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26-29,
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writes:please help me, my mom and dad are divorced my dad cheated on my mom when I was 9 years old.I went through what I thought was the darkest moment of my childhood. Because of this my relationship with my dad is almost non-existent. I survived this ordeal and until now I was perfectly happy teenager but now I found out my mom is also in a relationship with a married man, they send each other dirty messages on facebook and it's disgusting. I can't look at my mom without feeling anger and betrayal. I sent the guy an anonymous message on facebook telling him to stop, I didn't threaten him I just remind him of what might happen if he continues doing to it to his wife.I don't know how to look at my mom the same way again...please help me.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 October 2014):
 One thing you have to know is parents are not perfect, but their love for you is the same. You should not look into your mom's messages. You can say to your mom you don't agree with what she's doing but she has to make sure that her facebook profile is set to private so other family members won't see her messages. Keep in contact with your parents. They might have felt they failed you and had broken up a family but you have to show them that you can forgive. Your individual relationship with each parent should remain. Express how you feel without criticizing what she did. Her selfish actions had caused you grief and relived your childhood pain. When my parents both had emotional affairs with people and thought about divorce I was devastated. My mom asked if I was angry surprisingly I was not. I just stopped seeing them as omnipotent beings having human errs.
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