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writes: I have strong feelings for my sister in-law (always have). We've known each other for about 10 years and get on very well. We've always had a bit of a strange relationship, as we don't talk to each other much when other people are around.I would like our relationship to be more than just friends, but as she's married and I'm not, I've been leaving it up to her to change things.After spending most of the year seperated (from my brother) they got back together about 2 months ago,(we were still in contact and saw each other during the seperation period), but for about the last 4 months our friendship is starting to suffer greatly.If we're alone we can talk to each other no worries and sometimes even hug, but if there are other people around, 90% of the time we won't speak to each other, we don't even say hello or goodbye a lot of the time. We even try to avoid each other now by going to different rooms of the house when others are around and we ask her kids questions knowing the answers will allow us to talk to each other.I'm still happy if our relationship doesn't get physical, but I don't want to lose our friendship.Are we both trying to hide the same feelings from each other or other people?Should I try to get her alone and talk to her about it and my feelings for her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2005): It's bad enough that you are pursuing a married woman but your BROTHER'S wife? Sheesh, get a different mind set and go find someone who is single.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (23 September 2005):
 You shouldnt even be thinking about this mate!! Shes called your sister-in-law for a reason!! From what you're saying, Im even thinking she doesnt even feel the same way about you, not the slightest bit. And even if she does (just a little), she seems like the type of person who will never ever cross that boundary!! You said ure worried about the freidnship bit, but I ask you, whats there to worry about??!! Its not like you guys are arguing or anything. You're just worried because you're hoping that the freindship might turn into something more!! Am I right? Be honest. There is nothing wrong with the friendship now so leave it as it is. And no, she is not hiding her feelings from you, the only one doin it is yourself!! And as far as trying to confront her about how you feel, Id definitely say NO!!!!!
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