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Archived questions from: September, 2011 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I can't give up what we have but I can't live in limbo either

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hey , im not really sure what to do so im asking for some advice ..My ex broke up with me about a month ago due to still having feelings for his ex of 7 years ..its hard coz we wanna b together still ..The other day when we were chilling he told me ...

I work hard, while he borrows money from me and then takes days off from work to watch sports!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - My partner pays maintenance for 1 child + ex. He’s a salesman so income varies. I just had to lend him money to replace his stolen phone because he couldn’t afford to, and then he also needed extra money to tide him over until his commissions were ...

She recently added the ex as friends on facebook. Should I be jealous? Will it affect our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4792 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - My girl friend used to love some guy before we met but didn't start relationship.she said she only loved him because of peer influence and she was a fresh man student and alone.this was before 5 years.now they are friends on facebook and i don't ...

Why is my bf ex being a yoyo in his life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi all, I have a long distance boyfriend and everything is great. There is just one thing that I have a problem with. He keeps adding his ex to facebook every time that she sends him a request, then she will get the shits with him blocks him, and ...

I am in relationship stress over this situation. Does he really love me? Why did he ignore me for so long after my Mom died?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi Dear Cupid it's me again now a senior in high school and that also means that I have more relationship stress. As you may know from my last questions I've been involved with my bestfriend/ now ex-boyfriend and just when I thought things coul...

I don't really want any contact with her, but I feel I should wish her a happy birthday

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - In a nut shell my ex's birthday is coming up and part of me wants to wish her a happy birthday and the other half doesn't because I don't want any contact with her, but im not a horrible person and I don't want to feel like a bitch because I didnt ...

My boyfriend is close friends with my ex boyfriend..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - So here's the story. I dated this guy for a year, let's call him Mike, and when we broke up we pretty much stopped talking at all. Mike started dating one of my friends, and I started dating one of his friends shortly after (let's call him Tom). (...

I broke up with my ex and I regret it, but think it's to late

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I been broken up for about 2 months already. We broke up once and it lasted for 4 months and we both liked other people, but in the end, she came back because I didn't contact her at all and we ended up going back out. We went out for 3 ...

Is my ex still keen on me or am I losing my head?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hey guys , my ex broke up with me about a month ago due to still having feelings for his ex of 7 years ...we have remained great mates, I still really like him and he wants to be with me but can't be 100 percent for me cos of those feelings .. The ...

My long-term boyfriend can't see how destructive his wanting to help his ex is to our relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, So I'm in a very serious relationship, and we've both talked many times about how this is it for both of us. Yet, I'm starting to have doubts, and thinking that I don't really want to be with him anymore. Unfortunately, I get into this kin...

Should I be worried that she is still friends on Facebook with her ex, and she hasn't changed her relationship status?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My girlfriend and the man she used to love before are now facebook friends. does this have anything to do with our relationship? her relationship status is single while mine is in a relationship...

Feeling confused about this relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Feeling Confused: I am in a long distance relationship with someone who I love very much. We talk everyday for aprox an hour. Now I am feeling confused about he feels. He lives with his Dad and I still live with my ex husband. A situation I know i...

He talks about his ex too much and he said he still loves her! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I have a boyfriend. I love him very much, but he Talks a lot about his ex. I'm really over it and he told me he still loves her, it's really upsetting me and idk what to do. :( help me please...

My ex and I broke up and I regret what I did, is there hope?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I been broken up for about 2 months already. We broke up once and it lasted for 4 months and we both liked other people, but in the end, she came back because of the NC rule and we ended up going back out. We went out for 3 and half years ...

My ex is confusing me.Is he doing it on purpose?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - hai everyone.Am in a confusing situation.My ex boyfriend and i were together for 11 months,we broke up 4 months ago.We are at the same university.i broke up with him after i found out that he cheated on me when we closed school.The girl he cheated ...

Is his promiscuous ex flirting with my man? What can I do to stop it, or am I possessive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Hello everyone, I have a loving relationship with my bf for a month plus. Before that we already knew each other for almost a year. Although I'm very happy with everything, I can't help but feel that his ex is trying to flirt with him. She replies ...

My ex keeps saying OK to meet up, but she's never available. Is she genuinely busy or doesn't want to see me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I broke up about a month ago or so and after a while apart I started getting all these mixed signals from her. We have to see each other a couple times a week due to something neither of us can avoid. She has been flirting with me...

My brother is obsessed with his ex wife and I can't deal with helping him anymore! Do I write him off?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4794 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Hi there, I'm curious as to what everyone would do about this (if anything) My brother was divorced from his ex wife about 8 years ago. They have one daughter who is now 10 yrs old. The trouble: he is obsessed with her and it's making him sick...

Mixed signals from my ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Me and my ex was together for 8 years until 4 weeks ago when we finished. We had our ups and downs but we had a good life and had worked hard for everything that we have got. My ex said I became to clingy and made her feel unloved, unwanted and ...

I feel like I am competing with her kids and her ex

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

27 September 2011 (M) - Is it screwed up to feel as though you are sharing someone with kids and an ex? As though they're never fully yours and always belong to an ex. Its so tough to admit it though. ...

His ex is a newly married good looking girl. What does it mean to us he checks her out on FB regularly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4793 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - We are just about to get married and I found out that my future husband is regularly visiting facebook profile of his ex who is also freshly married. He told me about her, that he left her as he couldn't imagine being with her for the rest of his l...

Why do people expect their significant others to stop seeing the mother/father of their child even though they are together?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I have seen alot of questions on this site an also on TV and once with my aunt. Why do people expect their bf/gf/husband/wife/fiance to stop seeing the mother/father of their child because they're together? For example, lets say a girl and a bo...

After seeing his emails I feel like I can be replaced

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - my Bf left his fb open on my pc... i didn't realize it was his at first clicked on the messages and saw that he was in serious contact with his ex... to the point of lending her 2500.00 to get a place... she is having issues with her man etc... same ...

When my ex and I are around each other, he tries to stay busy, why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4792 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - Hello, I would love a mans perspective on this as well as a womans! My Ex and I have known each other for 10 years, was together for 1 year and have been broken up for 2 years now. We still remain friends but feelings are still there on both of our ...

I just can't seem to get over my ex and can't figure out why!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4795 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - O.k so I am in quite a weird situation which I can't seem to figure out so let me explain my situation so hopefully someone could give me advice ! This is probably really long by the way So it's been 2 years since me and my ex broke up, I broke up...

I wish my b/f could have sex and kiss like my ex!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - I have been dating this guy for 2 years now. He's not a great kisser and the sex is pretty bad - he doesn't last. I have talked to him about the sex and kissing, even guided him through how I like it. But he slips back into the his bad kissing the ...

I broke up with him because he's still staying with his ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - someone try and convince me that i have done the right thing. i just left a relationship, because my x boyfriend is still staying with the mother of his daughter. he claims he doesn't love her, and that she has no where to go. plus she is looki...

I cannot ignore my former LDR any more. I took a risk. Was this the right way to reconnect with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - Five months ago, I told a long-distance love (I live in LA; he's from San Fran) that I couldn't do it anymore. Mainly, because he would constantly tell me he missed me and wanted to see me, yet wouldn't follow through. Granted, we only dated six ...

Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4765 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, ...

My girlfriend is still in love with her ex. Should I break up with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

25 September 2011 (M) - I will try to make this as short as i can... My gf still feels something for the ex...more specifically love...now...it would be normal in a long relationship...but she was with him 4 months only...and wasted a year trying to win him back...and t...

He is giving me mixed signals

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4797 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - I'm confused by the mixed signals this guy is giving me. I don't think it's anything but afew of my friends are convinced there is something in it. We had a brief stint in the summer but he only wanted me as a rebound girl so we stopped talking. We ...

I have led this guy on, just to get me over my ex. I don't really like him though. How can I let him down gently?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - Last week I followed some really bad advice and it's got me in trouble. A friend said to get over my ex I should casually try flirting with other guys. So I did this and a guy sent me a message asking for my number, I asked for my girls advice cus I ...

What does this mean in male language?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4794 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean ...

Can I get my ex back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - i'm mad at my ex 3 weeks ago and when he said hey to me, i ignored him. then no contact. even if we met, he avoided me. about 2 weeks ago,i called and told him we could still be friends, we don't have to avoid each other. but like 5 days later, i ...

I love my boyfriend but I can't stop thinking about my ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - a few months ago me and my boyfriend that i consider to be the love of my life broke up since then iv been going out with another guy and i do love him he's amazing but i can't get my ex out my head im still crazy about him even though we broke up ...

My ex and I text each other a lot. Does this mean he still has feelings for me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - ok so some years ago i was dating this guy. He was awesome. We didnt went too far on our relationship just held hands kissed n some cuddling, then he got me at a point where i was so head over hills for him and he tells me he didnt wanted us to co...

I want to send my ex a 'hello' message but I don't want him to get the wrong idea

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 months ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know ...

Do I have a chance of getting back with my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) - Well I called my ex up, got her voice mail. I said something like, "just wanted to chat for a minute, call me back if you want. ttyl." She called back like 5 mins later and said she was in the shower. Sounded happy to hear from me, who knows? she ...

Sending my ex a hello?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4798 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 mos ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know he's ...

I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried d...

He moved on quickly. Did our relationship mean nothing to him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - i was w/ my boyfriend in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 yrs and i recently broke up w/ him b/c i didnt see a future w/ him. he started dating someone new in only two weeks and when i found this out i was really hurt. does this mean that our ...

Pictures of ex's!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) - Hi all, Last week i discovered pictures of my gf's exes (yes, there were pictures at least 3 of her exes in there, probably more) she had saved in her external hard drive in a folder. In the same folder, there were pictures of me too. She tells me...

The ex and facebook etiquette.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - Facebook etiquette question: Me and my ex decided to stay friends after the relationship ended. We didn't have contact for a few months, then started hanging out again, and it works ok. I'm not in love with him any more, yet... It's still bothe...

Emails and texts with sexual innuendo, should I be upset or is it harmless?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - My fiancee lives with me. He sometimes sends emails to his ex girlfriends with sexual inuendos. Should I be upset about this or is it harmless flirting/banter. He doesn't tell me about the messages and I have asked that he does. I have also see...

Asking an ex-girlfriend out to lunch?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

23 September 2011 (M) - I'm thinking of asking my ex-girlfriend out to a light lunch to gauge things. Any tips or advice on how i should do this? I was thinking a text (aside from face to face talking, 90% of our communication was from texting. She doesn't like talking on ...

Ex is stalking me and making me very uncomfortable!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - Okay, I confront her with proof about her stalking and she completely denied it. She went off on me about how she got better things to do with her time when she clearly did to it. She admitted it to someone as well a while back. All i asked ...

Should I get back with my ex for FWB till he is ready to get serious again

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - A few days after my ex fiancee and I started talking about breaking up, he starting persuing another woman. Because of this I ended it totally with him. They got very serious quickly but she broke up with him a couple of months later. My ex was ...

Should I contact my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4799 days ago

23 September 2011 (M) - So me and my ex went out for 3 years, it was both our longest relationship and we lost it to each other, we broke up once for 4 months and a lot happened during that period, like we both had sex with different people during that time. We went back ...

Am I being completely taken for a fool by my ex and our mutual friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - Its been almost a year now since my ex broke up with me. He was someone I met through mutual friends, and because of this ive talked to him and still seen him a decent amount since we broke up. And although the break up was one sided, it wasn't ...

If my b/f wants to keep in touch with his ex, its fine. If I want to do it, he gets really hateful! Why the double standards?

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22 September 2011 (F) - Here's the situation. Over the past year I've been having problems with my fiance texting his ex-girlfriends, some of the stuff inappropriate, and I told him how much it hurt me. So he deleted every girl's number out of his phone. (He was having ...