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writes:im 16, my girlfriend is also 16, she is 7 months older than me. i was at her house today in the garage and her dad walked in on us going at it and our pants had just pulled up before he could see anything and said to his daughter, "what are you doing?!" and she said, "nothing...." , i was scared and didnt know what to do. he looked at her and said, "take your ass upstairs" , then he looked at me and said, "you need to go home, right now." i dont drive, i walked around the block and called for a ride. he took her phone so i have no communication with her at the moment until she gets ahold of a phone and calls me. what should i do to make this right? we both love eachother. Reply to this Question
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (2 August 2012):
 I wouldn't even worry about talking to her right now, you need to have respect for her parents by giving them distance and time to cool off, your both 16 years old and you had sex under her parents roof. if you make a mature decision by having sex then you need to make a mature decision by being a mature young adult in this situation and accept that her father could have done worse when he caught both of you and not being respectful at this point to her parents will lead to a miserable relationship with your girlfriend
when everything is cooled off and she gets into contact with you the first thing you want to do is go over there face to face and apologise. keep it short and sweet because if you get into details it will just make the feelings of anger flood right back into him
and hopefully you learned from your mistake by having sex in HIS house and not do it again, also remember that if your going to be having sex at this age you both need to be using protection because it would be ten times worse if you were to get her pregnant!
so be careful in the future and time will heal
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reader, tonik  +, writes (2 August 2012):
 You are too young for that, however the best you can do is to apologise to him in a form of a Text-based method, an SMS for an example. Don't try to explain a lot, just say you are sorry and it won't happen again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 August 2012):
 Your love for each other is irrelevant at this point. What's the age of conscent in your state? 18? If so then get your hands out of each others pants before someone denies you access to see each other. There's nothing you can do to make it "right", you just got to stop doing things that are "wrong".
Give it some time, and then be more careful about where you place your hands in the future, and don't pull down anyones pants until you are of age and preferably livig on your own.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (2 August 2012):
Hi there. There's probably very little you can do, except to apologise to her father - sincerely.
And promise to him, that it will never happen again.
What went wrong, was that you got caught!
So you can't undo what's already happened - it's history now.
You will just have to be a lot more aware of your surroundings, and to realize that at any time, someone could come in and then you're sprung - in a very awkward situation.
So from now on, be very mindful of where you decide to make out, so there is very little or NO chance of being caught in the act.
Then you will never have another problem.
It's all about "awareness."
And another thing to keep in mind, is to make sure that you are using some kind of birth control - condoms, or her being on some kind of contraceptive.
The last thing you want to happen now, is for your girlfriend to find herself pregnant!
You both still have a few more years of education left, so you don't want to spoil all that by her falling pregnant.
So please, be very careful about that, just to make sure.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (2 August 2012):
Her dad is angry and upset. Yes, everyone knows that teenagers have sex, probably too young and too soon but they do. That doesn’t mean he actually wants to see his little girl in that position. You should have a little sympathy for him, it’s a hard thing being a parent because, essentially, you have to learn to let go of some-one you’ve cared for and been solely responsible for for so many years. The decent thing to do would be to visit the house, ask to speak with her father and tell him that you’re sorry that he saw what he did, but tell him how much you care for his daughter and how much she means to you. He might react angrily at first but he’ll respect you for doing it, and if he does insist that there must be no sex under his roof you’ve got to respect that. If you’re apprehensive take some-one with you, your own father perhaps? Some-one who can give you a bit of backup because it is a hard thing to do. And that’s why her dad will appreciate it, and even if he doesn’t, you can hold your head high.
I wish you all the very best.
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