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Archived questions from: June, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

How do people stay away from others they know are bad for them?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5640 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Help me. Besides being a bit of a Well, I cheated. I didn't enjoy sleeping with a stranger. I strongly suspect he was more attracted to my pocket book than to me. I understand now that it was not destiny, but i don't really understand what it ...

I want a divorce, how do I bring the subject up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - I have posted two other questions. Here’s another. Like ya’ll know my husband has fathered another child. I’ve known about this since last Nov. 2008. We have been trying to work things out for the sake of our family. Things haven’t been going so...

Why am I more attracted to married woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - Why am I more attracted to the married woman? ...

My wife has lost all sex drive. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - I am a happily married husband of 24 years with 2 gorgeous children and a beautiful wife. We have been married for 8 years, I am nearly 32, she is 31. I used to vists my family weekly since my job is away from family. After ourlast child ws born, my ...

Husband is being a hypocrite about Myspace friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - I just found out today that my husband deleted the one guy I had on my myspace profile. My husband has women on his and one ex, yet the second I add a male on mine, he has to be deleted instantly. It wouldn't bug me so much, except he writes to ...

They are BOTH denying their affair! How can I know for sure?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - My husband and I have ben married for 7 years and we have two daughters. The other night my husband received a text message from someone known as just the letter "J" on his phone saying "good night". I called the number twice and a woman answered ...

Although my wife and I are seperating, we still have sex. Is this wrong and will it hurt me in the long run?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - I'm separating with my wife after 18 years together. We have two children, mortgage, but she cheated on me. I forgave her, but she continued with other men, and did some truly slutty things while drunk so it's over, and it's actually her who's ...

My wife refuses to go to marriage counselling

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - My wife said she won’t go to marriage counselling with me: she’s convinced that we have solved all our problems (even though I tell her that I don't believe this is true), and she doesn’t want to talk to a stranger. I’m still going to make an ...

Unhappy with my verbally abusive husband, should I leave?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I am so upset by the behaviour of my husband. He criticises me constantly. He says I am stupid, have 'big saggy boobs' and that I am a crap mother. I am a nurse and he mocks my work saying I do nothing important (he is a ...

He proposed to my wife on our honeymoon!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - My wife loved a boy in her school days but that boy didn't accept her love. She told me this when i firstly came her home to saw her for my marriage. I was impressed with her honesty. I decided that i will marry this girl only. Then we married and ...

How do you start over making friends when you've been isolated in your marriage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - In highschool i was so attached to my boyfiend turned husband that I completely abandoned all of my friends. Now ten years later i find myself without a social life at all. How do you start over again at this late stage in life?...

My husband doesn't want more than friendship with me. How do I get him back?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - i have been married to my husband for 2 years, but we have been seperated 4 a yr now. he wanted me to move back in with him and i told him yes but i never got off my butt and moved back in with him. a couple of weeks i found out he had another woman ...

Should I have a lesbian affair?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - I am a married, female, 40 years old with children. I've known I was gay since college, but have always hid it and have never been with a woman before. I recently met a woman who is also in a relationship with another man. I am almost positive ...

Are we two freaks or do other couples act this way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We do have kids. My wife has always been more on the conservative side. I have always hoped that she would try to open up more sexually with me. Try new things etc. but was afraid to ask. One night...

Can I ever get out of this tangled mess he created?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - Hello there. I'm a 29-year-old married man with 2 kids. I've been having an affair with my father-in-law for the past month in secret. He instigated this affair, and I agreed to it - we were both drunk at the time watching a game of socce...

I've been married for 11 years to the wrong man!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I have been married for eleven years to the wrong man. I love my husband as a friend but am not in love and I don't think I have ever been. I knew the day we got married and he called me a bitch before walking down the isle I was making a huge ...

My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...

Confused! Not sure if marriage can be fixed!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - Hi there, my wife and I have been married for thirteen years now. We were married when we were 24. we have three children together 13,11 and 6. I love my wife dearly and have only ever wanted to be with her and my children.There have never be...

Naked and cuffed to the bed and now wife won't talk to me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - hello,I just got married few weeks ago we are on our honeymoon..one night I decided to be kinky after dinner and decided for bondage,my wife my against being tied;so I handcuffed my self to the hotel bed..she was downstairs for dinner,so I had the ...

I feel more for my younger boss than my husband!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5637 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I have been obsessed with another man who happens to be my boss and 12 years younger. He is funny, good looking and sexy. He doesn't feel the same way about me. He is married with 3 children. My husband is disabled and our marriage is having ...

I think it's rational for my wife to take extra effort to brighten up the sex life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I am a 31 years old husband. Being married for the last 2 years and before that we were going out for 3 years. We have a good loving relationship. Hardly fight and financially also sound with less external stresses to deal. Intentio...

Is it ever possible to revive a man's deepest sexual interests?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Is it ever possible to revive a man's deepest sexual interest in you after he has a.)strayed b. looks too much at sexy pictures c) claims to not be sexually interested in you but calls you every day, esp. before going to sleep, spends all kinds of ...

I left my wife but now is willing to start over...should I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - I have had an affair which lasted a total of 3 months we had sex 4 times . I left my wife before any sex took place but its the same i know ! we have two young children who i love they are everything to me i felt i had no choice but to leave and ...

Update: Tempted to go back to my cheating husband...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5664 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Hi this is an update to a post i wrote on the 18th may please help me. I did leave my h/b and i am living in a womens refuge now for a month iam finding it very hard to stay away from my husband he promises me he will never cheat on me ever or li...

Differing sex drives are becoming a problem in my marriage

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5664 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I have been married for 8 years and have three kids. My husband is a sex addict, he wants to have sex everyday, but me on the hand don't have the urge to have sex, now it is creating a problem. What should I do? I need help....

Lost libido after the menopause and his porn addiction is making it worse. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I'm practically a newlywed, less then 2 yrs. This our 3rd. We are 48 and 56. We met online and it was a whirlwind. Here is the problem. I've menopaused and lost most of my libido. My husband, who is a gorgeous man, is prescibed meds that cause ed...

I can't trust him but do I really want to start over?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - My husband had sex with a women that we were couples friends with over 20 years ago. I did not know of the one night stand at the time. She would not go on with the affair. But my husband admits that he lusted for her for another 10 years. ...

Does anybody know what it's like to not have any light at the end of the tunnel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I'm so not a computer person, and I've probably only been on one other chat room in my life, I'm so lost - everthing is just such a mess. I've been tech married for 18 yrs. my husb is bipolar depressive and well maintained on meds - but has also ...

Am I overstepping where I shouldn't?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years, and things are lovely. We have a great relationship. In the last 3 years we have moved and changed our circle of friends. My best friend (other than my husband) is a very gay man. There is ...

My husband is addicted to DearCupid and is an aunt on this site. How do I bring this up to him?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 5624 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. Late at night my husband gets out of bed. His sleep has been getting worse. I'm a pretty deep sleeper, so I don't ever get up to check on him when he goes downstairs at night. All I know is that he gets up around one in the morning and ...

He was sweet before we married, now he's abusive

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, We are 48 years old. Both divorced. We lived 80 miles apart - traveled each week to spend together. We dated for 18 months,He got a job here, so we got married. He left his home of 20 years and moved to my town. Within days, he started...

My porn use and cyber sex obsession ruined my marriage! How do I get my wife back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5650 days ago

27 June 2009 (M) - I have been married 19 years. For 8 yrs I watched porn and engaged in cyber sex, and even Emailed women. This became an obsession. My wife found out about it and I tried to lie my way out of it. I did stop eventually, but she left me anyway. How can ...

Honestly, who in their right mind would be ok with their spouse or significant other talking sexually explicit to the opposite sex?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

27 June 2009 (M) - Sometimes my wife will talk on the phone to other people like her "homies" or somebody she says she knew since she was little. The thing is, I have heard her say sexually explicit things to the other people(males)on the phone. It could have been ...

I found an email written by my husband to his ex saying he wanted her bad!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Couple of months ago I went online to pay my phone bill and I saw that me husband used like 230 text messages, I was wondering whom he is texting to, as he is not a big texter and it was to a same number. He was texting every single day and actually ...

Should I trust my husband after what he's told me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - My guestion is...about for years ago when my hubby and I first got together he was working with this girl that loved to get into the pants of guy that where takin. He has told me that they would flert alot and that he would help her out whenever she ...

I pay all the bills and want him to leave but he won't!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - i rent to own and signed a contract with my husband i want him to leave but he won't what can i do to keep my home and make him leave i pay all bills financially.he is a control freak i love him but things are going south he and i have no more ...

When things don't fit her, what do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

26 June 2009 (M) - Ok well now i have a new question . My wife has taken a turn in our relationship. First of all she is a bit overweight.(AND THAT DONT BOTHER ME) So yesterday she calls me from work and tells me that she is at this department store. And im im like ...

Lesbian - but afraid to lose my husband. Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm in a horrible situation... where I have to choose. Making a decision so big is always scary and difficult... Well, here's my story. I'm married to the best man in the world, who truly cares about me and wants to make me ha...

He's spent $50,000.00 on getting counseling..says he's addicted to it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I found out earlier this week via a fair few amounts of post that we're in debt and that my husband is the cause of it all. The credit crunch has nothing to do with it, my husband's spending habits are the cause but I had no idea what he had spent ...

He's been visiting the mother of his fourth child without my knowledge!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - My husband had 3 children before we met. We went out for a while and then seperated to give each other time to figure out if we wanted to be together long term. While we were seperated, he entered another relationship and had a child. Shortly before ...

Why does she go out late nights away from her husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

26 June 2009 (M) - My wife seems to enjoy going out late at night alot. That's without me. I guess her so called friends are worth spending nights without me. The thing is, I really don't trust those people. On top of that, we're in a newer environment and she likes ...

She mentions her ex too often for comfort...

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

25 June 2009 (M) - My wife sometimes mentions her ex's name for whatever reason and also uses his name for passwords, usernames, etc. She says it because it's easy for her to remember; but I think it's for another reason. I haven't been snooping but I just know. Makes ...

We're drifting apart, I'm contemplating divorce, what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5651 days ago

25 June 2009 (M) - I have been married for 2 years and with my spouse all together for 3 years. I have a child from a previous relationship that I took sole custody of. She has a daughter from a previous marriage. The first year that we were together was amazing. ...

Why can she do things with others but not with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

25 June 2009 (M) - my wife recently got drunk at a party we went to and let another man touch her boobs and take them out of her bra. all this things she has never allowed me to do even when she has got drunk when she is just with me. the lust which i could see in her ...

I'm afraid my anger may take a toll on the marriage. Can I change this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

25 June 2009 (F) - I have a huge problem, I'm 21 years old and have been married to my husband for almost 4 years but it seems like all we do is argue. I will get mad at the smallest things and it'll cause a huge fight and we say hurtful things. I don't know what to ...

We are both married but realize we are meant to be together! How should I proceed?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5649 days ago

25 June 2009 (F) - I am currently NOT HAPPILY married because we are not compatible...big mistake to get married too soon...Just recently I was contacted by someone that met me 15 years ago and thought I was THE ONE...and had tried to get to know me more but my ...

Should I stay in a marriage with little affection or sex? Is this all my fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

24 June 2009 (F) - I have been married for two and half year, the sad part of this marriage is I don’t believe there is any affection when the time I married him. The whole relationship just gone crazy, I was tired of all the lies happened before. And he is very nic...

Is he sorry about his affair? Should I forgive him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

24 June 2009 (F) - My husband has been having an affair with a younger woman from work for five months. I have children and because of that I packed his bag , and asked him to leave. He says he wished he could turn the clock back and see the kids more , also t...

Together again after his affair...but I feel like I'm with a stranger

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5635 days ago

24 June 2009 (?) - Well I am back since my husbands affair, you know I thought things would change they have a bit, I feel more strength in myself. As for my husband, who I cherished the ground he walked on, he looks weak, he no longer is the man I loved and ...

Long story....can I get him back? Is there hope?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5668 days ago

24 June 2009 (F) - Hi I am in need of help. My husband of 9 yrs was on meds from the Dr for pain the whole marriage. He is very laid back to begin with and does not show emotion and he is not very compassionate. I thought it was the drugs the whole marriage. We had ...