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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Here's the situation. Over the past year I've been having problems with my fiance texting his ex-girlfriends, some of the stuff inappropriate, and I told him how much it hurt me. So he deleted every girl's number out of his phone. (He was having sexual text chats with other girls besides his exes, but that's another situation.) Just a few months ago, he added one of his ex-girlfriend's, the one he would hang out with when I wasn't around, to Facebook, knowing I would be upset about it. He told me he just wanted to be "facebook friends" with her and nothing more. He told me to trust him, that he wasn't going to have any other contact with her besides that. So I gave him a chance. A few days later, I found out he had sent her a message on Facebook giving her his new number and telling her to text him when he could. I got really upset and we fought over it, him bringing up the fact that I never trust him. He ended up breaking up with me and then an hour later he asked me to take him back, that he was sorry. Even though he said he was sorry, he still ended up texting her. One of the times he was texting her, she was at her friend's house just down the road, and, out of no where, he wanted to show her our new puppy so badly. So we ended up walking down the road, in the dark, just to show her the new puppy. I wasn't too happy about it. I honestly think he only did that so he could see her. It also seems like every time he breaks up with me, he starts texting her right after. Then like a day later he wants me back.Well a few months went by and I started chatting with my ex, who I had been off and on with for 3 years before my fiance. I asked him for his number so I could text him every once in a while. I didn't think there was no harm in it since my fiance made such a big deal out of him talking to his ex. My fiance saw the message by fluke and ended up getting real hateful. He asked why my ex was giving me his number and went on to fuss about how he probably wants to date me again and what a loser he was. I ended up telling him it wasn't different from him talking to his ex-girlfriend from 4 years ago and he tried to explain the difference between the two. This isn't the first time he has gotten upset over a guy. Just months before that, one of my guy friend's from high school started contacted me, wanting to go out for lunch and catch up. My fiance got really angry, and told me guys just don't want to go out and catch up. They probably want to f*** me and try to take me away from him. I tried explaining to him that even though my guy friend wanted to date me in high school, I still wasn't interested in him like that. He ended up saying guys can rape women and he wouldn't want me to go hang with the guy alone. I just don't understand why it has to be a double standard with him. I do everything I can to respect him. If he doesn't like one of my guy friends or an ex, then I lose contact with them. But he doesn't seem to want to do the same for me.
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