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writes:i have been married to my husband for 2 years, but we have been seperated 4 a yr now. he wanted me to move back in with him and i told him yes but i never got off my butt and moved back in with him. a couple of weeks i found out he had another woman besides me. he says he dont want me anymore he wants her. i was ready to move back in with him when i found out about the other woman. i really love this man and want him back we have a 12 month old son together and ii want my marriage back, but i dont no how to get him back. he keeps askin me for rent money but he says he dont want anyhting more than friendship with me. is there some way of getting him to come back to me even after we have said mean things to each other. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): I think that things change over time. Circumstances change, people change. You have been through a lot together, but you are probably not the same people now as you were when you first met. I don't think it is necessarily that you just stop caring for the other person. But sometimes you can feel when something has run it's course, and maybe that is how he feels. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni no that i can do better than him but i still love him and dont no how to move on. i always thought of him as my soulmate cause we have been through so many hard times and we made it throught them why is this time so hard get over. he once loved me how does someone fall out of love with the other person like that
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): sadly your marriage is over. you need to understand this and not pine for him,. i know you are hurting but you are doing yourslef more harm by wanting him back. he has moved on and he is not coming back. "in a few years time try again".......what is this. his way of saying put your life on hold until he decises to come back. bullshit. you should not waste any more time on this man, you have been seperated for 1 year he is living with another woman. he has made it clear he doesn't want you. you cannot change his mind and you cannot win him back. i am sorry but i have to be brutally honest with you. he is not in love with you and you cannot wait for him. if you do, you will waste your life on someone who is not worth anything. i know you have a baby and you want your baby to have a father around. but in life these things happen. and your hb , if you can even call him that, is not coming back. his actions, his words are screaming this at you. please please, as hard and difficult as it is, accept this and move on. you will go through pain and difficult days but one day he hurting will stop. one day you will move forward and find love, happiness and peace again.good luck and take care. this man is yesterdays news, don't you think?
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 yes you did the right thing telling him you will not give him rent . Move on with your life this man doesn't seem worth while Do you really want him back even if you could get him ? you can do better
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have tried talkin 2 him but he wont give me another chance he says maybe in a couple of years we can try agian. i was just wondering if i could use reverse pschyology to win his heart back. he has never said he doesnt love me anymore he just said that he doesnt want me anymore. he told me that he still cares about me and what i do. when he asked me for rent i told him i could not help him since he was with her now, it was her place to help with the rent. did i do the right thing by telling him that.
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reader, citic101 +, writes (30 June 2009):
He doesnt sound like Prince Charming.... why is he asking you for rent ? Your baby is 12 months old and he split with you and is now with another women. Hes a RAT !
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): When you next see him, try and talk to him about this. Ask if he will sit with you and listen to what you have to say. Then tell him how you feel, and that you would like to give things another try.
But if he isn't interested in trying again, then there is really little you can do. I know it must be hard, especially as you have a son together. But he seems to be moving on, judging by the other woman involved.
So try and tell him how you feel, and see what he has to say. x
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