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writes:So here's the story.I dated this guy for a year, let's call him Mike, and when we broke up we pretty much stopped talking at all. Mike started dating one of my friends, and I started dating one of his friends shortly after (let's call him Tom). (not rebounds, a couple months later). Anyway, so Tom and Mike have been friends, and are still close friends, but it's just extremely weird for me, and I'm not sure what to do.A month ago I was put in a very uncomfortable situation where I was alone with Mike and Tom at Tom's house all night.I guess my question is, what should I do about this? I know it's obviously unreasonable to expect Tom to not be friends with Mike, but it makes me very, very uncomfortable that they're good friends. Is there any way I can get over this feeling, or should I just live with it?I've tried to talk to Tom about it, by the way, but he doesn't really understand why it's weird.Thanks for your help in advance!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 I guess you just need to live with this, you knew they were friends before you got involved with Tom so there is little you can do about this now. I guess you just need to try and get him to keep the two relationships apart. Tell him you are uncomfortable and that he will need to spend quality time with you alone and then when he is with Mike you can make arrangements to hang out with other friends.
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