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writes:ok so im 18...and I wear a 34 A.. im beautiful yes but im so self concious.. I wish I at least had a B. my mom had smaller boobs than me all the way up til she was 30 then she got a boob job but i hate wen my boyfriend is around his friends they all talk about big boobs and watch the stupid girls gone wild add on t.v and it makes me feel terrible... my bf says i have the perfect boobs but yet he always talks about big ones with his friends... ill never let him watch porn or go to a strip club bcuz those gurls warp guys minds into thinking thats wut women are supposed to look like and act... i even hate it wen movies now a days have girls toppless in them.. theres not one movie out there now that has a girl with small boobs in it...I dont Know what to do any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): Hi there, i think this might be a very common thing girls with small boobs go through. I myself have small boobs, and i do catch myself getting angry with my fiancé for noticing girls who have a bigger chest. But you cant allow it to ruin your relationship. You need to learn how to love yourself before anything else. If your boyfriend is with you, its because he loves you, and not because the size of your breasts. that should never matter, but if it does then that means you are with the wrong person. Your true love, is the one who will love you no matter what. Just make sure to be as open as you can with him. Talk to him, make him aware that due to you having self-esteem issues, he needs to be more caring about your feelings. And you need his help to get through your issues, together you can make your relationship much stronger. I have been with my now fiance fro 7 1/2 years and we have gone through about anything. Just stay positive and learn to love yourself.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 What's wrong with a 34A I think they are great, can't see the problems from my perspective. Look, its just the image created by advertisers that screw people up, yesterday thin was in now bigger big boobs are better then some women have them cut down because they look great to men but are impossible to live with (the boobs I mean). No one wins except the head doctors (who are probably into advertising).
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Your bf seems very caring and supportive of you if he told you that he likes you the way you are, so your chest size shouldn't matter. (If a guy judges a girl only by her bra size, then he isn't worth it in the first place!) Sweetie, I'm sure you have a lot to offer and are a great person, so don't let your smaller assets bring you down! If you're still stressing, wear tops with ruffled necklines, add lace to a scooped neckline, try a lacy camisole or fitted blouse with a v-neck, look for a top or dress with a gathered bustline and empire waistline- these are ways to give the illusion of a bigger bust. Be proud of what you have!!
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reader, tonik  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 Hey Junkie you need not worry too much about that, boys will always be boys. It doesn't mean your boyfriend dislikes your boobs or anything like that. Believe me when I tell you he loves you the way you are because if he didn't, he would have gone to women with bigger boobs in the first place. Plus come on! You know women with huge boobs always have back problems. Chill young lady it seems you need to build up your self-confidence. Hope you will be well. Accept the way God wanted you to look like. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Before i read what the other people have said. I want to hug you. I'm SO glad that theres someone else out there who feels like i do. I'm a 34 A as well and 20. I come from a family of very large breasted woman, but I was pre-mature and I don't think I got that aspect lol. I always get the - your great how you are. IT doesn't really help and if nothing else works, at least know your not the only one out there and i'm sure there is a good few more. I had to go through a horrible time with it when my boyfriend took lifedrawing classes with this gorgeous big breasted model who stood infront of him for 4 hours in various positions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): from a male prespective,conterary to popular believe, the size of a female's bosom is never an issue. I personally prefer the small ones.to me and I think to many other males the most important physical aspect in a female is her facial looks. If she is ok there then that is it. she is a winner even if she dresses in rags. so really you needn't be concerned about the size of your bra if your face is pretty. smile please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I bet your boyfriend is about the same age as you, and I have to tell you that boys of that age tend to be rather immature and do not appreciate the finer things in life, like a pert pair of titties.
To my mind, 34A is a very nice size indeed. You don't need to wear a bra for a start, you can run for a bus without knocking yourself senseless and there are few things that look sexier than a pair of nips poking out in front of a woman's T shirt.
Any woman with huge boobs will probably tell you that they're nothing but a nuisance that give you a bad back. You'll also find that generally, women with huge boobs also have huge arses.
If your boyfriend can't see that his behaviour is upsetting you maybe it's time you let him go - so that he can concentrate fully on his obsession and you can find a man who appreciates those finer things that you alone have to offer.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (10 September 2009):
 You shouldn't be so self-conscious about your body. To me its not a woman's bra size, its who I see inside.
Everyone is different. But the first thing you should always do is be confident in yourself.
Now as far as your boyfriend is concerned he's just acting immature. Basically there's a pig mentality there. If this is affecting you as much as what you're saying, try and sit down with him and tell him that when he talks that way around you, he's hurting you.
Personally if a girl's motivated by vanity to go out and get a boob-job, then absent fixing some sort of deformity, its a sign of insecurity.
As far as the movies and strip clubs and such, if a girl's got to abuse her body that way then she's the real loser not you.
It seems that you're upset not with the porn itself, but what kind of girls are portrayed in it. You know that you can find amateur porn out there that's realistic. There's plenty of that if you're looking to satisfy his porn appetite and at the same time portray a more realistic view of the sex world to him.
Frankly though, if he's not paying attention to you, then he's missing the best part of what he has right there in front of him.
It seems to me that he's very fortunate to have a girlfriend who cares about him. So if he focused more of his attention on you as the girl he loves, then maybe he wouldn't be out there trying to look at eye candy so much. Its his loss too.
For some of us men out here in the real world, being loved and cared for by a warm and loving woman is the best a guy can hope for regardless of her bra size. Porn is a poor substitute for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): girl, your size is fine! if your bf says you have the perfect boobs, then don't change ;) sure us girls want nice big boobs but most of them have back problems so they get a reduction. just because he talks about big boobs around his guyfriends it doesn't mean he wants that for YOU. he's your bf right? he loves you the way you are :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009):
You are wishing for a counterfactual- which is a waste of time and energy on your part.
Men like big, bouncy boobs. Thats is the way it is and the way is always will be.
That doesnt mean that they *dislike* you because they like something else as well. Couldnt a person who loves Bethoveen also appreciate Mozart?
Nor does it mean the boyfriend is going dump you because he likes one aspect of another person better than he likes yours. Would you throw over your bf for any and every millionaire in the world?
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