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*nonem
writes:I went out with my friend and my sister last night and some other nights. We all hoped to meet new guys. Well I didn't and they did. So we're somewhere and I am all alone and they are talking to these new working class guys that got themselves together. I had to go lock myself up in one room and write this. Need I mention I have gone out a lot, noone approaches me. It's not about my looks, I am beautiful. How do I behave without looking childish and how do I overcome this feeling of rejection. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 July 2015):
 I wanted sweet potatoes for tonights dinner (had the dinner all planned out) and the store didn't HAVE any sweet potatoes (well it did , but they looked grubby and not at all the quality I wanted) So... I adjusted the menu and bought red potatoes...
Now why am I talking potatoes here?
Because sometimes when you go out, there isn't ANYONE there you get that little "zing" I want to get to know THAT GUY! Or the guy who might have been interested in you were unsure how approachable you were. Just because you are pretty.... doesn't mean guys will flock to you. Sometimes guys even avoid the prettier girls because there can be assumptions going on - as in pretty girls are high maintenance - she is too pretty for a guy like me , etc.
I don't think you were rejected at all. And I would take it as rejection that you didn't get "picked" by some dude at a club.
I think meeting people can happen ANYWHERE as long as you are open to be the one to make the "first move".
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 July 2015):
 Your mission is to meet new people, not to wait to be approached. Guys can just be as shy as you. You can go look for a guy who's by himself. If you are not working yet you can talk about what your goals are, what school you go to. You are right, it's not just about looks. People are there to have a good time. If you still need help you can tell your sister this is hard and you would appreciate it if she introduces you to some guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2015): Love doesn't happen just like that! You have to 'click' with someone - find the chemistry. You can't just expect to go to a bar or club & see Mr Right sitting there waiting for you - sometimes it happens, sometimes I doesn't!
You are still so young - enjoy your freedom first - why tie yourself down to someone just so you can say "I've got a new guy"!!
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