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My girlfriend's dad walked in on us!
Q. im 16, my girlfriend is also 16, she is 7 months older than me. i was at her house today in the garage and her dad walked in on us going at it and our pants had just pulled up before he could see anything and said to his daughter, "what are you ...
A. 2 August 2012: You are too young for that, however the best you can do is to apologise to him in a form of a Text-based method, an SMS for an example. Don't try to explain a lot, just say you are sorry and it won't happen again.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl?
Q. Hello everyone, I don't know if Im being paranoid by asking this question. Well, is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl? Because when my friends talk or having conversations, they boast or brag about having sex with four or more ...
A. 27 June 2012: Wow i'm overwhelmed by your responses. I respect and appreciate the time you took to share the love, thank you a lot for your advice. Im glad that Im in the right direction. Love you all.... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband have sex with me?
Q. i am married and have been for 8yrs me and my husband has not had sex for 2yrs. he is 56 and i am 49 for some reason i dont know why he wont have sex with me and i have asked him if it is me and he says no he just says it is him...
A. 23 March 2012: I think he might be having erection problems and that can be the reason why he is acting like that. I think you should let him know that you will support him no matter what problem he is having. Try to go with him for counselling, but I really do ... (read in full...)
Three years together, then we have sex and he breaks up with me the next day!
Q. My partner (who is 37) left me (mid twenties) after having sex with me. I had been with my partnr for three years and last week, we finally had sex. At first I wanted to wait, as I had never had sex before and was afraid it would hurt and I wasn't ...
A. 3 August 2011: 2 years = 24 months without sex? The guy is gay, he's confused on his sexuality. Or he could be haunted by something, either he was molested or somethimg. Try to find out where he is and book for counselling.... (read in full...)
I want to watch my partner with another woman
Q. I am really confused. I am constantly feeling turned on to the idea of watching my long term partner with another female. To be blunt I want him to tell me how good it feels as its happening. It would have to be someone he will never see again,and a ...
A. 3 August 2011: I think by doing that, you'll be kissing your relationship good-bye because if it happens that woman is better than you in bed, your boyfriend will be hooked on her. True sex was mean't for two people who love one another.... (read in full...)
After sex my body is aching so much!
Q. Hi uncles and antys... My b/f and i had unprotected sex last week and now my vigina is eaching so bad... Wat do u think could be? Any advice will be taken into consideration. Much thanx in advance...
A. 3 August 2011: Hey its best if you can consult a doctor, do not take things for granted especially when it comes to genatalia. The doctor will have tools for analysis.... (read in full...)
Do I have a criminal record?
Q. Hello guys Im really worried about this, maybe im stressing about nothing, I really don't know, in 2007 I was arrested, police said I was taken in for writing CDs, then I spent a weekend at the mini-jail, the following day my fingerprints were taken ...
A. 11 June 2011: Thank you a lot blonde30s and tottyflossy, I took your advice, I called one of Magistrates I know and he said the only way to get a Criminal Record is if you are found guilty by the Court of Law. So he told me that I don't have one. Im so happy! ... (read in full...)
Do men find skinny girls sexier than curvy girls?
Q. I want you opinions men and women! I want to know do men find skinny girls sexier than curvy girls? i used to be rake thin and prided my self on that but now im older i have got bigger and im worried men wont fancy me as me! Given a choice what sort ...
A. 30 May 2011: Everyone has their choice, I think we're all unique and special, whether you're skinny as a skeleton or fat as an elephant, I dont see why people should judge other people, everyone on this earth is a creation of God, so please lets stop criticising ... (read in full...)
He wants to try oral but I don't want to
Q. I just turned 15 in February my boyfriend just turned 14 in may well im a virgin and we have been going for three weeks now. He says he wants to eat me out but the thing is I dont really want him to should I let him do it? ...
A. 29 May 2011: NO! Did you say you are only "15" and he's "14", you guys are way too young to be doing things like this! You're both not ready! You already answered yourself "You dont want him to do that" keep it that way girl.... (read in full...)
Is it just junk mail?
Q. I need some advise I was behind my boyfriend while he was on the internet he went to his email and I saw all these messages from fling.com sayin firls wanted to meet him I couldn't tell if they had been read or not but he deleted all of the messages ...
A. 29 May 2011: LOL lady, don't stress yourself about those kinda messages, they're just JUNK, I always get them all the time and I simply don't have time to look at them nor delete them. TRUST YOUR MAN. :)... (read in full...)
Should I give my virginity to this married friend who wants to help?
Q. My story you may feel different. I'm 26, healthy, handsome and still a virgin man. I had tight foreskin and consulted doctor recently. He advised try to do handjob always with the help of porn in net or books which doesn't worked actually. And later ...
A. 12 May 2011: Word of advice: Please don't lose your virginity like this! Be patient and find yourself a steady girlfriend who will love you no matter what, I had your problem of Phimosis and the best way was to do circumcision, now Im a happy man in bed and my ... (read in full...)
Are men aware of what porn does to their sex drive?
Q. With all this so easy to reach pornstuff these days and especially men of all age groups spending lots of time on pornsites, I wonder what happens to their sex drive and joy of having sex with there partners. It makes me sad to read from so many ...
A. 15 April 2011: I honestly see absolutely wrong in men watching porn, but given a fact that porn is fake, if you can have that in your mind then you won't be a pervert on your girlfriend and do things that are unreal. I watch porn for entertainment not as an ... (read in full...)
Someone please tell what this bump is!
Q. Hello im 15 years old, never had sex but i do masterbate. I think i might have hpv I am not sure. I googled this too but i want the agony aunts help also. I have this bump around my vagina. It hurts to touch its hard and i dont know how to ...
A. 17 December 2010: Hey just go to the doctor for help, not all bumps and rashes are from STIs. The doctor will give you something that will make you feel better. When you masturbate make sure you do not do anything that contacts with your vagina in a bad way. Make ... (read in full...)
Got a boyfriend but like someone else...
Q. So, as of right now i have a boyfriend and we tried dating before but i always had started making the converstaions so we broke up but then after about a month and a half we began talking and i started liking him again. Last night we had went to ...
A. 5 December 2010: I don't understand what you're trying to say, he doesn't want to talk with you generally or he doesn't talk at all when he's with you? You should tell him that you don't like it when he's always silent, Communication is vital in a relationship, he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't buy me anything!
Q. My boyfriend almost never buys me anything, he got me this bracelet that he got downtown it have cost him like about ten bucks and for valentines day he got me a bunch of stuff from jewlery box where evrything is a dollar but he also got me flowers ...
A. 10 August 2010: At least he tries, are trying to tell us that expensive gifts define real love? If thats the answer then you are wrong, stop comparing yourself with your friends whom i think brag to you about what their boyfriends bought for them, it seems you ard ... (read in full...)
The scary 'age gap"......
Q. Hey guys. I'm currently in love with a girl that is 17 years old, and i'm 25 years old. I've known her for almost a year now, and i'm still madly in love with her. When we met, she was still dating someone else, but she told me that she wants t...
A. 10 August 2010: Age shouldn't be a problem, just ask the girl if she's okay with it or not, but I don't think that's important, as long as you guys are happy together then don't stress and one other thing, don't care what people will say, you wanna build an ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirting and lying about it, what is he doing?
Q. i am in a comitted ldr...i and my bf are together since one year and one month... my problem is that he has made a friend in girl in facebook and i feel that my bf is trying to flirt with her. i checked his mailbox and found that he was asking t...
A. 10 August 2010: I agree with Penita, just tell him he should take you serious and he must never think its fun to have someone besides you, that's cheating. Charity begins at home, he should learn right now to love and care for only one woman in his life. Just ask ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks my breasts are too big, is he right to ask for a reduction?
Q. I'm going out with my boyfriend 10 months and everything going well except for in the bedroom. He prefers women with smaller breasts and I've become very conscious that my 32f breasts must be a turn off to him. I used to love having my breasts ...
A. 10 August 2010: Who is he to judge you? His love for you should be unconditional and nevertheless he should love you for you, please try to talk with him, how would he feel if you said he should go and increase his penis size because you're not feeling him. He ... (read in full...)
Mum walks in on me having sex?
Q. Titled by Poster: What a mess i am in. Had a gathering the other night, well i would'nt even call it that, there was like five people and myself there and that's it. Things went well, wasnt anything crazy, nothing broke, i dont think. However, the...
A. 1 August 2010: Don't worry girl your mom will be okay just try to talk with her about how you can make her trust you again, do not act as if what you did was right. Just give her time to cool down. She's your mom, she'll get around.... (read in full...)
Could it be that my wife was not a virgin when we married 6 months ago?
Q. Hi, My Name is Premkumar. I have got married six months before. My wife is 19 years old, she is very healthy, according to her age her weight is more. her weight is approx 65 kg. on my first night with my wife while intercourse blood does not f...
A. 25 July 2010: Hey man not all women bleed when having sex for the first time, my gf didn't bleed when we had it for the first time, please don't be stereotyped about the nonsense said to women when they don't bleed, if you want to find out what's happening, you ... (read in full...)
I need to know... is he using me?
Q. I have been going out with a guy for a few months now, I like being with him but I can't help think that he is only using me for sex. We only usually meet at night, there is a small distance between us (a train journey) so he always comes to me. We ...
A. 25 July 2010: A straight Yes, but the question is how do you feel during the intercourse and do you always do it with him when you're drunk only? Because if you're always high when you're about to do it then I'm sorry to tell you that the guy doesn't even ... (read in full...)
How can make my girlfriend be more open with me?
Q. Hello guys I have a big big problem right now, how can I make my girlfriend to be open to me, I'm really confused, she's everything I need from a girl but she never talks and worse she ain't open to me and we have together for almost 2 years now. ...
A. 15 July 2010: Thank you guys I guess there's nothing much I can do. I love her and I will wait till she's ready.... (read in full...)
I can not squirt!
Q. Hi! My problem is no matter how hard I try I can not "squirt". I have been trying for 3 months now, practising, and trying, and doing it diffrent ways. I always use the bathroom before masterbating, and when I do masterbate while messageing my ...
A. 7 July 2010: Please do not make that mistake of immitating from porn, porn is fake and it will mess you up if you're into it, squirting is not a must!! As long as you are satisfied with your orgasm then I dont think you should stress yourself about this.... (read in full...)
Ladies, was this my first real orgasm?
Q. I am a 30 yr old female and last night, I think I experienced my first orgasim..... I don't know for sure, but after me and my man finished up, I couldn't stop shaking and I have never felt like this a day in my life in 30 yrs!!! wowowowowowoowwow!! ...
A. 7 July 2010: Yes it was an orgasm, my girlfriend is doing that everytime we make love.... (read in full...)
Our first attempt at sex was difficult...but is she still a virgin now or not?
Q. Hello everyone I'm 21 and my girlfriend is going to turn 18 soon, we have been together for about 8 months now, I've never met such a wonderful girl that is open to talk about anything, yesterday we decided to "try" as we are both virgins, We ...
A. 11 April 2010: We are now having great sex and we are using protection. I'm so greatful for your comments.... (read in full...)
If his peins didnt go all the way in but I bled and it was my first time am I still a virgin?
Q. well this guy that i liked for awhile finally likes me after he moves away and comes back and i finally told him that i like him. so we had hanging out and we tlkd n decied to have sex. i lied and told him that i wasnt a virgin when i was and his ...
A. 7 January 2010: The fact his penis was in but not completely in means you are no longer a virgin, and it happened that he broke your hymen which lead to you bleeding. There is nothing to be embarassed about. If you want to get used to him, I suggest you not to take ... (read in full...)
I gave him bj but he couldn't stay hard and didn't cum
Q. hey i have this boyfriend.. we have been together for 2 years and we havent had sex till now... i am not quite ready for it and well my guy hasnt pressured me either... which is nice. we are both virgins and we are both 23. yesterday was ...
A. 21 September 2009: Hello Samantha, usually its difficult for virgins to adapt the "sex" thing, as first times are really the hardest, so I think your boyfriend was frustrated and sometimes that runs through the guy's brain (disturbing the blood flow) and it stops the ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to notice or talk about big boobs, mines are small!
Q. ok so im 18...and I wear a 34 A.. im beautiful yes but im so self concious.. I wish I at least had a B. my mom had smaller boobs than me all the way up til she was 30 then she got a boob job but i hate wen my boyfriend is around his friends they all ...
A. 11 September 2009: Hey Junkie you need not worry too much about that, boys will always be boys. It doesn't mean your boyfriend dislikes your boobs or anything like that. Believe me when I tell you he loves you the way you are because if he didn't, he would have gone ... (read in full...)
He has gone off sex, but masturbates all the time. Help guys!
Q. So I need advice from all the guys out there please... My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half - and have lived together for nearly half of that time - he's 27 and I'm 25. Our sex life is pretty inconsistent I would say - ...
A. 11 September 2009: Hello there, it could be a question of whether he's small down there or does he watch porn on his mobile. I personally think this guy doesn't have any problem, it could be that he doesn't get the results he expect when having sex with you. Do you ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. Am 22yrs old guy and have never had sex with a girl, but i do go through romance. But recently what all my friends talk about is their sex life. So i decided to disvirgin myself, so i met one girl and decided 2 sleep with her, but the girl has...
A. 1 September 2009: I'm also 22 years old and I recently had sex for the first time, and believe me! It wasn't that exciting as both of us were virgins, when I put a condom on, my penis couldn't be hard again, at some stage I managed to put in for a few seconds but I ... (read in full...)
I'm rubbish at socialising, how can I become more gregarious?
Q. I am a 27 year old attractive male, with a good job, nice flat, my problem is I'm rubbish at socialising and making friends, people seem to find me awkward or boring and I don't know how to change this or if I ever will be able to? My gf even broke ...
A. 1 September 2009: Hello there, I am worried of what is happening to you, don't you think this has got to do with balancing your priorities. For example, it might be possible that you concerntrate too much on your work or the serious things in life, another thing ... (read in full...)
Our first attempt at sex was difficult...but is she still a virgin now or not?
Q. Hello everyone I'm 21 and my girlfriend is going to turn 18 soon, we have been together for about 8 months now, I've never met such a wonderful girl that is open to talk about anything, yesterday we decided to "try" as we are both virgins, We ...
A. 30 August 2009: Thank you everyone for the information, I just want to know what must I do next time not to be frustated?... (read in full...)
We didn't have sex before marriage and now I discover husband isn't creative or that interested!
Q. Hi All, Please advice. I have been married to my husband for a year and a half now. I love him. Ever since we have been dating and married I am the one who initiates sex or kissing cuddling etc . We never had sex before marriage. Ev...
A. 26 July 2009: Helo it seems you are having a bit of a hard situation, usually when a man does that it means he's hitting on someone or he masturbates too much, does he like being alone? but however it could be a case of him no longer interested in you. Please try ... (read in full...)
He's a perfect gentlemen, only problem is he's 21 and I'm 16 going on 17!
Q. Hi. I really need some help here. i recently met this guy who seems perfect for me. we're both really into art and the outdoors, and he's a perfect gentleman. the only problem is, i'm 16 (about to be 17) and he's 21. i feel really iffy about this ...
A. 25 July 2009: Hello young lady this really depends on the culture you are in, I don't see it could be a problem because the age difference is just normal, like you are saying.. Why would you let a gentleman like that pass you knowing that he could be Mr. Right? I ... (read in full...)
I've got this great guy, but all I think about is my ex!
Q. dear cupid i need your help. im nowhere near over my ex, "robert", and we were on and off for almost two years and inseperable bestfriends for two years before we decided to turn romantic. i love him with everything i have and i mean truly madly ...
A. 20 July 2009: Hello there, it seems you really have a strong bond to this guy. I suggest you should follow your heart and date him again but then again you have a new guy whom I think you made a mistake of dating him while still having a strong connection for ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I am ready...
Q. I just started dating this guy i have liked for 3 years and he lives 30 min. away fro me and so we can't see eachothe as often as we like and we are going to hange out on mon. and i am 13 and all my friends are having sex but not me and he asked if ...
A. 4 July 2009: Please don't have it, you are way too young to be worried abt these lifechanging matters, now if ur bf really loves u, he wl respect u n WAIT for you.... (read in full...)
How can I hint to him to buy me some flowers?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and he hasn't brought me any presents or anything. For valentines day I sent him a card as we are in a long distance relationship and he didn't know what he wanted. I thought he would have brought me a ...
A. 1 July 2009: Hey young lady nt all men think about buying gifts and cards, is he romantic? Then if he is, you need not worry that much, maybe he might be preparing a big suprise for you, maybe not. I was once in a long distance relationship and I have to be ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong? Everything was great at first and now he has me in limbo....
Q. what is happening??? I met this guy in january, he has the most bright smile i have ever seen, we just click, or at list a thought, he ask my help for a project he wanned to start, and we start to spend a lot of time together, he call me for what...
A. 27 June 2009: That is very sad but the truth of the matter is you must move on, there is nothing wrong you did, feelings are feelings, that guy did that for the best, rather than pretending to you, which would hurt you even more if you would have to find (imagine ... (read in full...)
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