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Archived questions from: September, 2005 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I'm revolted by the idea that my husband had sex with his cousin...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6170 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - My husband told me that he had sex with his cousin 3 years before he met me. I'm totally sickened by it. They are in their 40's. My husband still wants to hang with her. I want nothing to do with her. I think they both were disgusting, but I ...

My husband's mum and son are controlling our relationship, making him choose them or me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7019 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - My husband of 6 months has left me. I am a mother of 3, 17,16 and 12. My husband has a child also at 12. I had an hysterctomy 4 weeks ago, which didn't go well as ended up in theatre again due an internal bleed, ending in ICU. Then my husband ...

We struggled to help our son start his new business, but he's just bone lazy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7021 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - My 21 year old son started his own window-cleaning business about six months ago. My husband and I did everything we could to help him - giving him the almost exclusive use of our car, helping him out with petrol money,keeping his accounts, ...

My brother molested me, but I'm ashamed to admit it happened!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5816 days ago

29 September 2005 (M) - Hi, my name is Jamie. I am 16 years old. My big bro (20 years old) molersted me when I was 10. I thought it was OK at the time because he said it was, but now that I'm older I realised it's NOT. I'm awfully embarrassed about this, but it can't be...

Would it be OK to date my ex-husband's cousin?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5240 days ago

29 September 2005 (F) - I am a recently divorced. My question is, is it OK for me to date my ex husband's cousin? He and I have been really good friends for 4 years and we want to take it to the next level. What are your thoughts on this and how should we go about go...

I want to marry my boyfriend, but my mom is totally against it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7022 days ago

29 September 2005 (?) - I really need help. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend a long time. In 3 months time he wants to get married and has had a vasectomy. He is getting it reversed so we can start having children. Problem is I'm in great risk of losing my mom if I...

I think my girlfriend might have had a sexual relationship with her half-brother!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7023 days ago

28 September 2005 (M) - I recently went through my girlfriends emails, which I know was wrong but I suspected something sick was going on. I found emails from her half brother from before we got together suggesting they were having a sexual relationship. It was consensua...

Mum doesn't know I'm engaged. How do I break it to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6994 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am in a bit of a pickle. I been seeing this really nice guy for nine months and we are now engaged. The problem is I'm 17 and he's 23. We really love each and he never disrespects me in any way. He even agreed to wait til our hon...

I can't understand why my boyfriend's family say such hurtful things about me and my dad!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7025 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - Hello my name is Emma and me and my boyfriend have been with each other for about 10 months now. I love going out with him but I find his family a real problem. I've tried so hard to get on with them but I just can't. I'm not very confident as it is ...

My son had 27 bottles of slimming pills in his room... Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6420 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - I am a mother of two. My sons are 16 and 21. When I was cleaning out the house the other day, I found 20 bottles of slimming pills in my 16-year-old son's room. (They were all unopened by the way) I also found 7 more bottles of slimming pills u...

The only way I can think to get recognition in my family is to compete with other family members...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7025 days ago

26 September 2005 (M) - I compete with my father and elder brother to prove my worth to them. Is it right? I want some praise and recognition for who I am in my family but somehow I always get ignored and get taken for granted. So I am trying to do extraordinary things to ...

Don't feel confident enough to stand up for myself...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6226 days ago

24 September 2005 (M) - Is it written on my face "Come, use me, I am there to sell myself to you" ? This is what I have been feeling for quite some time now. I try to be too nice and kind to other people and they take me for a ride because of that. I am the one of the most ...

My upbringing has made me hypercritical of flaws in myself and others...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7028 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - I have a serious issue about myself and the way I look at the world. I belong to a business family of ENTJ's and our society is not different. People with ENTJ personality types are judgers. They judge everyone on the criteria of superficial nature. ...

Attracted to my sister-in-law, as she is to me. We just don't talk much about it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7029 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - I have strong feelings for my sister in-law (always have). We've known each other for about 10 years and get on very well. We've always had a bit of a strange relationship, as we don't talk to each other much when other people are around. I would li...

It's more than just attention-seeking... my teenage son strips to his briefs in public!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6911 days ago

22 September 2005 (F) - My son is 15 years old and has a problem. I found out about it at school a week ago when I received a phone call off the principal saying that my son keeps stripping to his briefs all the time in school no matter where he is. He did it in PE and...

Everything feels like it's going to crash down on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7030 days ago

21 September 2005 (M) - Hello. My name is Robert I'm 15 years old and I have a problem. I live in Spain and 4 months ago my father got chucked into prison. This is absoloutely terrible for me. I have a great relationship with my dad and now I can only see ...

My partner has never contributed toward food or expenses and he got huffy when I suggested it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7030 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my brother's roommate for nearly two years. We are both 40 years old. My brother has taken this extremely badly but won't explain why. He won't speak to or associate with me anymore but acts normally with my ...

My husband rubs himself... and rubs... and frankly, it turns me off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7032 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - My husband is always rubbing himself. When he watches TV, he slowly rubs one foot over the other, and back and forth. It drives me crazy. He also rubs his thighs, and sometimes his arms. He also sticks his hand inside his shirt, and hangs his hand ...

My 16-year-old son wants to marry his girlfriend... soon.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 6851 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I am concerned about my 16 year old son who has expressed the desire to marry his girlfriend soon. What problems will he face if he marries now? Thanks, Janet...

I'm confused about the way my father shows his "affection" to me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7030 days ago

19 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I am confused about the behaviour of my father towards me and our relationship. He likes to have so much intamicy with me, though I am a boy, that I feel uncomfortable and strangled in his emotional confinement. Also as I remember ab...

Oh no... I got drunk and had sex with my brother!

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 6168 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - I am twenty nine years old. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. His wife and kids were away. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle ...

My girlfriend told her mum untruths about me, now her mum hates me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7034 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - I'm going out with a girl and we have been together for 3years. The relationship hasn't been very easy as we both had issues but we sorted it out and were really happy, but it's her mum. She's trying to split us up as she doesn't like me as to her ...

I don't want to have issues with my family, but I think they're jealous of my achievements...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7034 days ago

17 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, What is the most effective way to deal with people who are jealous of you and your achievements? What if some of them are your close relatives, like your parents or your brother? I have this issue and I don't want to lose contact but...

How will my girlfriend's kids react when they find out their mum's a lesbian?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7035 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - I am currently seeing a 32 yr old woman. She is getting a divorce which I am willing to wait. But I am also a female, and she has 2 kids. Her kids are quite mature and loving, and 'Kerry' seems to think that they will be OK with it when she eventual...

My boyfriend's sister wants to make him choose between me and our baby, or her and his mum!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6051 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - I have a big problem. My boyfriend and I have been going out together for 2 years. We are extremely happy and always have been. We are best friends and love each other so much. To our joy I recently found out I was pregnant (unexpectadly). Now we a...

Mum wants me to be her lap-dog and she wants me to always be the one trying to please her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7035 days ago

15 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, Is it possible that a mother tries to destroy self-esteem of her own child (son) when her wishes aren't fulfilled or sees her son not behaving like her pet? My mother makes me feel like her dog who is there for her entertainment. ...

Mum and my husband were having sex! I feel sick!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 7031 days ago

14 September 2005 (F) - I am 21 and my new husband is 23. We have been married for 2 weeks now. I came home from work one day to find my husband in bed with my mother kissing and having sex! I can't face either of them and feel sick to the stomach after finding out th...

Worried my big sister's new MSN contact I chatted to will turn stalker!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7038 days ago

13 September 2005 (F) - hi, im 14 years old and i dont chat in chat rooms or msn very much but my big sis does. her and i share an msn account bcoz we usually know the ppl we both talk 2. but i went on msn yesterday and there was a new contact, a 22 yr old guy from london ...

My fiance cheated on me... with my 17-year-old sister!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

12 September 2005 (F) - I broke up with my fiance about 5 months ago, because I found that he cheated me with my sister. She is only 17!! Six months ago, My fiance and I met my sister by chance. And then I found that he often lied to me,the same as my sister . And ...

Our daughter's boyfriend doesn't like me or my husband!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 6070 days ago

12 September 2005 (F) - We recently found out my daughters boyfriend of 2 years doesn't like me or my huband. It's hard enough to have a good relationship with someone without the added stress of not liking the parents.We would like to remedy this situation if we can so we ...

My b/f said our baby wasn't his, and my family won't forgive him for the insult...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7038 days ago

12 September 2005 (F) - Dear cupid, My boyfieind and I had a child but he refuses to accept it because he doubted if it is really his. But the truth is it's really his child. My family got angry because it was an insult to me and the baby, but the truth is I have been ...

My mum and dad aren't happy with each other, and they try to drag me into their morass!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7039 days ago

10 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I want to stay away from my family but my family members want to stick with me and don't want to let go of me. I am 22 yrs of age and all my childhood, i had experienced stressful family environment with parents always fighting with ea...

My friend wants to be with his son, but also to be with his married lover!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7042 days ago

10 September 2005 (F) - My friend is separated from his wife for three years without communication. They also have one son. He moved to another country and during his year of staying, he met a married woman and got into relationship. They have a ups and down relationship, ...

I'm perfectly happy with my own company and no relationships. Am I strange?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7042 days ago

8 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I am an adult guy and quite enjoy being in company of my own. Actually, the times in solitude are some of the most relaxing times for me. I have been like this for ages. But now that I am becoming free and can earn my own bread, I don...

My fiance won't stand up to his family, who treat me terribly!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7044 days ago

8 September 2005 (F) - I recently got engaged to the man I have been seeing for the last year and a half. I thought things would be wonderful but I soon found myself diappointed. His family has never liked me from the get go. They are European and since I am not, ...

How do I persuade my family to give my boyfriend another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6982 days ago

7 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who got me pregnant but promised me to acknowledge the baby when it came, but suddenly he changed his mind. My father was mad and decided to keep the baby and me away from him. Now he regrets his choice and asked for ...

I'm disturbed by my new boyfriend's daughter who just won't stop flashing!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6203 days ago

6 September 2005 (F) - My new boyfriend has a 24year old daughter, who keeps flashing him. He tells me when she does and finds it hilarious, but I find it a bit disturbing. Once she called him into her bedroom and when he entered she was bent over butt naked! Another time ...

I think my parents are racist, because they don't like my non-white friends.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7046 days ago

6 September 2005 (M) - Hello. I have a problem with my parents accepting my friends. Even though my parents especially my dad claims not to be racist they are. I'm a white male, 21yrs old, and my best friend is a non white. He is indian/very fair skin. My parents don't...

What can I do to get my family to accept my relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7047 days ago

5 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, My relationship is cool, except that my family doesn't approve of it. What should I do?...

I've never been able to meet my father's standards...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7048 days ago

3 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I have a father who is very pushing and demanding. I don't know what standards he has set but he pushes other people to achieve more and more in life. Sometimes, his advice and push helps other people, but for me it is making me lose m...

Mum is so negative that it's driving me away...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7049 days ago

2 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, This is a problem I am trying to understand. I am 24 yrs old guy and I live away from my family for various reasons. My mother was operated for womb cancer before five years and her womb was removed. She has become quite a cynic an...

He's has a kind of weird-sick relationship with his mum and she rings him 20-30 times a day!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7049 days ago

2 September 2005 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I love him with all my heart, and we have certainly had our ups and downs. I feel like our relationship is falling apart. He's become pysically and emotionally abusive, and has threatened to ...

Dad's making my life a misery!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7050 days ago

1 September 2005 (?) - Me and my dad have never really got on, but recently it's got so much worse I have an older sister and she's smaller built than me and looks like a model. He's always fussing over her and saying to his friends that he'll "have to keep an eye on t...

My folks won't help me out financially any more if I move back home with my boyfriend...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7049 days ago

1 September 2005 (F) - I have just had a baby. My parents want me to stay at home with them, but I want to move back to my partner. My parents are saying that if I move back to my house with the baby they never want to see me again. We are having money problems and my ...