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writes: Dear Cupid,I am in a bit of a pickle. I been seeing this really nice guy for nine months and we are now engaged. The problem is I'm 17 and he's 23. We really love each and he never disrespects me in any way. He even agreed to wait til our honeymoon to have sex. The problem is I don't know how to tell my mom that I'm engaged without her thinking I'm wasting my life.sincerely Confused
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reader, Kay R +, writes (28 October 2005):
Why would she presume that you would be wasting your life? You are 17; young but mature enough to live your own life. Telling your mom might be a very awkward thing to do. Has she met this fortunate man of yours? Tell her that you have made a decision and you trust that it is a very excellent choice. Maybe she will be aware that you are ready to face matrimony. I wish you good luck in telling your mom!
Kay
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (28 September 2005):
 I understand you're worried about telling her this but don't you think this gives you a bit of an idea about how you feel deep down? If you were 100% confident that you were doing the right thing, would you be this worried? Wouldn't you just be proud and not care what anyone else thinks? I know I would, unless I had my own doubts, of course.
You're only young and 9 months is not a long time. When I was your age a couple of years ago, I was in a relationship with a guy which lasted 18 months altogether. If you'd have asked me at 9 months 'do you think you'll be together forever?' I'd would have said yes. But now look at us, I met someone else and we're history.
Take your time and think about this decision. As long as you wait a few years until you get married, it's not too much of a problem, just make sure he's the one before you rush into anything. Your mum only wants the best for you and you have your whole life ahead of you so be careful and take your time. Decisions like this make or break our lives so don't doing anything rash.
If you are going to tell her, let her know you're not exactly getting married just yet, but be honest, with her and yourself.
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