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writes:I am a 27 year old attractive male, with a good job, nice flat, my problem is I'm rubbish at socialising and making friends, people seem to find me awkward or boring and I don't know how to change this or if I ever will be able to? My gf even broke up with me because she said I became to boring and wasn't any fun!I don't know how I can change this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Hello, I feel exactly the same way you do. I am awful at talking to people and whenever I go out with my friends I feel like I just watch them talking to other people while I stand there looking awkward.
I know this isn't an answer and doesn't help. But just to let you know you aren't the only one. x
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 The first chapter of the book "How I raised myself from failure to success by Frank Bettger" talks about how "being enthusiastic" changed his life around.
It's the first chapter of the book, he went through something similar to you. I think you could really relate to the author.
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reader, tonik  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 Hello there, I am worried of what is happening to you, don't you think this has got to do with balancing your priorities. For example, it might be possible that you concerntrate too much on your work or the serious things in life, another thing could be that you are not really a Social-person, which is quite normal but this will mess up your life because in order to survive you need people, imagine having everything you wanted and living alone in a isolated place but with no people around? Would you really like that?
So what I'm saying to you is you can overcome your problem by either doing some team-building within the company colleagues first(which will improve your social skills) or go out on a vacation with your girlfriend and start to meet different people (who now have healthy relationships), I believe your problem can be fixed very soon if you make time to get the solution.
I hope this works out.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (1 September 2009):
It could be that you have been socilaising with the wrong people - It's a bit mean of people to call you boring. They don't sound very kind!!
If you don;t feel that confident, why not try going to the gym a couple of times a week - this will really help both psychologically and physically, and maybe take an evening class, and find nice people to mix with, like yourself. :o)
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