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writes:I have been obsessed with another man who happens to be my boss and 12 years younger. He is funny, good looking and sexy. He doesn't feel the same way about me. He is married with 3 children. My husband is disabled and our marriage is having problems because of it. We have to counciling separately. My councilor said I would stop thinking about him when my marriage got better. This isn't happening because my husband isn't going to get better. I have become very emotional at work and I sometimes wind up crying if he pays attention to someone else and none to me. Help! I don't know what to do anymore.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 if you dont see your husband getting better everyday then he wont.
he needs your encouragement and support now.
forget anything with the boss and focus on your marriage.
remember why you fell in love with your husband and encourage him everyday with support,
if you do this he will appreciate you more.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I can only answer this question from the information that you have given here. I feel that you are looking at your boss as the ideal husband. He is a boss, he is young, good looking etc. And these are the feelings that you are developing for him. You are going home every night to a disabled husband who needs you to look after him. I think that if you talk to your counsiler and tell her/him how you are feeling, and then tell them that the feeling's are not going away, they may be able to help. Good Luck xox
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 You need to keep talking to your councellor and work through this together as your issues are too deep seated for us to help you with here.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Its your emotions which are attatching you to this younger guy, you wouldnt in normal circumstances feel very much for him, its simply because your going through a tough time and arent feeling the love and passion from your husband any more. You need to be honest with yourself, you cant stay with your husband through pity alone. Is there still any love there? And do you really wanna spend the rest of your life with him? Or are you purely staying with him because you feel sorry and bad for him and its out of pity? I dont know the circumstances, but i hate to see someone in a relationship thats making them down.. So i think you really need to evalute the marriage and think things through.
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