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writes:when i was younger me and my younger brother were very close. we did everything together, told everything to eachother. When i was about 14 and my brother was 13 he was going through puberty and was very confused. one day when we were alone he exposed himself to me and pressured me into doing the same for him. i refused and he told me to never tell anyone. i did eventually tell my mom when we were out for coffee about a week later. she told me not to worry about it that her and my father would take care of it. they spoke to him private and that was the end of it. i never spoke of it until recently when i told my fiance. he was very upset by it and was even more upset when he found out that my parents didnt talk to me about it or get us counciling. he has gone so far as to say he doesnt want me around my brother anymore. not that i see my brother much, ever since that situation we havnt spent much time together, but i have to wonder is he right? did my parents sweep it under the rug or is he just being overprotective?
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reader, youngandrestless +, writes (26 May 2011):
youngandrestless is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey so new development on this front! me and my fiance had worked past the whole incident that happened with me and my brother all those years ago, and then easter dinner came along. We were at my grandparents house, and everything was going great, my brother has a new girlfriend so he was with her the whole time. Things didnt get weird until the end. i was knelt down to put my shoes on, and hadnt noticed that the top of my thong was peeking out, and my brother walked past me and my fiance, gave my man a big nasty grin, bent over and yanked on my thong, even pulling my pants down a little in the process. My fiance told me after wards that he had noticed my brother staring at my butt all evening???!!!!! I am very concerned about this now, and am wondering if maybe again my fiance was imagining it or if this is a serious concern! my fiance wants us to take him out for coffee and spell out that he is never to touch me again in that manner, and that i will never be alone with him, but is this going to far? or is my fiance right? should we be taking this seriously?
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reader, youngandrestless +, writes (3 December 2010):
youngandrestless is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your answers. they helped alot!!!
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reader, the_hidden_key  +, writes (2 December 2010):
If it had become something more serious then yes i think your fiance would have the right in a way to say that you houldn't be around your brother, but really this is a fairely minor thing.
Your parents did handle it, it didn't happen again, nothing else came of it. But questions, has it affected you in a negatieve way growing up? has it caused you any trauma? does it make you feel "bad" in anyway? personally i dont think somethhing this minor would have that kind of affect, but you never know.
It is in the past and it was dealt with, the past is the past and your fiance is your future/present, that's it, finito, done and dusted, vaboom! lol
Congrats btw :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): I do not blame your boyfriend for being concerned. You two were not children, he was old enough to know what is right or wrong and it sounds to me if you did not tell your mum, who knows what your brother might done next? Your parents did handle the situation, did he do it again? no he did not. Thank God you told them before he did something else. Just reassure your boyfriend that nothing else happened to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): I think your fiance is over reacting. You obviously don't seem overly disturbed by this incident. Or are you? Anyways what I see here is 2 young kids hitting puberty. But they haven't lost their immaturity. When I was 5 my friends and I would stand at the bathroom door naked and flash the girls across the hall. I think that's what all this was.
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