A
male
age
,
*kirting the issues
writes:Ok here goes nothing. I am a cross dresser married to a delightfully beautiful woman, who knows and approves totally. This is my second marriage. Recently, she confessed to me that she desired to play the male role in the bedroom. While it was initially painful, I mustered through for her. My question is, why is it that whenever she is inside me, do I have wave after wave of the feeling I am defecating? It feels good, and I know it can't be that I have to go because we learned to pre-clean. Any ideas why it is happening? Could it be harmful?Thanks for any input (pardon the pun).
View related questions:
anal sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, skirting the issues +, writes (20 February 2011):
skirting the issues is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for you insightful advice. We did kind of rush matters. We do as I said make sure it is all clean back there. We do use lubrication quite liberally. We wanted to stay away from the petroleum jellies
Opting for the natural oils and soaps. Unfortunately size does matter in this case. Unlike the female G-Spot located nearer the entrance of the vagina, mine is aka the prostate and a good 6 inches inside me. But it is true about that stimulation. My orgasms have been more powerful than when I was in my twenties. Of course weekly testosterone and eating right help too. Anyway ladies thanks again and if any guys have in put feel free. XOX
A
female
reader, Nime +, writes (20 February 2011):
 When the walls of the colon feel enough internal pressure (usually from collecting feces) it will induce peristalsis, which is a radial relaxing and contraction of the smooth muscle to propel the material through the colon. So although you say you're totally clean, it's probably the pressure of whatever your wife is putting inside you that is inducing peristalsis. I haven't had anal sex so this is just my guess.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): I think you need to relax more. Part of you is resisting and 'pushing' what's being put inside you.
Anal sex can be unsafe if you're not careful. You need to, like you said, pre-clean. Relax. Lube up. Take it slow.
Perhaps take it slower. Try a few different toys. Anal beads and butt plugs. Try masturbating with a butt plug in to get comfortable with it. If you can do it on your own to build confidence then it will help you relax.
Perhaps try a smaller phallus on her strap-on if it's to much to take.
If all else fails have a safe word just so she knows when to stop.
...............................
A
female
reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 while i cannot definetly answer from a mans point of view i can empathise. my fiance regularily likes to enter me analy, it can be slightly painful, and the feeling of having to "go" is the body's natural response to having something in that cavity. medicaly speaking, there isnt supposed to be anyting going into that area, but coming out, so your body is only responding how it is programmed to. i also know that the male "g spot" is located in the anus, so it can be very pleasurable as well as slightly painful. what you are experiencing is very normal, and all of us who are analy sexual go through it.
...............................
|
