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writes:I found out my nan passed away out of the blue, yesterday. I haven't seen her in a while, with doing full time study and being pregnant. I didn't get to show her my scan photos or anything. Her passing is a shock. I have fond memories of staying over at her house as kids. Feel depressed.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (18 October 2013):
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2013): Sorry for your loss...You will feel many emotions and go through different phases, but first is the shock which hopefully will dull some of the pain. Guilt is also normal, especially as you were not able to see her recently but it's understandable and I'm sure she would not have held it against you.Perhaps you can write her a long letter, expressing everything you feel. What you loved about her, growing up and the memories you have of her. Share all of that. Then write about your current life, and everything you would have shared, were she still alive. Write everything you feel, think and wish you could have said. It will be therapeutic and will help express everything on your heart, even if you feel it's too late.Depending what your beliefs are, if you believe in God and Heaven, then know she is up above and still watching over you. She loved you, and Grandmothers are wise - they know we all get on with the art of living, and they are just happy knowing you are doing well. Say a prayer for her, for yourself and your family, and talk to her in your heart (in your mind) as I do to my Dad who passed away last year. They are gone physically but never far from our minds and hearts and memories forever.Look after yourself and your unborn baby, treasure it, and talk about your feelings to family and friends. Nobody holds it against you, we are sorry you could not see her one last time.May you find strength and peace during this sad time...Hugs
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