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writes:My partner of 5 year, we've been seeing each other for 8 years and living together for 5 starting chatting with a girl on Twitter I. February. He's 58 and she's 27. I found out by accident in March and it had already got very deep between them. I confronted him and all he could do was say it was my fault for snooping and that there was nothing in it, that he was just trying to cheer her up but that he wouldn't be told who he could speak to. He said he'd stopped but he was lying, she started sending him photos. Naked photos, dirty photos and sexting him. He's in turn bought her gifts. He keeps denying it and saying there's nothing in it. Making me think I'm going crazy. It's still going on and he's still denying it. And yet I stilllove him. Why can't I just do what any normal person would do and throw him out Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2015): Treat it as if you were a landlord, give him a months notice, if you tell him you're waiting for him to be on his feet he'll dawdle.
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reader, Purplekarrie +, writes (22 July 2015):
Purplekarrie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, it's my house and most of the stuff in it is mine. I owe nothing. We had a very good relationship and rarely argued. Like all relationships it had highs and lows and we were going through a bit of a low. But until this he did not disrespect me. That why the whole thing is so difficult to understand. And no I haven't just kicked him out. I will need to know he has somewhere to go and enough things to set up home
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reader, Euphoria30  +, writes (22 July 2015):
Dear OP,
You have been living together for 5 years, so if you want to separate and go different paths, you can't just say "pack your bags". Life is more complicated.
Could be that half of the furniture is his, that you're currently depending on his income to keep the place where you're living.. you two need to figure out those things if it should come to a break up. Who owns what, who owes what..
And also, you need time to process this emotionally. That's not easy.
My question would also be: How did it come to this? Was it a good relationship most of the time, or did you take a lot of disrespect and this is just the tip of the ice berg? Or did you fight a lot?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 "Why can't I just do what any normal person would do and throw him out?...."
You can. And once the pain gets bad enough, you will....
good luck...
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