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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell me and thay guy broke up so ya
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): well a boy i loved sez hes not ready for me but just tell him yr not ready if he relly loves u he will under stand hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u guys i am the one who wrote this and u told him and he understood so thx it helped alot
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reader, marietomates  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 You already know the answer to your question. You said yourself you're not sure, which means you're really not ready. It is difficult when a lot of your friends are starting to have sex and acting like it's normal and it's not a big deal, but when you're 13 you should be having fun with your friends and creating your own social life, finding out what you love to do and hanging out with guys is part of that. A lot of times young people who start having sex don't think they need protection or think they won't get pregnant, but it's a huge possibility. Don't start having sex until you think you'd be okay with making a life changing decision about having a baby. Could you support and care for a baby? Could you carry it for 9 months while you went to school and give it up for adoption? These are questions you shouldn't have to think about when you're 13. Enjoy your teenage years but save sex for later when you're able to deal with the consequences.
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reader, nikandme +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Well just tell him how you feel about it. and if he is worth anything you wont break up. if a guy breaks up with you because you wont sleep with him, you were with him to long to start. this is coming from a guy. trust me i know how we think. and just wait till your at least 16 or older hold of longer if possible.
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reader, tonik  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Please don't have it, you are way too young to be worried abt these lifechanging matters, now if ur bf really loves u, he wl respect u n WAIT for you.
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reader, bpb  +, writes (4 July 2009):
Ok you are 13.13 yearolds should not be asking their girlfriends for sex.You are too young and if the boy actually liked you,he would not be asking for sex.The only reason he is using you is for sex.Believe me do not waste yourself on a relationship that will not last.You are young,live your life.Don't rush things.Everything in its time is beautiful!Believe me
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reader, mandyx99 +, writes (4 July 2009):
 hi im 13
and that has happened to me too
but listen if he really cared about you and likes you
then he should understand that your not ready.Another thing is hat you souldnt feel like you have to do this to make him happy or satisfy him . you can maintain a boyfriend for a long period of time without having sex
and it goes perfectly fine.
all im saying is that if you are not redy then do it so when you are you would be able to know that it was because you wanted to not because your boyfriend wanted to.
(i had a boyfriend and he wanted to make love too i told him i wasnt ready and he understood ) so you will do fine
best of luck
XX AMANDA XX
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (4 July 2009):
 omg i feel bad for you. im 14 and ive never been asked to have sex, but have been told they want it from me, even when im not going out with them. sooo uhm well the best u can do is say you dont want to becuz u dont feel like it should happen this soon, and that your not physically ready for it. hope this helps. :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I think you shouldn't have sex until you really love someone,but that's just me. If you'r not ready wait and you will evetually have sex when you find that special person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Baby Girl,
If you don't think your ready don't do it. Believe me it pays to wait and he will have more respect for you. I know it seems as though everybody is doing it but you are different. You don't have to do what everybody is doing. And if your boyfriend doesn't respect your opinoin about having sex than you shouldn't be with him. Its a whole bunch of boys out there and if he don't acknoweldge your opinion then find somebody who will. Just Remember if you guys don't know what you are doing then you both can get yourselves in deep trouble.
Stay strong and be yourself don't let what everybody else do influence you..
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (4 July 2009):
If your not sure if your ready, then it means you really arnt ready because you will know when you are. I bet some of your friends are making it up so they dont feel left out. Tell him your not ready and if he threatens to end the relationship then that is best because then he is only using you.
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