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writes:Help i am in love with my mums friend and i think she likes me too.But she is with some one and she has two kids.I am 18.i really want to tell her but i am not sure because she is with this other person and she is 59 and she doesn't act nor look like that age at all.please help what should i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 She's WAY too old for you (no matter how attractive she may still be)
She's in a relationship
You need to find something else to occupy your mind/fantasies with - like shooting rubber bands at the stars.......
Enough said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): If this was an 18 year old female and a 59 year old man, everyone would be saying 'go for it' or something along the lines of encouragement.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Im not even going to go into the age gap and the fact it would never work and just say, you would really do that to your mother?! Upset and embarrass her all in one stupid moments? Find someone closer to your own again who isn't your parents friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): C'mon dude..She is way too old for you
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 March 2011):
You will embarrass the heck out of your mother if you pursue this friend of hers.
You may well shock and embarrass the woman herself, if it comes to that.......look, she's 41 years older than you, whether she is well-preserved or not. That is FAR too much of an age difference! Her life experience, outlook, views and responsibilities are vastly difference to yours. Not only that, she has a significant other.
No good can come from acting on this infatuation. For the love of pete, LEAVE IT ALONE and find a girl closer to your own age.........
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 the age wouldnt be such a big deal, while such relationships are not common they do happen. the thing that is a problem is that she is in a relationship. the last thing you want to do is try and ruin someone elses happiness for your own. i understand that your feelings for her may be very strong but you need to accept that she does not feel the same way about you and that she is happily in a relationship aleady. the only thing you should do now is wait. if this lady ends her relationship with the other person, then is your time to talk to her, but not now. all that will happen is that you may hurt her if you announce how you feel. she is not ready for it, and you need to realize that.
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reader, cupidus +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Maybe she's from a passed life.
I would look at the things you like/love about her
and set it as a standard for your future GF's
Also this can be a sign you are uncomfortable with girls your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): I think your time would be better spent shooting rubber bands at the stars.
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reader, shiori +, writes (19 March 2011):
Go ahead. Just tell her. You're old enough or take time to get her to fall in love with you. Give her signs that you do, or you could just say it right now, but say it in a sincere way. Don't be too pushy. Like say this, '' I love you, and i always have been. I know you have someone, but could you at least think it over? I know you would probably never go out with me, but please consider it.''
That should probably work. you have a 50 50% chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): Hi, I'm in exactly the same position! only my love is a teacher which makes it a little more complicated. From what I can see you have 2 options. If you have a really good relationship with your mum you should tell her that you've been falling for this woman and see what her reaction is. It could be helpful to get a perspective from someone who knows both of you so well. The second option is to tell the woman flat out. It may seem scary but it could be good to get it off your chest and it also put's the ball in her court.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do! My only other advice is to not do nothing! this will continue to eat you up if you just avoid it.
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