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writes:So I'm a virgin but I masturbate with a vibrator. It's a 6 inch bullet so is rock hard. Every time i've used it to penetrate it's really hurt! I have to use lube every time before hand so i'm really worried that when i first have sex it will really hurt and i'll have to use lube. I just don't seem to get wet. Is it different because it's rock hard? Or is it that i'm really tight? I've broken my hymen and i've masturbated by penetration maybe 9 or 10 times now and every time it really hurts. I thought that it would get less painful and more enjoyable as I use it because I stretch but that's not the case. Advice would be great!!
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 i can understand your frustration as ive gone through it too. i have found that arousing yourself before penetration is helpful, and ive also found that just a hard bullet wont do it for me, ive experimented a little with different vibes and found that a soft plastic one with some movement is actually a lot more enjoyable. i dont actually enjoy haveing a vibrator inserted in me very much at all, its too hard and just feels wrong, i usually only use them for my clit. dont worry about actual sex, a mans penis is usually a lot more enjoyable than a toy. im not saying that it will be perfect, because then of course you have another player in the game, but thats half of the fun, figuring eachother out ;-)
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 First of all, make sure you're aroused. Don't go straight for the vibrator. Instead, gently touch every part of your body - boobs, pull on your nipples, lightly touch around your pussy, then touch your lips and run your finger from your hole to your clit, between your lips. That ought to make you naturally wet, but don't rush it. Masturbation is just like sex - you need foreplay before getting into it.
Also, some people - myself included - are too sensitive. I use a vibrator bullet, but I only use it for my clit; I don't like vibrators in my hole. Perhaps you are like me.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 May 2011):
 It could be the vibrations are just too strong for you and causing you to clench up painfully. If it hurts, don't do it. Also, having to use lube with a vibrator is totally normal. If it doesn't hurt when you put lube on it and turn off the vibrations, then you have nothing to worry about.
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