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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I split up with my ex a year ago and have only started to get intimate with someone new but I keep getting very emotional being with the new person. I don't know why! I really, really like this new girl but I keep thinking about my ex and how bad our relationship was, I think it's scarred me so badly.I want to be open but I am so petrified because I don't want to do something stupid, like cry to them because I cannot keep myself together.I do not want my ex back in any way, shape or form, so what is going on?!! Thanks!
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reader, chipmunk37 +, writes (27 July 2015):
 I think you keep thinking about your ex because you have unfinished business with him. You unconsciously need closure on an issue with him and he will keep haunting yourthoughts until you get it. Maybe it is a little too soon for you to enter a new relationship, you need time to get over your ex and time to mourn the future you would have had with him before you can begin to envision a future with someone else.
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reader, MSA  +, writes (24 July 2015):
 This is because you are not over your ex. Doesn't mean that you necessarily want to get back together with your ex.. but just there are emotions and feelings you have not fully processed. This takes time.. a lot of time.
You started a new relationship not knowing that you were not fully over your ex.
There is only two things you can do now..
1. Break up with your current boyfriend.
2. Try your best to focus on your current relationship. The longer you are with your current boyfriend and the more in love you are, the faster and easier it will be to get over your ex.
Best of Luck!
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