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writes: Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who got me pregnant but promised me to acknowledge the baby when it came, but suddenly he changed his mind. My father was mad and decided to keep the baby and me away from him. Now he regrets his choice and asked for forgiveness but my family won't give him a chance. They're really furious.. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2005): I think you should not go out with him. I'm sorry, but what he did was WRONG! boo him!
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reader, feelingood +, writes (8 September 2005):
Time heals all wounds. Your boyfriend may have changed as a person, but your parents are doing the right thing by not trusting him. If he wants to regain their trust and be an active contributor to your and your baby's life, then he must prove he CAN be. Does he have a job? Des he earn money? If not is he at school getting ready to support a human being for 18-24 years? Actions speak louder than words and your boyfriend sure screwed up by talking crap. Now he must rectify himself by taking ACTIONS that are going to show the kind of person that he needs to be for your parents to trust him. All the best and good luck as your baby needs a mummy AND a daddy.
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reader, Delila +, writes (7 September 2005):
Your parents have yours' and the babys' best interest at heart and are afraid that this guy will let you both down again. If the boy is really serious then it should not be a problem to save or work to earn a small amount of money and send some to your family to help support the baby, it will take more than words to make your father come round. He probably knows from experience that people don't always do what they say. If the boy can keep up sending a small amount of money regularly for a year without missing one week then your family will probably start to trust him. If he has a problem getting this together then if I were you I would leave him by the wayside as well.
Delila
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (7 September 2005):
 This is a tricky one. They're only looking out for your best interests and the babies, of course. They just think that someone who can change their mind so many times over something so important is not someone you or your baby need in your life. He left you when you needed him most and your parents are probably scared he will do it again.
I think you need to look inside yourself and use your judgement of this man. Do you think he means it this time? Do you think he will stay with you and be faithful to you and the baby? You know him better than your parents do so it's down to you. It's your life at the end of the day and if you think he deserves to be a father to your child then forgive him. Good luck :)
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