asked to be his brother's flower girl, and I was also invited it seemed like going with my ex would be ok. I know now ...

He lied to me. I am so angry with him, yet can you love and hate someone at the same time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3417 days ago

19 July 2015 (F) - Six months ago, I was going out with a guy. We were both sixteen. His ex also made me feel very uncomfortable as she still liked him and kept making jibes over us. This guy has had a string of girlfriends but he was my first boyfriend. I tho...

Together 4.5 years. How do I pick myself up and cope with him moving on, after our recent breakup?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3416 days ago

18 July 2015 (F) - I have no idea how else to deal with this. My ex fiance broke up with me 2.5 months ago after 4.5 years together. There was no cheating or lying or anything else; just, I guess he grew apart from me. I was ready, absolutely ready for us ...

Anyone who's ever reconnected with an ex? Is it possible to fall back in love with an old flame?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3419 days ago

16 July 2015 (F) - Is it possible to fall back in love with an old flame? We first started dating years ago. He wanted to concentrate on his career. I wanted more commitment. We split as we wanted different things. I have met up with him once or twice over the...

Breaking up was not my choice. Do I tell my current Bf that I have feelings for my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3420 days ago

16 July 2015 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am so confused and would really appreciate any advice. I am currently in a relationship with a really amazing guy. He's kind and funny and treats me the utmost respect. And my parents like him, which is a great bonus. But there is ...

Should I go to the funeral of a very dear friend even though I'll feel like an outsider?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3417 days ago

16 July 2015 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, Recently I received the devasting news that a friend of mine has passed away and not only am I grieving for him but it has brought up a lot of sad feelings. I knew my friend for many years (16 years) and he was best frien...

My husband of 5 years told me that he still loves his ex and she is always in the back of his mind. Should I encourage him to try and find her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3420 days ago

16 July 2015 (F) - I've answered a lot of questions on this site, and now it is my turn to ask for advice. I'm a woman in my mid forties who has been with my awesome, loving husband for almost 5 years. Our relationship is amazing, far and away the best of my life,...

My fiance's ex accused him of bodily harm and he was arrested. We are to get married in 5 weeks and now I'm scared!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3418 days ago

15 July 2015 (F) - Please help because I am a little scared. I am due to be getting married in 5 weeks to a lovely lovely man who has 2 wonderful children who I adore. We have been together for 4 years and so so happy. However, after going through court to get...

This love-rat LDR guy has been chatting to me for a year. I thought it was a relationship. How do I pick myself up after all this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3413 days ago

15 July 2015 (F) - Please help! A man I had met online found me on Facebook and started chatting to me. More than ONE YEAR later he left Facebook, started a Twitter account and my whole world has fallen apart. I found him sending sexy comments to a particul...

Based on his past actions, am I being too judgemental here, or is this a red flag?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3421 days ago

15 July 2015 (F) - I have been chatting to a guy who was married for 15 years and has been divorced five years and who has two thirds of childcare responsibility as his ex wife has a mental health condition. He told me he had an affair when the two children wer...

He is in very regular contact with his ex. What do you think of his reasoning and actions???

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3419 days ago

15 July 2015 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. I visit my boyfriend once every 4-6 weeks. I have two issues I'd like your opinion with. Thanks Aunties and Uncles! 1. On my recent trip to visit him, I discovered that ...

Should I be more strict in regards to visitation? Or just let it go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3419 days ago

14 July 2015 (F) - I need some advice on how to deal with a situation I'm facing in regards to my little girls dad, and how best to approach this. I had my daughter when I was 16 and her dad was 17. We have always had a good relationship even when we broke up when...

I am almost certain my boyfriend is back in touch with his ex, but he won't admit it. How can I know for sure?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3417 days ago

14 July 2015 (F) - I have a strong gut feeling that my boyfriend is in touch with his ex the last couple of days through Facebook. He admitted that he looked up her profile yesterday but He has denied talking to her but I'm 90% sure because I trust my gut feelings ...

Why is he so commitment phobic? Is he frightened of commitment?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3422 days ago

14 July 2015 (F) - I am a 51 year old women who looks quite young for my age. I work as Air Cabin Crew and also as a college lecturer. I met up with my first love a few days ago after not seeing him for over 12 years. He came to me in a dream and I felt it was a ...

Should I be freaking out because she gave a guy a bj when she was much younger?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3423 days ago

14 July 2015 (M) - Modnote: this is very similar, in the circumstances, but NOT identical to an earlier question submitted recently - you may also find some good answers here: www.dearcupid.org/question/can-i-get-over-this-revelation-three-years.html below is what...

I know he doesn't want to be with me, I don't necessarily want him but I don't want to be used!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3423 days ago

13 July 2015 (F) - I have recently met a man but I am struggling with how I feel. Basically he is one of those people who gets with a lot of women and is very casual, and seems somewhat hung up over his ex-girlfriend. He says things like 'It would work now but he's ...

How can I build up the strength to NOT go back to him? His behaviour has been inconsistent and confusing

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3423 days ago

13 July 2015 (F) - I need some help finding out how to move on from a terrible, emotionally abusive relationship which has destroyed me. I have been involved with a guy for around eight months. When we first got together, he told me he was kind of involved with so...

He doesn't want his friends to find out that he's going out with me. Why? Why does he limit communication?.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3424 days ago

12 July 2015 (F) - At the moment I am feeling really upset because I'm going out with this boy and he won't barely talk to me, he has got a lot closer to his friend but I doubt that's the problem. He told me that he broke up with his ex girlfriend because she was ...

What does love feel like? Am I being silly looking for more than what I had with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3424 days ago

11 July 2015 (F) - So I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years and on the face of things we had a really great relationship. He really is lovely. So respectful and trustworthy and generous and kind. He would do anything for anyone and I really do love him. The thing is...

How can I continue to hurt the most important person in my life?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3423 days ago

11 July 2015 (M) - Hey all. I'm 23 years old, and I've been sabotaging my life and I want to make it stop. My current ex girlfriend is the love of my life and of that I am absolutely certain. In every aspect of life she is perfect for me. Attraction, mental, fina...

No communication since Christmas and he's blocked me. So how do I get him out of my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3427 days ago

9 July 2015 (F) - Hi, I had a bad fall out 6 months back with a guy who blocked me on both phone and Facebook. I am doing pretty well so far, getting on with life and work and not feeling depressed or anything - however I STILL think of him on a daily basis and ...

He's always talking about his ex. Will this phase out or I should I get out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3424 days ago

9 July 2015 (F) - We are three weeks into dating, having met 3 times, there's been calls, messages and he is reliable as he initiates communication. I really like him. I have a different look to what he's normally dated, but he compliments me and says he's attracted ...

My ex-boyfriend acts like we're still together, but says he doesn't want me. How do I respond?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3428 days ago

8 July 2015 (F) - I'll apologise for the long post but I'm in a very confusing place and desperately need advice. My now-ex boyfriend broke up with me at the end of April. Two days after we broke up, I went to his house and spoke to him about it. After we'd finis...

Having issues with my future in-laws choices for a meet-up. How should I handle this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3427 days ago

8 July 2015 (F) - So my in-laws (to be) have a foreign exchange student visiting them who stayed with them some time ago. She has been at their place all week. They want to drive tomorrow (they are 2 hours out) and visit us and have supper with us at our house...

Was he trying to make me jealous?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3428 days ago

8 July 2015 (F) - This guy and started talking we went out a few times he always text me first . And I will text him every once in awhile but he was being shady so I just gave up completely on him I really liked him and I wanted to move on because he's an asshole. So ...

What's the best way to get over someone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3424 days ago

7 July 2015 (M) - What's the best way to get over the ending of a long term relationship? I broke up with her almost two months ago and I'm still finding the grief hard to cope with. I think about her an awful lot still and at times I'm still very upset and anxious ...

My last relationship didn't end well and now I'm worried this new one may not end well because I no longer trust my judgment!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3427 days ago

7 July 2015 (F) - My last relationship did not end well. We were together for 6 years, the last 2 or so of which we weren't happy as we had grown apart and weren't right for eachother anymore (I was only 18 when we got together, 15 when we met). After forcing ...

I wish he would mention me when he messages with his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3430 days ago

6 July 2015 (F) - My boyfriend hasn't seen his wife for two years he just has to send the papers for divorce when he gets more money. Problem is she still messages him all the time with a variety of things some asking for the divorce papers some calling him very bad ...

She is my ex-girlfriend's sister and I'm starting to get feelings for her. Is this my mid-life crisis?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3431 days ago

5 July 2015 (M) - I dated a girl about 12 years ago for 3 years, we ended on good terms, but just after we broke up, I became a good friend to her slightly older sister. I dont really speak to my ex anymore but i am still very good friends with her sister. Her ...

How can I let go and get over all the things she said to try to make me think she cared?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3432 days ago

4 July 2015 (M) - So I am a 19 Year old US Marine, and i made the mistake of joining the Military while in a relationship, (i know im still young, dont remind me..) things were great. Until i told her we should take a break, since my for my job (MOS School) i had to ...

We parted amicably, but now I'm suffering rebound agony. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3432 days ago

3 July 2015 (M) - Help! I've recently split from my partner of four long years of what began as a wonderful relationship yet ended with the two of us bored and wanting out. We parted as amicably as we could, yes there were tears and pain but nothing out of the ...

I fell in love with another man while my husband was in jail

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3431 days ago

3 July 2015 (F) - Hi Aunts! I have been a member here since 2011 and you always help me everytime I need, and now here I am again please I need a real advice, please don't judge as I really need help for openminded people I am 24 years old asian married to a 60 ...

How should I handle my jailed ex who's written to me out of the blue?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3434 days ago

2 July 2015 (F) - My ex boyfriend - who was always in and out of trouble with the law has just written to me out of the blue - from jail. I used to be madly in love with him - only to find out that he only ever wanted me for handouts and money. Anyway, to cut a...

Why my ex remodel the house exactly as I'd always wanted, but he never did it until after I left him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3434 days ago

2 July 2015 (F) - I got divorce last year, it was my idea. My ex didn't take it well and basically dragged me trough hell with himself. I see him regularly because we have a 7 years old daughter. He is still hurt and he and his family did their best to destroy me a...

How do I deal with these negative emotions (lack of trust) while engaging in a possible relationship with this new guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3433 days ago

1 July 2015 (F) - I have severe trust issues due to an absolutely HORRIBLE 5 year real-life relationship that I got out of 4 months ago. 2 months ago I met this man on xbox while playing a game and we hit off instantly. The connection we share is unlike anything I've ...