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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Worried about girlfriends nightlife

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3661 days ago

30 October 2014 (M) - Ok, my girlfriend is away at college for the past 3yrs and everything has been great. She goes out to drink once in a great while with her friends and I don't mind because I know her friends and they are good people. I myself hate drinking...

Can a man commit to just his wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - wow... its been a couple years of being a part of this site.. i look back at the past questions i have asked. lol... but here i am again. i have feelings that my amazing husband is cheating on me. is here such a thing of a man to be committed to one ...

Did I cheat because of how he behaves on line?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3663 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - i have been in a relationship for 14 years. started dating him at the age of 17 him 27 now aged 31 and him 41. im confused. i cheated on him with a friend of ours. i have seen his facebook over the last couple of years with all porn sites and stuff. ...

My ex sees what I did as cheating

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - hi everyone. i have a question for ull. i had been going out with my ex for a bit more than one year and we were on a break. i went out with this other guy for a movie and i kissed him on the cheek and he kissed me on my lips nd i pushed hin away ...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

Is my Boyfriend more likely to cheat because 4 of his friends are cheaters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Four of my boyfriend's friends (both females and males) have cheated on their partner. Does that mean he is more likely to cheat?...

Slept with my ex whilst drunk, but he's dating my friend.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Hello, Around 9 months ago, I got drunk and slept with an ex boyfriend. It was a complete mistake - the relationship ended badly and it was one of the first times we'd hung out alone since we broke up. Ended up having way too much to drink, gettin...

I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3661 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...

My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I woul...

My fiancè cheated on me with his ex! I am so angry at this woman, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3321 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I need to know what to do in my situation that I know im not the only one that is dealing. Ive been with a man for just over 2 years now. We are engaged. The problem is this: He has twin boys with his ex. Now I understand that ...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Do I tell Friend A what is going on? What about Friend B's partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm a pretty liberal person, so am not trying to be the morality police, but am worried about my friends and am being burdened by this knowledge. One of my friends (Friend A) has been in a casual but exclusive relationship since January, with th...

He's lied to me multiple times. And Cheated. Should I be 'over it' as he claims?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3664 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have a question that I need both male and female point of views on: My fiancé in the beginning of our relationship went around my back and began to be unfaithful. He had a second phone to do all his "dirty work" on. I noticed a change in his pe...

My boyfriend cheated on me twice so I ended things but now he's begging to come back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - Dear cupid, I'm here again, but I must first thank you all for your tremendous help, I'm glad to be a part of this forum. Pls I seek your advice once again. I've been in a relationship for 7years, and I've lived with him for 2years, my boyfriend is ...

I'm a compulsive cheater and I suffer depressed. What help do I need to stop this cheating? I do love my older Bf

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed, loving relationship with a man who is nearly 50. I'm a compulsive cheater. I can't help myself and I hate myself so very much. I've had numerous one-night stands with various men. It is hard for anyone to ...

My husband is being secretive with his cell phone and is not affectionate any more

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I am a lady aged 41, my husband is 44,being together for5 years now,our relationship was perfect the past 3 yrs,but now he is secretive especially on his cellphone,he can't even put it down when he goes out or to bathroom, when he charges it, is ...

I just found out my boyfriend I'm planning a future with already has a girlfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (?) - Hi I wouldn't usually ask questions on sites like this but I really need some advice-not even really advice but maybe to make me feel better :/. I recently met a guy online who is a technician in the army, he is based about an hour from me,he's 27, ...

I'm afraid my boyfriend will cheat while he is on vacation

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3673 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is going on a three week trip to a different country. I'm not going because a) I don't have the funds and b) it's during the holidays and I want to stay with my family. He's going with his sister and a bunch of friends. Most of the fr...

If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...

If I'm not wanted why did he put in so much effort?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - Thank you in advance for your help. This is a bit wordy, but hopefully, the information will paint a more complete picture of what happened. -December 2013: began e-mail contact with a man who had similar interests; we got along very well. -E...

He's like drug, I can't help myself, so does this mean he is the one using me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - What's wrong with me? Iv been seeing this guy for 2 years now. Hes 21 and I'm 25. Everything has been great moved in.together its good. Recently a old friend with benefits got in contact, saying he really wanted/needed to see me. I have known him ...

I can't stop thinking about her! I know it's unfair on my boyfriend, so what do I do next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3675 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - I have posted something like this before but here it goes.. I'm 20, a girl, and have been going out with my Boyf for 3 years. We recently went on holiday with his family and his cousin took a friend who is also a girl with her.. She is 29 and ...

Does my girlfriend's recent behaviour betray a guilty conscience?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Am hoping to get some advice about my relationship. There is a saying that cheaters often give themselves away if you listen to them. Well, my girlfriend went to talking the other night and randomly said I love you. Nothing strange about saying I...

Have I ruined my life as a result of having an affair with a married man at a vulnerable time in my life.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - For a period of time from 2011-2013, I had an affair with a married man. I make no excuses for my behavior, which was terrible, but I had earlier that year been assaulted, had gotten out of a long-term relationship, and my self-esteem was at all t...

Can dating profiles be cloned over multiple sites or is my boyfriend lying?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hi all, So I have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months and we met on a dating site. 2 months into our relationship I found he was still logging in to pof the site we met on and my only dating site I joined. He said that can't be right he...

I think I'm over him now. He broke up with me. Why is he now reaching out to me, considering he has a new Gf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - My ex dumped me about 1.5 years ago. He's in a relationship with someone else 3 months after our breakup. I was desperate and couldn't move on. I spent over one year to put myself together and decided to move abroad. The last day before I left ho...

First my Dad cheated. Now I don't know how to face my Mom now that I know she's having an affair with a married man. How can I face this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - please help me, my mom and dad are divorced my dad cheated on my mom when I was 9 years old. I went through what I thought was the darkest moment of my childhood. Because of this my relationship with my dad is almost non-existent. I survived thi...

Despite all the troubles, why does he keep on coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3677 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - i dated a boy for nine months, we broke up publicly in may 2014, however soon realising the mistake we had made and that we still loved each other. We tried to continue our relationship in secret. however one night he held a party, but he spent mo...

Ten years later, and despite being in a relationship, I am still obsessing about this guy from the past. How can I move on or resolve this ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - This is taking over my life. I think about this guy constantly and torture myself by looking at his picture on-line a lot! I hear through the grape vine he's a bit of a player (I hate that in a guy.) But still can't stop thinking what could be if...

I feel like I always mess things up with my Bf, due to my jealousy. How do I get over feeling so jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I really feel like I'm messing my current relationship up... or going to. I was cheated on in my previous relationship and it left me broken. I am a very passionate and loyal person so it caught me off guard. It's gotten to the point where if I...

Do I walk away? I'm torn!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone... I realy need objective advice, here. OK (((*deep breath*))) it's a bit of a long story... Been dating a guy for 6 months during which time I discoverred he had an alcohol problem. (Yikes) I supported him but then one night he ran away ...

Is it possible to stay married, and be happy, even though you are not romantically interested in your husband?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - My husband and I are trying to work things out after many months of suffering because of my affair. I have hurt him so bad that I realized he loved me after believing we were just living as roomrates which I got so used to. My problem is that ...

How can I get him to understand that we not in the same place sexually, so that I can put an end to my affair?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I'm only interested in advice, not judgement. If you don't have anything constructive to say, you should not even bother responding. My husband and I been married for 8 years, and have a 5 year old. We were together for 2 years before that. ...

We love making out with each other, so do we have a unique friendship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

16 October 2014 (M) - So i have this unique situation with my friend, but I've came to terms to it but I would like some input and some advice on how odd this situation is.. So I met this girl at a party 6 months ago and from the first moment we met in about a couple o...

I'm pregnant and the father of the child wants me to terminate. I'm confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I need sum help.. I don't need people judging me or giving me grief. I'm 25 and 9 weeks pregnant. I have been in an on/off relationship for some time. We were together for a few years and he cheated.. so I moved out and went no contact. 6 month...

My mother in law acts like a jealous lover towards her son, not a mom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - Long story short.....my mother in law had an affair with a married man when my husband was still little with a married man with kids, they both left their spouses to be together. she told my husband she's in a unhappy marriage with his step Dad and ...

He's started avoiding me. Is it over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3663 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - I'm married. He's got a girlfriend. We both know that we were in this relationship because it "seemed" like the right partners to be with but were both lacking the happiness/love in it. Before I met him, I had already planned to divorce my husband ...

How do I break up with this liar I love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I've met this guy ten months ago. He seemed like a decent individual. We took our time to get to know one another. We've been intimate approximately 6 times throughout the 10 months of dating. I've always been skeptical about ...

I just lost my baby and her father is cheating on me, how do I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I just lost my daughter at 7 months pregnant. I had an emergency c section. I'm staying with family because the father cannot support or take care of me. I can locate his phone and he's been with another woman. He's introduced her to his coworkers. ...

I'm in a new relationship. But how do I stop being so untrusting anxious that he'll leave me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that don...

Do I Tell my boyfriend he might not be the dad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - Ok so ive been with my boyfriend for about 18 months now. I love him so much, he treats me like im the only girl in the world and doesnt care that i have a baby from a past relationship, he loves my little boy just as much as me. But 8 months b...

My husband says he's cool with me having relations with other women. How have others handled a similar situation as this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have had many ups and downs but despite these we are still together and communicate with one another very openly and honestly. Lately things have been a bit rubbish and he hasn't been very attracte...

Family secrets: The only two who were not told about the cheating? Myself and my son. How do I deal with their toxic actions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - My husband had an affair with his sister in law. His older brother was 20 years older than her, they married because she was pregnant. He had another younger girl pregnant, but chose to marry ''C''. He never had contact with that child from the...

Is this really a ''Guy thing,'' as my fiance implies? His remarks upset me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - My question is for guys. When you're in a serious relationship do you look at girls and think in your head if you could get with them, or not, if you were single? My fiance and I have a baby together and we went out to lunch near his work and he s...

What can I do? She is my very loyal LDR Gf. If I tell her how often I cheated she may breakup with me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

13 October 2014 (M) - Hi, in 2009 i was visiting my friend in another town so i met and she is a neigbour of my friend ,she gave me her numbers when i went home the same day i called her we talked suddenly the following day her phone was not working,so i thought like she ...

If we did get together I'd be paranoid that he'd cheat on me the way he cheated with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) - Over the last few months I've been speaking to someone I used to work with and we've been out a few times. He has a girlfriend so we've always made a point of saying we are only friends. Then when we were out with a group of mutual friends we ended ...

Should I just get over the fact he kissed another girl while in a relationship with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) - Things between my boyfriend and I haven't been the same since he admitted to kissing another girl while he was on a night out earlier in the year. He kissed her in April and told me in June. To be honest, I couldn't truly believe it was just a kiss ...

I miss her. She was my closest friend. How do I move on from the sadness I feel now that our affair is over?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

12 October 2014 (M) - I had an affair with another woman that lasted a very long time. Our affair lasted 12 years. It was the right thing to do for both of us. She is considerably younger than me and neither of us thought it would go on so long...but it just never ended ...