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Archived questions from: December, 2013 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Cheater Cheater!!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...

He says I wont have to wait long for him to pop the question!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3982 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend told me that he was thinking of asking me to marry him a couple of weeks ago. It would have been an impulsive ask. We were in a hotel for a couple of days and the weather was terrible so we spent the day in bed eating pizza and vegging ...

Should I encourage our kids to reach out to my ex's side of the family during this crisis?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

30 December 2013 (?) - My ex and I have been separated for 3 and half years, there have been many women and of course lots of hard drama. This last woman has been quite a challenging event with her many harrassing messaging, fake accounts to contact. Its been quite ...

A stupid throw away comment may have ruined my marriage

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

30 December 2013 (M) - I'm 42 and my wife is 30. We've been together 5 yrs and married the last 2. We knew when we got together that due to the age gap, we'd have to compromise on expectations around the timing of kids. I didn't want to be a really old dad, and she wanted ...

Why is it more acceptable for women to use sex toys than it is for men?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

29 December 2013 (M) - just a tought. why is it totally acceptable for girls the use of vibrators / stimulators and when it comes to males, the use of them makes you be seen as a perv, weirdo, looser... etc, etc... im in a ldr and we see each other every 3 months. My gf ...

I really like her but we come from two very different cultures. Is this worth pursuing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

29 December 2013 (M) - I'm not sure about pursuing a relationship with this girl. Hi. I'm from Pakistan and currently studying at a University in London. There I befriended a Tunisian girl. I became attracted to her because of her character. At first I was just merely ...

My girlfriend's mother seemed to like me but has suddenly changed her mind

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. I have a dilemma that I need a little help with. I have been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for just over 7 months and we are both 20. I have stayed at her moms house (she still lives with her mom)a few times be...

He has been lying to me for two years, and I don't know what to do.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - me n my partners relationship is really rocky at the moment as alot of things have gone on n im on the verge of breaking up with him, we have 2 children so im scared. i found out from him something about his past......he was an escort.....people ...

Hopeless romantic falls for his teacher

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3985 days ago

28 December 2013 (M) - I think that I'm obsessed, or maybe in love, maybe both, with my teacher. She is 24 and I am 18. At the moment I am a senior in high school. I've honestly had a crush on her since my sophomore year, and ever since I've grown more attached to her. ...

My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...

I wasnt a priority his life, so I broke up with him, did I do right?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Hi everyone! I hope someone can help me out and maybe guide me on a decision I made. I broke up with my boyfriend of about 4 months today and I guess I just need to see if people think I did the right thing as I know what I am like, I will do ...

My married man loves me but can't be with me

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Please bear with this long story. I am unmarried and in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I recently moved to a different country and there I met a guy friend. We both are aware of our situation from the very beginning when we first ...

Should I continue dating someone I know will leave within the year?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - I've been dating for 3 months a guy that i know is leaving in a year. He is military and he is only temporarily stationed here. I love spending time with him and we get along great. But he has told me time and time again that he doesn't believe in ...

Should my parents file for bankruptcy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3966 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Hello, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but just wanted to get some advice about my family. My parents (58 and 60 yrs old) are in a lot of debt. They have a business which has been losing money for a while and is putting t...

I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

26 December 2013 (M) - I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...

Not sure if he likes me, or not, after he avoided me. Have I ruined my chances with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I thought a shy friend of mine liked me, and i think I am starting to develop feelings for him too, but i think I ruined my chance to form a relationship with him. The only reason why i think he likes me is because of our mutual friend's teasing...

Did I leave it to long? Is she not interested anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

26 December 2013 (M) - Ok so I met a girl right before Christmas. We got on pretty well and by the end of the evening we were kissing. We were both with groups of friends so we exchanged numbers and parted ways. Next day I texted her telling her how nice it was to meet ...

I am scared to tell him how much I feel just in case I get hurt!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I've been dating for the last year but haven't found the spark with any of the guys. 6 months ago I decided to take up an opportunity to relocate to New York City from London with my current employer. However, I continued to date. Last month, I went ...

Am I overthinking because of guilt or did he really care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I had been dating my ex-bf for 8 months before he dumped me saying "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's going anywhere.". when I asked him if he figured he wanna break up with me two weeks before (which is when I felt like he started becoming ...

I can't get over my wife's sordid sexual past

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

25 December 2013 (M) - I am dealing with some issues with my wife's sexual past, I dont know how many she was with but I know it was between 15 and 25. She lied about being with my friend when I asked her about a month after we started dating. She later told me they were ...

Should I take two years off from my studies to pursue my dream of becoming an actor?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - Hey everyone, I am 24 years old and I have lived in a small city all my life due to which I couldn't pursue my dream to become an actor!education is a must so I dint want to quit studies and run after my dream so here I am,done with my studies ...

Boyfriend cheated on me years ago and my parents worry about my future with him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - I'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Our relationship was great until I knew he lied and cheat from me several times. That's about 2 years ago and since then I'm become a negative person and always worrying too much. However, I kno...

My friend gets out of prison in 7 weeks and wants me in his life

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - Help! I am very very confused I have a friend and he's in prison. He has been there for me in the past and I consider him a very good friend and a special person although he has done some major wrong things in his life. We have given each other su...

I think our friends daughter who is 9 is stealing from us and I'm not sure the best way to deal with it...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3989 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - I think our friends daughter- who is 9 is stealing from us and I'm not sure the best way to deal with it... Over the year I have noticed that after they visit, small things go missing from our house. At the beginning of the year I noticed that ...

Does she want to try again? Can someone give me some insight into what she is suggesting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3989 days ago

23 December 2013 (M) - Hi I'll try keep this short , about four month ago I pulled a girl in town and we started to see each other, she wanted to take it slow so I agreed with her as I really liked her, it went downhill when I introduced her on a night out to my best ...

I love her but I want to move on now. How can I make this happen?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3990 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone. Merry Christmas to you all, and thank you for taking time to read this. I will keep it as brief as I can, but I could really do with some help and guidance here. I initially met the love of my life 3 years ago (just to clarify, we...

I've always wanted to be with her but now she is damaged goods

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

23 December 2013 (M) - Hi, ive been trying to see some one, but she's working alot of over time right now, so thats her excuse for not calling or texting. We gone out a couple times in the last two months, we were talking alot, an texting, but not now, ive been trying ...

I'm afraid that losing weight will change my personality

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - I am dating this girl through internet about six months officially, but more than a year on total. I am a 18 yr old virgin. I am fatty, never had a "real" relationship. My mom humiliates me all the time saying things like "loose weight you'll n...

My boyfriend asked me to marry him in 4 or 5 years

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - I am so broken hearted! My boyfriend asked me to marry him last night and I was so excited But tonight wanted to go look at rings and he don't want to buy me one cause it will cut into his beer money and he says I just asked you to marry me but I d...

How do I inform my friends and family that I'm now a vegan?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - Basically I converted to veganism 2 months ago because i nolonger want to contribute to the violence towards animals, with the bonus of improving my health and being one step closer to saving the planet. Now i've keep this a secret from ever...

Should I distance myself from my boyfriend while I sort out my mental health issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I hope I can receive some advice or opinion from others. A few weeks or so ago I spent time in a psychiatric hospital. I had a break down and was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder because of trauma suffe...

How can I appreciate myself despite being faced with prejudice over being a black African.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

22 December 2013 (M) - The negative opinion of black Africans and the negative reaction to to black people has me feeling bad about myself. I've been able to spend more time on the internet and increased social awareness has left me struggling to be happy with my race and ...

Would you say it is rude to ask visitors to take their shoes off before entering your home?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

19 December 2013 (F) - Would you say it is rude to ask visitors to take their shoes off before entering your home? I have a small wooden sign hanging up in my hallway saying "Please remove your shoes," and am wondering if this may appear rude. I wouldn't throw a tantrum ...

Is there such a thing as a man loving you unconditionally?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

18 December 2013 (F) - I wanted to ask for an opinion of dating. I used to be in an abusive relationship for five years before enough was enough (called me fat when I was 128 and 5"3 - spit on me controlled me and I gave him everything) I walked away I hopes of finding a ...

If it's true love, will he ever get bored of me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3994 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. I've been with many guys before him and I know this sounds dumb but nobody else gave me this feeling of satisfaction and love that I get from being with him. This relationship feels different from ...

When are you ready to settle down? How do you know?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - How do you know when you're ready to settle down? I want someone to come home to every night, to be there for my son and I, but I still look at all these attractive men and think wow. I have so many options. I'm seeing a sweet, kind, amazing man who ...

I was SO in love with him! Can someone help me figure out why I feel disconected now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - Hello Everyone, I am in a situation that I need help with. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years. When i first met him I fell a connection right away. I was the one who pursued him and I was the one who initially wanted to be i...

Why do men send photos of their genitals to women they barely know?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - Okay, inquiring minds must know. This appears to be a relatively new phenomenon, but in all seriousness, why do men send pics of their penises to women? I'm not talking about if you're in a committed relationship or if the girl ASKS for it. I'm...

Is it ever a good idea to get back together with an ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - Do any of you think it's ever a good idea to get back with an ex? I broke up with my ex in February (after we had been together for a year) and starting in June we had about 6 months of no contact. (fyi, he's 29 and i'm 23) Neither one of u...

Given his history is it unreasonable to tell him not to go to the stag party?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

16 December 2013 (F) - Am I being unreasonable? My boyfriend of 19 months is best man at his best friend's wedding next year . I said he shouldn't go on his stag doo because on past ones my boyfriend went on he went with three different prostitutes when they all went...

He wants to split EVERY expense we incur as a couple and it's causing problems in our relationship

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

16 December 2013 (F) - Help needed!! My boyfriend of 6 months ls all for equality to the point that it makes me miserable. Before anyone says that I probably like when guys pay for me, let me give you a little background. We both young professionals , I am 5 y...

I feel awful, mostly to put her through this but I don't know what to do

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

16 December 2013 (M) - I am 28 years old and am recently married. Believe it or not, I was a virgin until I got married. I live in India where some families are conservative and my parents always told me that physical intimacy is ok with only a life partner. They didn...

I feel like one in a long line of women!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

16 December 2013 (F) - Please help me I am screwing myself up and my relationship. I am 34 and boyfriend is 45. We have been together for a very happy 18 months and living together for one year. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had but I am so close to losing him ca...

He wants to go "no contact" after our breakup but the pain is unbearable for me

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

15 December 2013 (F) - hello, I need some advise. I am in the in the mids of breaking up with my bf with whom I am with for 4 years. Is there anyone there who could help me lessen the pain a bit? I have read everywhere that the no contact rule should be applied but I do...

My best friend has changed for the worse since meeting her boyfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

15 December 2013 (F) - Hi, I could really do with some advice right now. Please can you read the whole thing as I know sometimes people just answer the question that comes up as the title, regardless of what is said in the actual written part? I’m also so sorry for the ...

My husband and I no longer make decisions together

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

14 December 2013 (F) - My husband and I have found it hard to make time for each other lately. He is so busy working and I am busy with kids and house. We always make decisions together but lately we can't agree on anything he just says what he thinks I want to hear. W...

Should I spend three more years pursuing a degree in a field I dislike?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

14 December 2013 (F) - this isnt really a relationship question but more of a futuristic decision. I have never been confident, stuck in a dead end job, got a great degree but all employee's care about is previous experience. I ask myself how can u get experience without ...

I worry that my boyfriend secretly keeps in touch with his first love

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

14 December 2013 (F) - I don't know how to talk about these problems without sounding crazy so I'm just going to come out and say it. I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months. I know this may be creepy but I often think about his ex girlfrien...

I envy my friend for being confident with boys

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3999 days ago

14 December 2013 (F) - Hiya! Recently, I have realised that my best friend is a 'Guy Magnet' (sounds really strange I know, but its the only way I could think to describe it!) She is naturally pretty and she's a tomboy so its not hard to guess that is another reason w...

Should I try and persuade her to date me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

14 December 2013 (M) - Hi, I've never posted here before but here it goes. I dated this girl nearly three years ago. A friend set us up, and things didn't work out. I didn't know her that well and she didn't know me, not to mention the fact that I had just gotten my heart...