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30-35,
*Preeya*
writes:I have been going out with a guy for a few months now, I like being with him but I can't help think that he is only using me for sex. We only usually meet at night, there is a small distance between us (a train journey) so he always comes to me. We always stay at his mates houses where he usually talks to them and not me. we usually drink alcohol and then go to bed... the morning after we say a few words then he goes back and i go home and sometimes I dont hear from him again for a few days. Now he has gone away for a few weeks to visit his family, hes been gone for 3 days now and I haven't heard from him. He tells me he loves me but I find it hard to believe him... sometimes I think he says it to keep me sweetso is he using me?? Reply to this Question
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reader, tonik  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 A straight Yes, but the question is how do you feel during the intercourse and do you always do it with him when you're drunk only? Because if you're always high when you're about to do it then I'm sorry to tell you that the guy doesn't even feelings for you, he uses alcohol to speed up the process of intimacy, be a girl and walk away from the guy unless if you care about him. But the real fact is he's using you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Your being used. Sorry. you just need to tell him straight and then leave
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reader, rivi  +, writes (24 July 2010):
From how you describe it yes it's just a NSA sexual connection as far as he is concerned.
And as it's not every night he's prob seeing other girls as well [ at least insist on condom usage if you continue to see him.]
My q. is : are you yourself actually enjoying the sex ? If so I wouldn't necessarily rush to give it / him up : good sex isn't to be lightly thrown away ! - just make clear that you are free to look out for other boyfriends who may give you more than just a sexual friendship.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 July 2010):
 The quick answer is yes, he is using you for sex.
That hard question... why are you satisfied with this ? Why are you letting a guy treat you like this?
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