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writes: I just turned 15 in February my boyfriend just turned 14 in may well im a virgin and we have been going for three weeks now. He says he wants to eat me out but the thing is I dont really want him to should I let him do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): No if you don't want him to then don't feel pressured to, if he keeps telling you he want's to just say if he really cares he wouldn't keep trying to let him do something you don't want him to do, once you feel ready and feel like YOU want to do more then do it but not so early & not when you don't want to xx
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (29 May 2011):
There are numerous reasons why this is wrong: firstly, you are 14 and 15 (I'm not being judgmental as I'm 15 myself), most people this age are not mentally mature enough to go through with this, they do it because they feel the pressure of other people saying they've done these things. Secondly, you've been together for three weeks, you haven't had time to bond, to develop trust, to really get to know each other. Thirdly, in my opinion if he really respected you he wouldn't even have considered asking this after this short time. I admire the fact that are you are strong in your decision, there are too many girls that just give in to their boyfriends for fear of losing them, stand your ground and don't be afraid to tell him no. Even if he was to break up with you because you said no, it wouldn't really matter, he evidently wouldn't be worth it because someone who doesn't respect his girlfriends decisions is not a good boyfriend. I hope this helps you, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): No. Don't do anything you don't feel ready for. If it's only been a few weeks wouldn't it be better to get to know each other, talking and going places, before going into the deep end?
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reader, tonik  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 NO! Did you say you are only "15" and he's "14", you guys are way too young to be doing things like this! You're both not ready! You already answered yourself "You dont want him to do that" keep it that way girl.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 No. If you don't want to, then don't. Don't let him pressure you into anything either. If he becomes pushy, ask him whether he's just with you for sex, or if he actually likes you.
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reader, Magic_3  +, writes (29 May 2011):
Don't do it. If you let him do that he'll just want to do more. And you'll end up regretting it, I can almost promise you that. If you aren't comfortable with it tell him no. Good luck!:)
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (29 May 2011):
Dude..3 weeks? That's not long enough..and 14 and 15?! Way too young..you said It yourself.. You don't want to do it soooooo don't.
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reader, EccentricOrbit +, writes (29 May 2011):
 The most important part of this question was this:"I dont really want him to..."That should be the answer to your problem, sweetheart. If you have any doubts or you're not 100 per cent comfortable, there is no way you can proceed and do this.If he pressures you into something then the relationship isn't worth having, truth be told. You've been dating three weeks and you're both very young.Wait until you're ready and don't you ever think you should do something just because your boyfriend wants you to. A relationship needs mutual respect and understanding and it needs to be comfortable regarding issues like this. You're obviously not comfortable with this, so I'd advise you not to.All the best :)
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reader, muso888 +, writes (29 May 2011):
No. Unless you actually want him to do it, it will seem really really ridiculous once its happening. Don't do anything you don't want to do! Thats the secret to good relationships and good sex :)
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reader, kylieekristina +, writes (29 May 2011):
 No No No No No, oh and did I say you should say NO?? lolThe reason for my answer is only because you already answered your own question, you don't want him to! There will come a time where you will get curious and want to try something sexual with someone you are comfortable with. I have never enjoyed anything I was "talked into" when it comes to sexually. I only enjoyed it once I was ready to. And it's only been a short while. Either he will know you are worth waiting for, no matter how long it takes, or he's not worth your time. Also, just in case you don't know you can catch STD's from oral sex. Look it up on the internet, look up pictures of herpes, and genital warts....if and when you do deciede to do anything sexually make sure its done safe and with someone you trust and love and that trusts and loves you. You have plenty of time for all of that sweetheart. Have fun with your girlfriends, sports, your studies, shopping etc. Sex will come soon enough and hopefully when your in love.
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