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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend? I'm meeting a friend this weekend, who I haven't seen for a few years. I want to talk about everything that has been going on recently, such as when I went on holiday for the weekend to v...

Not all fathers are good fathers, but what do you do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - This isn't a question as such, more to see what other people's opinion on this is. I am all for a dad to have his rights and responsibilities towards his children. But what do people think a mother should do when there was domestic abuse in th...

How do I tell my parents about this much older guy in prison?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am in love with a man that's 24 years older than me seems to really feel the same about me he is wanting to become a pastor really soon he knows slot about the Bible and he is devoted to God he is 53 I'm 29 he is currently in prison and has only ...

My boyfriend's adult son is driving me to despair!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4038 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is in his 45 and we have been very hapoy for 12 months. We had plans to rent our places and to buy a place together. Then his 20 year son moved back in with him. Everything has changed. My 24 year old son has moved out and is very happy ...

My child's father suddenly wants to play a bigger role in her life

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I have a child with my ex, she is 3, and I have raised her completely on my own with a little help from my family and her father's sister. I never asked her father to stick around me, but I practical begged him to play a part in his daughter's life, ...

Does this man's mother feel I am competition?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I am with a man 16 yrs my senior. His mother is in her 80s and is so jealous of our relationship. She gets mad at how much time we spend together. She tells him alot of negative things about me and says he ignores her. I have never heard of this ...

Is this marriage bad enough to justify my leaving?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Long story, but here goes. I am a 21 year old Indian woman who had an arranged marriage to the (34-y/o)man of my dreams. Or so I thought. To give some background,I am an attractive woman who was very used to getting lots of male attention. Some...

When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4040 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...

No closure because of the way things ended, and my mother making it worse

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4042 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, any advice given will be appreciated greatly. I had been with my boyfriend for nearly four years, (four years in December). Most of those years were happy, loving years. However around 10 months ago MY feelings started to change. I ju...

I have 3 small children and want to leave my abusive husband but don't know how to do so!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4034 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - My husband (who is now 29) and I (I am now 24) met when I was 18 and he was 23. We've been together ever since. We got married 18 months after we met because I was six months pregnant. After I gave birth, my husband went from sappy, overly romantic ...

Affair turned bad and now I don't know how to cope and be a good mom to my kids

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4041 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I had an affair with a man I met in April 2010.... He lives 3000 miles away but we talked and texted every day often for hours each day... We also met for get always several times.... We both declared the other was the love of our life and hoped one ...

Having trouble adjusting after moving back home

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - When I spent a year working in Australia, I met the man of my dreams. He trained at a gym which had a coffee shop nearby, so as I worked there I saw him daily. After a few weeks of flirting, he asked me out and started dating. When my year was up we ...

My ex-husband told my daughter about my possible diagnosis!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone, I have recently been told that I have possible tumors in my utrius. I am having further tests in a couple of weeks. My ex husband and I have been divorced for 2 years now and we are still close friends. Both of my children live wit...

Do I owe a family member because she allowed me to park my car at her place?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4043 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I need advice so I bought my very first car by myself. I'm so happy. When I look at my car I just smile and just glow because I did it all working 2 part time jobs. Taking up to 4/6 buses a day. So I worked hard for my car. Now here's what I need ...

My parents abandoned me and now they are asking me for help! Please help me deal with the anger?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I have a little issue - I was raised by my grandmother because I am the 1st born child and both my parents remarried after I was born. I never really had much contact with both of them growing up and actually thought my grandma was my mother until I ...

Anxiety after losing my virginity to my cousin. Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - About 2 years ago, i lost my virginity to my cousin, and just a few days ago, i got baked with some friends and i went home and was laying in my bed and just thought about my life and what have i done with it, and the topic came up in my head and it ...

How to include infirm grandparents in our big day?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4047 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - My fiancé and I don't have much money and instead of a big wedding we are planning on semi eloping. There is an officiant who will marry us in her home for a small fee. The only catch is we can only invite four people. We plan on having lunch at a ...

It's a terrible mess, can't stay, can't leave my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - Please help. I'm a 39 year old woman, been with my husband for 11 years, one of them married. We have two beautiful children. My relationship with my husband began breaking down about three years ago. Too many details as always but essentally...

I love men, but don't at the same time. Can anyone help with these feelings I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I dont know if im a lesbian or not. Or bisexual. I'm totally lost. I like a man right now, but he treats me so crappy. I have been with women before as a teenager, and dated them, even cried over one. But I thought it was for sure a phase and...

I want to save my mom from being neglected by retirement homes!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4049 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid , my mom came home from a nursing home because of nelect I brought her back home but before then I have been looking for a job to take care of myself and my son now I think I might have the job because I am due for drug testing and ...

Struggling with feelings for my second cousin

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi there just looking for some advice please! I am falling for my second cousin (share great grandparents) we are together almost every day and have now slept together twice!! We weren't brought up together so aren't close that way. We are part of ...

Is it rude to not acknowledge a thank you?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - If you recieve a gift for a birthday from someone. Is it rude not to say thank you? A did it rude not to respond to the thank you....even if you don't really like the person? My son's birthday, and he got a gift from his grandparents (on...

How do I deal with my standoffish sisters-in-law?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - My two sister in laws( the wives of my husbands brothers) always exclude me from hanging out with them, whether it be they're going out on family outings with their kids or if they're going out as adults. While they are out they'll both post a bunch ...

My mother, my bully.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4050 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - How do i gently approach my mother about her hypocrisy and the damage it has done and continues to do to our relationship? How do I explain that I cannot, allow either myself or my son (8yo), to endure her presence if she continues discount...

I got out of an abusive relationship. But now with my new guy my mother and brother hate him. How do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4050 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - I got out of a toxic relationship not too long ago - we had been together for 5 years with two kids and he used to bash me up and threaten to kill me. Everyone knew the extent of how severe the abuse was. I have recently started seeing a guy who...

My son is asking questions about his absent father, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - My son, who is 5 years old, has started asking about his dad, and wants to see him. Thing is when the relationship ended, it ended really really badly. He hasn't seen his son for a long time, when he left he made the decision to walk out on me A...

My mind is on overload and I am going crazy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4052 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - Hello aunts and uncle's I really need some advice here and fast before I go nuts. I have been with my BF for 7 months now and I am so in love with him, and he tells me he feels the same. we moved in together and everything is going great excep...

How to deal with regret over not seeing my grandmother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4052 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - I found out my nan passed away out of the blue, yesterday. I haven't seen her in a while, with doing full time study and being pregnant. I didn't get to show her my scan photos or anything. Her passing is a shock. I have fond memories of staying ...

My son has quit communicating....should I talk to him about this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4037 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - My son has been a relationship for about 2 months. He lives out of town and up until he started this relationship he called or texted me almost everyday, and came home to visit at least every 2 weeks. Now, I hardly hear from him, and when I do, I am ...

My Bf has not told his parents that we live together. His mother wants to visit him. How do I get through this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - Hi!! I'm kind of stuck at the moment. I'm chinese born and raised here. My boyfriend and I are the same religion Hindus. He's from the states as well but born in London. His parents are also in the USA. So my question is. My boyfriend and Iive ...

He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...

I'm confused about my education and life choices!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - so i moved to Leeds about a year ago to live with my dad and his gf, a year later i hate living ere the only reason that im staying here is cause im in my final year of college and i have met new friends and met my girlfriend as well. I want to live ...

I have 3 kids, he has no kid experience, is there an answer to family harmony?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - My fiancé never had kids and I have 3 teenagers. Although we've been dating 3 years, I don't think he's really ready to be a step dad. I have them part time but some days when they're all being less than perfect, I can tell its a bit much for him ...

How to discuss family asset's without upsetting anyone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - So my husband and I are not really having a problem so much as just needing advice, words of wisdom, etc. I was having lunch with my husband and his brother's girlfriend who is 4 months pregnant with his brother's child (obviously). My ...

Should I go to the doctor to prove I am NOT mentally ill?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - I have posted on here before about my situation. Abusive ex, left our son in wet clothes, we had a row about it, then he said he never wanted anymore contact, now he has changed his mind, and I have said no, as I want supervised visits, so now he w...

We broke up but I miss his kids!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Please help me :( I hate the way I feel. I finished with my ex a few months ago because he took me for granted too much. (Money , never spending time with him, being left on my own all the time) with him and he had kids from a previous relatio...

Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing? We haven't been getting on at all lately, infact that is an understatement. He doesn't see his son much anyway, through his own choice. I don't particularly want him there, but this is...

I didn't like how I was few years younger and I am afraid this girl is going to learn about the loser weird me that I was.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

12 October 2013 (M) - hey there i am 17. i am from india and i am studying in college. well as i said in previous question i was a loser and a weird guy in school. Now i have changed in looks but i have become really shy guy. There is a girl from my school she comes in ...

I want THAT commitment!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - I have been with my BF for almost 4 years. It was a bit of a whirl wind to star with.he was my first BF my first everything. We fell in love very quickly and I moved into his parents Home, that was another other side of the country after only 8 ...

I want to show him how much he means to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4053 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now, when I met him maybe i should have stayed single as I had loads of problems in my personal life but we got on really well and he made me feel better. Well things got even worse for me, I had ...

Is is okay to be a little envious of my sister and sister-in-law's friendship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - Is it ok to be a little envious of my sister and sis in laws f/ship.? My younger sister and my bro and sister in law are close in age and have lots in common kids etc. They live in diff states but communicate via FB a lot, and phone, I imagin...

Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history"?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - Why would an ex say "we should have a relationship with love and compasion because we have history." he left the marriage for another woman who he has been with for over 5 yrs. now. there were other women before her. He is extremely dishones...

After two years, he doesn't want kids. This is a different kind of rejection--I am devastated.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - I've been in a serious relationship for two years now. The topic of kids has been a back and forth issue for us--it's a stereotype, but here we go- I want children, and always have--he doesn't. He recently made that abundantly clear. After two...

How do I choose where to live now that I'm on the job market? Boyfriend's or grandparents' town?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - I've just come to the end of my two College degrees, and I'm finally looking for my first graduate job… but I really can't decide where I want to live - back in my hometown at my Grandparents house or stay at my boyfriends parents house where I've ...

Abusive husband wants wife to move to Iraq with him when he's deported! How do we help her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - My cousins husband is from iraq. He is a failed asylum seeker and is now in prison as he was violent and abusive towards her. my cousin has stood by him as he begged her not to leave him. The home office want to deport him and if they can deport him ...

I don't feel like I'm loved by my boyfriend and he always puts his mom first!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have more issues than I can count. We are in our late 20s, been together 3+ yrs, and live together. Issue #1, he is a mamas boy. Whatever mom wants, he does. He goes above and beyond son duties. He gives her just as much, if not ...

I can't seem to get close to my inlaws or make new friends in this new county!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - I recently moved countries and the way people behave socially are slightly different from my home country. For example 3 months ago in this new country it was my birthday. I invited my in laws, as last year we had a good time. This year was d...

My boyfriend's dad fancies me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - I first met my boyfriend's dad when i was 14, i didn't give much attention to him, but he stared at me even then but not as much when i turned 15.. he tries to touch my shoulder a lot and even my breast, he constantly stares at my ass and flirts w...

Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

7 October 2013 (M) - I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...

I've become the maid and babysitter in my house because of the way my wife now acts. What can I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

7 October 2013 (M) - i am 35 and my wife is 30 we have been married a year but together almost 6 years. we have sex maybe 1-2 times ever other month. before that about 1 year ago it was 1-3 times amonth, we have a son together and her 8 yr old daughter whom believes im ...